September 11, 2014 WHEN YOUR FRIEND BRAGS 24/7 Today’s advice question comes from Tally, who writes: I have a bestie who’s sweet and friendly, and we’re practically sisters. But there is one BIG problem: she LOVES to brag! She annoys me by giving me constant updates on her life and posting pictures of bargains she got, as if gloating. My other bestie feels annoyed like I do, but my third bestie just compliments my bragging friend, which kind of made the situation worse! Help! My Advice: Hi Tally! I totally get why it would be annoying to have a friend who brags 24/7. Some of us have to beg, whine, and wait for years to get used or outdated Apple products. The last thing we want is a play-by-play of someone else’s non-stop shopping spree. If we wanted that, we’d follow the Kardashians on Twitter! Still, you DID say that this bestie is practically your sister. It could be that she doesn’t see these updates as bragging. Maybe she’s just SUPER excited about all of this stuff, and she wants to share it with someone. Or, maybe she wants to impress you guys, and she doesn’t realize it’s SO not working. The way I see it, you have three choices: You could tell her how it makes you feel when she tells you about all the things you don’t or can’t have. You could give her a not-so-subtle hint to keep her steals and deals to herself, like, “I bought you this shopping diary so you can write ALL about the stuff you buy here…where no one else will see it. Enjoy!” Or, you can decide that, since she’s an awesome friend, you’ll smile and say, “Nice!” when she gives you these updates, knowing that your opinion means a lot to her. I know that might seem tough to do, but she IS your BFF, and it would probably crush her if you said, “I get it…you have a lot of great stuff! Stop bragging!” And it would be even worse if she found out that you and your other friend were talking about her behind her back. Gloating may be tough to deal with, but gossiping is even worse! You don’t need to feed into it, like the friend who compliments her all the time, but maybe by trying to understand where she’s coming from, you’ll feel a lot less fed up. What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Tally?
Dorkster says October 25, 2014 at 10:01 pm Yes, I have a friend who brags all the time and, says she is going to Canada. Then she starts bringing her travel kit to school everyday and show it to the whole class everyday for attention.
kimmy says October 24, 2014 at 4:42 pm Totally know how you feel I have a friend, Lottie, and all she does was brag and brag about her vacations so if your feeling ticked off by her just change the subject in the least obvious subtle way like “hey did you hear Justin Bebier and Selena are back together again” or “OMG Beyonce has a new hair cut totes adorb” see its easy!! What ever you do don’t tell her she braggs learnt that the hard way 🙁
dork diaries lover 123 says October 24, 2014 at 10:46 am My two friends always brag that they are rich and have servants, but they don’t! I told them they should stop bragging beacause no one cares!
sunshyne says October 24, 2014 at 12:20 am This girl in my class bragged to the whole class that she got this spider ring. She said it in a way that made people sad they didn’t have one.
Savannah says October 23, 2014 at 9:22 pm OMG! I have the same relate 🙁 My friend brags on and on about how she makes all the plays and that she always gets the newest suff. I think you should try and talk to her and tell what shes doing wrong, and maybe she’ll change 🙂
Jessica says October 23, 2014 at 9:17 pm My friend brags to MUCH!!!!!! She always talks like she sassy my and my friends laugh when she does. 🙂
Alice Truong says October 23, 2014 at 7:24 pm I do have a friend bragging too like 24/7! And BTW: Braggers to me are really annoying :p
Hailey says October 22, 2014 at 4:00 pm I TOTALLY get your problem. I have the same exact type of friend. She’s always always ALWAYS bragging about her grades. How about asking her politely to stop? I haven’t tried it, but you should! Tell me how it was so I can try it on mine! 🙂
Kaitlyn says October 21, 2014 at 10:06 pm If you really want her as a bff then tell her, if u don’t she’s not a true friend!
Samantha says October 21, 2014 at 8:58 pm I forgot my glasses at home one day and i was afraid to go to school. When I went there, I got so many comments but one stood out. It was, “You look weird!” Now, I am afraid to go to school. And even more afraid to go to school without them. What should I do?
Makayla says October 22, 2014 at 5:15 pm Samantha, I’m not Nikki, but I do have some advise for you. That person might have meant that you look different, not weird. Also, don’t worry about what some people think. I’m sure you look amazing in those new glasses! Good luck!
Queen Ham says October 23, 2014 at 8:27 pm Samantha, I TOTALLY agree with Makayla! I think you should just ignore them if they were being mean to you. I should know. I’m a bullying EXPERT!
Queen Ham says October 23, 2014 at 8:40 pm Dear Samantha, Just ignore the person you said that to you. I can tell you one thing, you are BEAUTIFUL! No matter if you have glasses or not. He is either a person with no heart or (what Makayla said) it’s not that you look weird maybe he was saying you looked ‘different’. Respond to me if you have anything to say! -Queen Ham xoxoxo
Jessica says October 23, 2014 at 9:21 pm MY friend also says she is rich when she is not she also says her stuff is made of real gold when it is NOT!!!!!!
Nikko says October 25, 2014 at 4:06 am Ahh, that must be so annoying for you. But put yourself in the other persons position. If one of your friends broke their arm you’d say that they look diffrent with a cast on or somthing like that. Just don’t be snappy or mean about it.
Bella says October 21, 2014 at 4:59 pm I have a friend that’s the same way, she brags about all her vacations because she goes on at least 20 a year. What my friends and I do is joke and talk about something else, before she can brag. She completely forgets to brag.