October 6, 2012 STARTING A NEW CLUB WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW ANYONE This question comes from Zoey (not my friend Zoey…a different one!) She writes: What do I do when I’m nervous of going to CCA? CCA is co-curricular activities, and I’ve joined the CCA gardening club. I’m scared of going to the club meeting. What if everyone there is older than me and there is no one my age? What should I do? Tell a friend to join as well? My advice: Hi Zoey! First of all, you have an awesome name! (Zoey told me to tell you that, but I agree :)) I think it’s super cool that your school has a gardening club!! They don’t have that at my school, but I bet it would be a lot of fun to grow your own vegetables and stuff! Regarding your question, it makes total sense that you’re nervous about the club. It’s new to you and you don’t know what to expect. Every time I do something new I FREAK OUT!! You don’t know if you’re going to make friends, or if you’ll like it. You COULD ask a friend to join, if you think that will make you more comfortable. But it might make you less open to meeting new friends. Like, instead of chatting with people you don’t know, you might end up just talking to your friend all the time. Could you start the club on your own and then see how you feel about it? I mean, what’s the worst that could happen? Even if everyone’s older than you, it’s not like they’ll be like, “Let’s make a pact!! NO ONE talk to Zoey because she’s younger than us!!” Even if not everyone is super friendly, I’m sure there will be SOME people who are. It will probably be easier if YOU’RE super friendly. So, you know, don’t just wait for people to talk to you. Go up to them and compliment them. EVERYONE likes being complimented, so you could be like, “Wow that’s an awesome tomato!!” OK, that’s not really a great compliment! You might want to come up with something better than that! 🙂 So that’s my advice: Ask a friend if you really want to, but maybe you could give it a chance first and see how you feel about it. What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Zoey?