July 28, 2019 Should You Quit a Team Just Because Someone is Picking on You? Hey Brandon! I’m on the soccer team at school and there’s this jerk that’s always picking on me. He’s poured Gatorade into my cleats and tripped me during our games. I could almost understand his behavior if he were on the opposing team. But, get this…HE’S MY TEAMMATE! I’ve even lost 3 soccer balls thanks to this hater “accidently” kicking my ball over the fence and into the woods. Since he’s giving me such a hard time, should I leave the team? I no longer enjoy the game because of this guy! Soccer Stinks! Dear Soccer Stinks! Wow, soccer really does stink, if you have to put up with treatment like that! I’m sorry to hear it!! But does SOCCER really stink? I’m guessing it’s not the game. It’s just this one guy, right? When you imagine hitting the field without this guy on the team, do you start grinning and dribbling an imaginary ball? One person shouldn’t have the power to make you miserable doing something you’ve always loved. From the sound of it, this goes way beyond “picking on you.” Maybe one ball over the fence could be an accident, but three? No way. And aside from the balls, this guy is damaging your property—from what I understand, soccer cleats aren’t cheap. But the thing that worries me the most? You could break an ankle or something if he keeps on tripping you during games. There’s a reason he’d get a red card if a ref saw him do it. Normally, I’d suggest you try to talk to someone who has a problem with you, and see if there’s a way you can work it out. But, honestly! I think you need to take this one to the adults. Maybe a coach or a ref has noticed the on-field antics. But whether they’ve noticed or not, you need to fill someone in on what’s happening on and off the field. Let the adults figure out what’s next. If anyone should leave the team, I think it should be this guy who’s giving you so much trouble. I know you want to be able to solve this yourself and you might worry about being a tattletale. But, what if you end up with broken bones? And if he gets tired of messing with you, that type of guy will probably just move on to messing with someone else. It really sounds to me like he needs help. And you need to get back your love of the game! What do you guys think? When do you deal with a bully yourself and when do you involve an adult?
TheStripedParrot says August 12, 2019 at 11:00 am DON’T QUIT. Cut out the “N’T QU”. What do you get? DO IT. Two important messages!
Dorky Diamond Diva :) says August 16, 2019 at 9:13 pm Hi TheStripedParrot, That’s clever! And yes, those are really important messages. Forever and always, Dorky Diamond Diva xxx <3
flowers says August 12, 2019 at 12:55 am dont give up m’dude!! keep at it!! it’ll all be okay! that bad person needs serious help.
Dorkylover1 says August 11, 2019 at 7:06 pm I’ve never been picked on because at my school LFCS we don’t allow bullying. If you see anyone getting picked on or bullyed we have to report them to a teacher and then the teachers will tell the staff and on and on till it gets to the parents of the kid whos bullying the other kid. Trust actually I’ve been cyberbullyed it DID NOT feel good at ALL! TRUST ME I KNOW!
CreamCloud says August 11, 2019 at 5:10 pm Don’t worry about what he says! If you’re good at something, then it doesn’t matter. Even if you’re not good, you can get better! Sorry for the cheesiest advice on this website. ~CreamCloud
Love the outdoors says August 11, 2019 at 12:15 pm I think you should talk to that teammate. It maybe that he is jealous of you because you are the best player in that team. Or he feels like he doesn’t fit in. Talk to him. If it doesn’t work, talk to your teammates about this. Do which is comfortable for you. Talk to your teammates or the boy who is picking on you. Don’t tell an adult if you don’t feel comfortable about it. And, quitting the team is not the answer. PS: don’t come to conclusions or don’t try to guess why he is picking on you. Your friend, Love the outdoors
OOOF says August 10, 2019 at 7:39 pm then the bully is a mean female or male. tell anyone except parents they don’t understand their children [LOL] tell the teacher! tell your friends to defend you! sincerely, OOOF.
BullyingSucks says August 10, 2019 at 5:54 pm That really does suck, what I would do is I would tell him to stop if he wont try to talk to his parents and if they don’t do anything or if he STILL wont stop to the ref or the coach or your parents…Just remember, quitting will make him think he won the “war” DONT LET THE BULLY WIN ;D
Anonymous says August 10, 2019 at 4:30 pm You should tell your coach about this.Maybe he will do something about it.But if this bully keeps on making fun of you,try talking to your parents,teacher or principal .
