Advice Column Dec. 19

Today’s advice question came in anonymously. It reads:

My question is what do you do when you feel like everyone in the world hates you except your friend, and you feel lonely and sad?

My Advice:

Hi there, my new anonymous friend! I got SO sad just reading your question. It really bums me out that you feel this way.

I’m just glad you have that friend who you know is there for you, because everyone needs someone who they can trust!

Since there’s a ton I don’t know about you, it’s kind of hard to give you advice, but if I could help even a little, that would be awesome…so I’m going to do my best!

First, I think you need to figure out why you think everyone hates you. Is it because your parents aren’t really there for you? Is it because you don’t have a lot of friends other than that one? Is it because you’re being bullied in school?

Whatever it is, THAT’S the real problem. It’s not that everyone hates you. It’s that you’re dealing with something that makes you THINK they do. And there’s a big difference between those two things!

You’ll probably need to talk this through with someone to really figure this stuff out. Is there a relative you trust? Or a teacher at school? Or maybe even that friend you mentioned?

You might feel embarrassed to talk about it, but I’m going to let you in on a little secret: a TON of people feel this way!!

I Googled “everyone hates me” and got over 250,000 results!

(Really, they should ALL read Ask Nikki, but back to my point…)

If you open up to someone else, it will help with the second problem: that you feel lonely and sad.

I remember one time when I was playing softball in gym class. I could have gotten the winning home run…but I ran around all the bases and forgot to touch home plate.

I thought EVERYONE hated me after that, and I cried so much that I thought my eyeballs might dry up!

I told my friend Marcy and she said, “The same thing happened to me last year…and I could NEVER hate you!”

Then she came over after school every day that week so I wouldn’t feel so sad.

I don’t know if you’re dealing with something WAY more dramatic than this, but the point is you’ll probably feel a lot better when you let someone else in!

I hope this helps a little. And just so you know, even though I don’t know you that well, I like you. :)

What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for our new anonymous friend?