July 14, 2012 CRUSH HAS BEEN FLIRTING WITH BFF This question comes from Eden. She writes: I have a major crush on this guy, and I thought he liked me too, but lately he’s been talking more to my BFF. She doesn’t like him, but I think he likes her. They’re always talking and laughing! And they had art together. Now we’re on summer vacation, and I’m really depressed—mostly because he wrote a SUPER heartfelt message in her yearbook and barely anything in mine. What do I do? My advice: Oh man that’s a tough situation Eden! I know it would make me totally bummed if Brandon started getting super close to Chloe or Zoey and it seemed like he was crushing one of them. I know you said he wrote something heartfelt to her, and didn’t write anything really thoughtful in YOUR yearbook, but it’s possible he thinks of her as a really good friend, and just hasn’t gotten a chance to know as well, since you didn’t have art together. If it’s really stressing you out, maybe you should talk to your friend about it. I know you said she doesn’t like him, but you could talk to her just to be sure…because I bet it would hurt even more if all of a sudden she was totally into him, and you never saw it coming! You could ask if her if she feels like he was flirting with her, and what she thinks about it. Hopefully she’ll be all like, “I’d NEVER go for him! I know you have a huge crush on him!” But she MIGHT say something like, “I never really thought of him that way, but he was super sweet in art!” That would TOTALLY stink, but hey, it’s better to know, if that’s what’s up, so this doesn’t end up ruining your friendship down the line! From there, I say get in touch with your crush! You could send him a Facebook or a Skype message just to say hi. OK, so I know this part isn’t all that easy, since it’s the summer and everything, and you may feel kind of nervous and awkward after what happened with your yearbook. But you never know unless you try. If you start chatting and getting to know each other better, maybe he’ll write something super heartfelt to you someday!! If you don’t feel up for that, there is another option: Focus on your friends and have an awesome boy-free summer! It will go by super fast, and when school starts again you’ll want to have all kinds of fun memories. So make sure no matter what you don’t let this get you down for too long! That’s my advice…do you guys have any advice for Eden??