August 11, 2012 WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR FRIEND’S ALWAYS MEAN? This Ask Nikki question comes from Rosa. She asks: I have a friend. I don’t know what to do about her because she’s kind of mean. She’s always yelling at me and never lets me talk. She just talks about herself and doesn’t let me talk. The next day when I tell her I don’t want to be her friend anymore, she’s nice to me. I don’t know what to do! What’s your opinion? My advice: Hey Rosa! That totally stinks that your friend’s being like that. It kind of makes her sound like she isn’t a good friend. I mean, if she does this ALL the time, it’s kind of a big deal! Now I’m not saying that friends never mess up. Everyone makes mistakes. Like this one time I accidentally butt dialed Zoey…you know, when you sit on your cell phone and call someone by accident. She got a LONG voicemail of me whining to my mom about not wanting to do the dishes. Innocent mistake!! Or the time I said that yellow tank tops are WAY too bright and kind of ugly…when Chloe had one on under her T-shirt. Oops! Those types of things are just honest little mistakes…like, I would never PURPOSELY hurt either of their feelings or be insulting toward them, and they wouldn’t do that to me either. It’s just not what you do to your good friends! Unless you’re MacKenzie…one time she actually called Jessica a pig in lunch because she had a lot of food on her tray. And she WASN’T kidding! OMG it was SO mean! If your friend’s mean to you, and then she acts all nice when you try to stop being friends, it’s clear she’s not really taking what you say seriously. If she really cared, she’d try to change…and not just for a day! And she’d definitely let you talk about yourself sometimes. It can’t be all about her! If I were you, I’d start spending time with other friends. Maybe it would be good if you didn’t make a big deal of it and tell her you don’t want to be friends anymore. I mean, you’ve tried that it always turns out the same way! Instead, just stop giving her so much of your time, and instead give it to friends who treat you better. If she asks you to hang out again and you want to, just remember the way she is. She might never change…so you have to figure out if you want a friend like that. That’s my advice! What do you guys think? Have any advice for Rosa??