Spicy gives advice now says August 10, 2019 at 12:10 pm When the bully is like this then tell an adult def What he’s doing is not okay and needs to be dealt with. So please tell an adult. Btw guys I give advice now soo please ask me for some
Go daisy! says August 10, 2019 at 8:41 am Hi! Its Go daisy! <3 There's a problem at my schools clubs, and I need some advice. The problem is that there's many many clubs there, including ones I'd like to join, Cheer and Art. But I can only join one! And i love both! Which should I join? (I didn't ask Nikki or Brandon because I've tried to ask them many times and they didn't answer. And it wasn't the same question. I also think the opinion of a kid, not a teen, would be more useful)
SecretlyShe ra says August 16, 2019 at 5:40 pm Hi go daisy, this is a tough one!I’ve dealt with this before,to many activites can be stressfull!That’s probably why your parents don’t want you doing both.I’m a kid,so I would like to share some advice: -Try out for cheer,and if you don’t get in,do art:If you try out and don’t get it,it stinks,belive me,but you can go into art club!Or,you could do cheer,and when it’s over,you can join art. -Talk about doing a carpool:Ask your parents if there was anyway they could organize a carpool so that if they couldn’t take you,someone else could take you.If any of your freinds are doing cheer or art,ask them if their parents would be willing to join.Of course,this only works if it’s a diffrent day or diffrent time,because then they might not be able to pick you up. -Make bags of what you would need for both activites:This one is a tip that you’ll need to use,cause it’s easy to forget stuff.For cheerleading,you would need pom poms,cheer uniform,etc.And for art,you might need a sketchpad,pencils,or any other supplies.Separate them into diffent bags,and you’ll be all set! Now,look.your parents just don’t want you oversceduling/getting to busy/grades slipping/no free time. So,really think about which one you would like to do.If you really want to try out for cheer,that’s only in the fall,so you can join art if you don’t make it or if the season’s over. Just make sure you’re having enough free time and sleep.And remember:I’ve been there,and so have other readers! Hope this helps! Always DORK-i-fy yourself! -SecretlyShe ra Anyybody,need advice?!Just ask!
Dorky Diamond Diva :) says August 16, 2019 at 9:36 pm Hi Go Daisy!, Oh boy, I can understand how you feel. Two clubs, both that you love, and you can only choose one. I’m assuming it’s your parents who want you to do one activity. If that is the case, overscheduling could be one possibility. Parents tend to worry about many clubs/subjects making their kids’ schedules too full. Maybe they’d prefer you to choose one activity over the other so you have time to play, enjoy time with friends, and have fun. Another possibility is school and other responsibilities. Maybe they feel that two activities might be too many and may affect your grades. Or, they don’t want you to neglect your chores. Maybe it’s just the fact that you have a big schedule and you can’t seem to fit two clubs into there. Whatever the purpose is, I have some tips to choosing the best club to join. ~ Think of the one that would most benefit you. Which one do you think you’ve wanted to do for the longest time? Which one do you think you could learn more from? Or, which one can you fit into your schedule? ~ Consider your friends. Will more of your friends be doing cheer than art? If you like spending time with friends, then consider picking the club that they might be joining. (Of course, even if your friends are doing a different club than the one you had in mind, you can choose the one you like best). ~ Identify how fun each club would be. I know you said you liked both equally, but think about which club you think would have more fun with and would be easier for you to handle. ~ Think about which one lasts longer (or if they will have it often). If art is one that they might stop doing soon, you may want to try that. Or, if cheer sounds like it would be a better chance, go for it! Again, this is just my personal opinion. I encourage you to go with your first instinct! Go for whatever club would better suit you. Make sure to make the best of it. Forever and always, Dorky Diamond Diva xxx <3
dorkestgirl_9002 says August 8, 2019 at 10:57 pm I never really been through bullying but you should stand up for yourself! Or if he is making you uncomfortable tell a adult right away! Bully is not ok. Good luck! dorkestgirl9002
###Popsie cola!!!! says August 7, 2019 at 11:42 am Don’t quit!!! I play a game like net ball and this boy always picks on me and tells me, that I’m useless!!! Get i scored more goals then him this season… Funny huh?!?!
