February 2, 2013 WHEN YOUR FRIEND’S PARENTS ARE FIGHTING WITH YOURS This message comes from Melissa. She writes: A while back, my best friend’s parents and my parents had a big fight. They don’t even talk anymore. They used to be practically glued together, and their two daughters and I were, too—now, though, I think they hate me! The fight wasn’t my fault! I don’t want this to ruin the great friendship we had, and my parents don’t help when they say, “Don’t worry. They’ll forget about this.” They won’t! What should I do? My advice: Hi Melissa! This sounds like a super complex situation since it involves two sets of parents fighting. It’s like you’re caught in the middle of all this adult drama, even though you didn’t do anything! I know you said your parents aren’t being much help, but there’s ONE good thing about their advice: it means their fight wasn’t SUPER serious. I mean, think about it…if they knew they were NEVER going to talk to your friends’ parents again, they probably wouldn’t say, “They’ll forget about this!” They’d say something FAR more lame and annoying like, “Don’t worry…you’ll make new friends,” as if your friends are lost hair clips you can easily replace at the mall! I know you said it seems like your friends hate you, but maybe they just feel totally awkward about everything. Who knows what their parents are telling them! Adults might like to PRETEND they’re SO MUCH more mature than we are, but sometimes they’re not so rational when they fight with each other! I bet once their parents cool down, they’ll come around too. In the meantime, maybe you could call or email them, and tell them exactly what you told me…that you miss hanging out with them and you hope you’re still friends. Maybe they’ll be super relieved to hear from you! What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Melissa?