July 24, 2014 WHEN YOU’RE LEAVING YOUR FRIENDS TO GO TO A NEW SCHOOL Today’s question comes from Tori, who writes: I’m going into high school next year, and my four closest friends are going to a different school. I’ve mentioned this problem to two of them, and they say, “We’ll be fine. It’s not like we won’t see each other anymore. We’ll still be friends, it just won’t be the same.” My one closest friend has told me that I can text her every day, but I don’t like the feeling of change, especially between my friends and me. What do you think I should do? I really love my friends, and I couldn’t imagine life without them. My Advice: Hi Tori! As someone who left A LOT of friends when my Dad decided that the bugs at WCD were more important than my social life, I totally feel your pain! It’s a really scary feeling to leave the people who know you best. When you have super close friends, it’s like they’re a part of you. That means when you have to leave them, it’s like someone’s saying, “Okay, so you can’t take your arms or legs with you, but don’t worry! You have a REALLY strong torso, and you’ll be just fine!” The good news is that, unlike arms and legs, good friends are still pretty great to have even when you’re not attached to them! I know sending a daily text message probably feels like a lame substitute for meeting up in the janitor’s closet to dish about the daily drama. (Or is that just me who does that??) And I’m not going to lie to you…it totally stinks at first! You’ll probably feel super sad for a bit, but then you’ll adjust. You’ll get used to typing LOL when you used to literally laugh out loud right in front of them. And maybe texts will be even more exciting because you aren’t seeing them 24/7. Also, you’ll start making some new friends at your new high school, and your friends will make new friends. And then you’ll tell each other all about the new people you’re meeting. And you know they’ll all be awesome people, since YOU’RE all awesome people. And maybe you’ll even hang out together outside of school, a big group of awesome people! I know that, even if an awesomeness convention sounds pretty cool, you’d probably prefer that things just stay the same. But think about it this way: if things never changed, you’d still be playing with “Hide and Seek” with your kindergarten BFF. Things have gotten a lot more fun since then, right? And back then you would never have imagined how much better things could be. So, try to keep an open mind, and remember that your friendships aren’t over, even if this chapter is ending. The good times aren’t over, either. As Zoey likes to say, quoting both some old philosophy dude and a song from the nineties, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Tori?
adorkable1160 says October 25, 2014 at 5:54 pm This year the same thing happened to me. I had to move to a different school and I have two BFF’s from my old school that I miss ALOT!!!! But, we still text on the phone and stuff and you can always hang out. I made a lot of new friends and you will probably too. My mom always says you have friends from your old school and friends from your new school! And now you can hang out with your new friends too!! I hope you are having fun at your new school. ~adorkable1160
Charlotte says October 25, 2014 at 4:11 pm Hey Tori, I have the same problem too. I may never see them again, but what I would do, is to try and be calm and make friends who have a lot in common with you if you talk to them; they might be nice to you!!! 😉
yesko love dork diary says October 25, 2014 at 2:01 am =) I had to leave my old school too, and I had a lot of friends, so here is my advice: 1. always remember them 2. if u have their phone number you can ring them and ask to come over 3. write about them in your diary 4. write a letter to them whenever you miss them
Maria says October 23, 2014 at 10:35 pm Dear Nikki, I used to go to public school and I’ve been public schooled ever since I was in preschool. My BFF, Emily, and I were friends in Kindergarten and in 1st grade and she had to leave. In 2nd grade and I was so sad and in 3rd I had so many friends and the best one was my friend Marlen. And, in 4th grade I had a lot of friends and in the other grades. But, now that I’m in 5th grade, I’m home-schooled and I left all of my friends and my best friend Jazmine. I started crying on the last day of school cause she had to go to a different city and I had to stay. I really hope this year goes really well and I will have a lot of new friends like I did last year. But, I will just wait patiently to see how things go. XoXo, Maria 🙂
Queen Ham says October 23, 2014 at 9:11 pm Dear Tori, Next year I have to move too. I have 9 and MORE best friends I have to leave. ESPECIALLY A CRUSH! It’s obvious that you can do NOTHING to change you have nothing to do except crying your eyes out and you can’t convince your parents to stay. Just grab ALL your friends’ phone numbers’ and addresses! And just stay strong and maybe you can just find new friends next year! -Queen Ham xoxoxo
Anysssa barragan says October 23, 2014 at 1:16 am I am moving some where close to A beach but i really don’t want to leave them. i will really miss them also i love your books
artist says October 22, 2014 at 12:36 am Hey Tori I understand your problem as I have the same problem
I ❤dorkdires says October 21, 2014 at 10:33 pm I would try to make new friends and always remember them