Dfhjjbkkkjn says August 4, 2019 at 6:31 pm Dude you should listen to Brandon and tell the coach or trusted adult but if he physically hurts you you should protect yourself or fight back to protect your body Bullying IS NEVER OKAY
Outdoorsy says August 4, 2019 at 5:37 am Well, I don’t think there is a right or wrong way of knowing when to tell an adult. If you feel like it’s serious and you should tell an adult-tell an adult! If you feel you shouldn’t yet, don’t. And if you see something that you think you should tell an adult-tell an adult. Basically, stand up for yourself and others. If someone picks on me just one time, even if I don’t think I should involve an adult-yet anyway-I tell them I’m not someone they’re going to find easy to annoy. They’re not getting a reaction from me. It’s what they want-a reaction, so, don’t give them one. But, if that picking becomes bullying, I tell an adult. Basically, follow your instinct. And don’t let others destroy your fun for their own fun. I hope this helps! Your friend, Outdoorsy
Smilez says August 10, 2019 at 2:58 pm That’s very good advice, Outdoorsy! #smilebrighter S M I L E Z
ruby shoes 23 says August 6, 2019 at 4:37 pm hey you!!! never quit!!its the bully who whould quit!!! not the boy!
Smilez says September 1, 2019 at 12:44 pm I respectfully disagree. I don’t think he should quit what he loves.
Dorky Adviser says August 3, 2019 at 1:08 am No matter what this guy does to, you shouldn’t let him make you miserable doing what you love! You need tell an adult immediately. I got bullied once but when I told an adult it stopped. The quicker you tell an adult the better!
Smilez says August 2, 2019 at 11:02 am Hi! Definitely keep going! He can’t make you stop! Xoxo, Smilez!
Bhaddie says August 1, 2019 at 9:14 pm He is rude, soccer stinks, tell him to back off and leave u alone!!!!!!
Smilez says August 1, 2019 at 10:41 am Hey everyone! If u guys need advice im here to help!! I will reply as soon as i can! xoxo #smilebrighter S M I L E Z
Texting Nightmare says August 3, 2019 at 11:47 pm My friend texts me non-stop! I’ve told her nicely to please not text me every 10 minutes! I’ve even come down to thinking I should block! But once when I did she lied to my mom saying I sent threatening messages. She’s even maxed out most of my space. I know you might be thinking “Over-reacting much?” But it’s true, it’s not like twice a day, it’s like 80 times a day! No joke! Please help with this.
Smilez says August 10, 2019 at 8:48 am Hey Texting Nighmare, I think you should ask her, “what if I was texting you nonstop?” If she still doesn’t understand I suggest you tell her nicely “I’m sorry but I’m going to block your number because I do not like it when you text nonstop, it’s annoying.” And then block her. Tell your mom that she is lying about you texting threatening messages and show her your text messages to prove it. Also, tell your mom about her texting nonstop, she might have other advice, Hope this helps #smilebrighter S M I L E Z
Smilez says August 10, 2019 at 3:02 pm Oh and also, Texting Nightmare, tell her she is maxing up all of your space. xoxo, S M I L E Z
Don't Stare At Me says August 11, 2019 at 4:10 pm Hey, Smilez! There is a boy in my class who recently asked me out and I said no. My friends and I have also noticed he stares at me. We have tried to tell him to stop but, he hasn’t. Now, my teacher assigned a new seating plan and I sit at the end of a row, next to him! What do I do?
Smilez says August 16, 2019 at 6:56 pm Hey, Don’t Stare At Me. That must be annoying. First of all, do you really think him staring at you will effect you at all? If it is really uncomfortable, I suggest you should ask him to stop again kindly, and if he still stares at you, tell the teacher. He/she will help. If you think it wouldn’t effect you, you should just ignore him, if he still stares at you and you just can’t take it, tell the teacher. Hope this helps! #smilebrighter S M I L E Z