August 4, 2012 WHAT TO DO WHEN A FRIEND LIES? This question comes from Natalia. She writes: What if your friend lied to you? What would you do? My advice: Hi Natalia! I’m sorry to hear your friend lied to you. That totally stinks 🙁 It’s kind of tough because I don’t know all the details, but I’m going to tell you what I’D do if Chloe or Zoey lied to me. First I’d consider WHAT she lied about. I mean, if she lied about something embarrassing (like, “Of course it wasn’t ME who farted in math!”) then I’d probably understand! And I’d also understand if it were something personal. Like, let’s say she’s dealing with some crazy family drama, and she just doesn’t feel like talking about it. I’d HOPE my friends would know they could tell me anything…and that they wouldn’t lie about something just to avoid talking about it…but, I mean, everyone makes mistakes! If Chloe or Zoey lied about something like that, I’d give them the benefit of the doubt and assume they felt awkward about telling me the truth, but now feel REALLY, REALLY bad about lying! But let’s say it’s something else that kind of hurt my feelings. Like maybe I found out that one of them said something mean about me behind my back to look cool, or they flirted with Brandon and pretended nothing happened. Well, I’d actually be kind of shocked if either of those two things happened. That’s just not like them! But hey, you never know! If it were something like that, I’d HAVE to say something. I mean, you have to be able to trust your friends! So if a friend does something that really breaks your trust, sometimes it’s best to just get it all out. I’d say something like, “I know you would never hurt my feelings on purpose. But I heard about (WHATEVER) and I need to hear the truth from you. Did you lie to me? And why?” This way you give her a chance to explain herself. Maybe she lied, but it’s not actually as bad as you think. Or maybe she didn’t actually lie at all. You just got to get it all on the table! I hope this girl’s actually an awesome friend and this was just a misunderstanding…or, if she made a big mistake, she says she’s sorry and you guys can make up! But if she lies all the time, she might not be that great of a friend. For example, MacKenzie lies ALL the time! No-good, two-faced, lying CCP=not a good person to hang with. Honest, kind, fun girl who makes an occasional mistake=awesome friend material. So that’s my advice. What do you guys thing? What would YOU do if a friend lied to you?