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September 27, 2014

CAN A GUY BE BEST FRIENDS WITH A GIRL?

Dude,

I’ve known my three best buddies since kindergarten. The problem is that two of them are girls, so whenever we’re all together classmates tease us by saying we like each other!

The truth is that we’re all just really good friends. Now, I don’t want to hang out with my girl buddies anymore and they don’t understand. They think I’m being silly but actually I’m starting to think that guys really can’t have girls as friends!

Help!

Desperate Dorky Dude

Hey there,

It sounds like these classmates really got to you. Friends that you’ve known since kindergarten are usually the best kind.

Since you’ve known each other for so long, you feel totally comfortable being yourself around them, and you know everything about each other. And I don’t mean just if they like pepperoni or cheese, or rap or pop music.

You know what makes them so happy that they shout “Squeeeeee” (as someone I know likes to say).

You know what they dream about being when they grow up.

You even know the stories they wouldn’t tell anyone else, like the time in first grade when they accidentally called their teacher “Mom,” or the time in third grade when they gave some old guy a hug at the zoo and realized it wasn’t their grandfather.

The only things I have from kindergarten are a ratty blanket my grandmother won’t throw away and my lucky first-day-of-school socks. (I still carry them in my backpack every first day. If I had friends from kindergarten, they’d know this!)

You’re pretty lucky to have all three of those buddies.

The way I see it, it’s only a problem that some of your friends are girls if it’s a problem for you that some kids will be weird about it.

So really, you have to ask yourself what’s worse: a few classmates thinking you have a crush on girls who are obviously pretty cool (which is why you’ve been friends for so long), or losing those cool girls from your life forever?

That might happen if you ditch them. It might hurt their feelings, and they might not be understanding if you change your mind later and want to start hanging out with them again.

I know it’s annoying to be teased, but one thing I’ve learned is that kids always find a reason to tease each other.
So, even if you tell your girl friends to take a hike, someone will tell you that you throw like a girl, or call you “meatball” because you like to eat and it shows, or ask if your five-year-old sister gave you that haircut.

If you’re going to be teased anyway, you might as well keep your friends! They’ve been there for a really long time, so odds are they’ll have your back no matter what anyone else says.

I hope this helps!

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  1. Unique :) says

    October 25, 2014 at 2:00 am

    It’s alright bro! I have many guy friends. And guy friends are actually the best kind cause they are more trustworthy than girl friends (Hey, based on my experience!) and I talk to them when I have a problem 😀 So be there for your girl friends! 🙂

  2. Bunnydork24 says

    October 24, 2014 at 6:34 pm

    i made lots of friends last year and this year, and i hung out a lot with them and people thought we liked each other (even my parents) so i can relate to this. just ignore them, that’s what i did and they stopped.

  3. dorky weirdo says

    October 23, 2014 at 5:18 pm

    It doesn’t matter what they say. I think you should just ask them to stop and keep your friends.

  4. habibo7 says

    October 22, 2014 at 11:39 pm

    people always think “oooooooh you like that person!!!” but its not like that! whats wrong with having friends boy or girl it doesn’t matter people can be so immature so it doesnt matter 🙂

  5. BookNerd says

    October 22, 2014 at 11:33 pm

    Stick with your friends…. and I need to say that those classmates are extremely immature. I wonder if the classmates are jealous of your good friendship? Am I right or wrong?

  6. Aubree says

    October 21, 2014 at 7:57 pm

    Totally! I hate how everyone is weird around the other gender. Its very unfair 🙁

  7. Brooklynn says

    October 21, 2014 at 7:27 pm

    Friends are your friends because they’ll be your friend forever!

  8. Brooklynn says

    October 21, 2014 at 7:24 pm

    You should still be their friend even though people are teasing you just be their friend because then you’ll actually have someone who cares about you plus your mom and dad and siblings and like brothers sisters little brother closest they care about you do you need me to carry to say get a bigger family just be their friend is what you should do Right Brandon

  9. OJ Da Cat says

    October 21, 2014 at 6:36 pm

    You can be friends with them, dude! I’m a girl and I hang out with guys ALOT well, not that much, but….

  10. sansrockDD lover says

    October 21, 2014 at 8:10 am

    Be friends dude!!! Who cares what other people think???:)

  11. nikki101 says

    October 21, 2014 at 7:50 am

    duh! what is so wrong about being friends with a girl.just tell them to back off . your life your choice.

  12. Buttercup3388 says

    October 21, 2014 at 7:44 am

    A boy CAN be friends with a girl. If she does what she wants to do, you can keep your friends

  13. nikkanna says

    October 21, 2014 at 7:35 am

    I’m sure a boy and a girl can be best friends with out falling in love. Especially if they know each other for ages.

  14. nikkanna says

    October 21, 2014 at 7:33 am

    Of course a guy and a girl can just be best friends. Especially if they went to kindergarten together.

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