December 18, 2014 WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR FRIENDS FORGET YOUR BIRTHDAY Today’s question comes from Avalon, who writes: The other day was my birthday. When I went to school, absolutely no one wished me a happy birthday, which made me feel so sad that I hid in a bathroom stall and cried. What should I do? My Advice: Hi Avalon! First things first: HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I wish it was your ACTUAL birthday, and I was there with all your BFFs so I could be like, “Pssst!!! Girlfriends!! Let’s surprise Avalon with a SUPER special birthday lunch!!” (But since we’d be in school, that would mean us standing around you with jazz hands while you eat mystery meat!) Since I can’t turn back time, and we don’t go to the same school, consider this advice my belated birthday gift! I’m sure it was a huge bummer to feel like NO ONE cared enough to wish you a happy birthday. And I totally get why you got upset and cried. But it’s probably NOT that they don’t care. It’s more likely they all just forgot. I know, that doesn’t make it much better. Your friends are supposed to remember stuff. But maybe they all had a lot on their mind. Maybe one was stressing about a super hard math test, and another was freaking out because she tripped and fell RIGHT INTO her crush, and another was half asleep because she stayed up all night playing Candy Crush. (It’s addictive!) This doesn’t make it okay, but it happens. People make mistakes! I say you give them all a chance to make it right. Talk to them one-on-one and say, “Hey, it was my birthday the other day, and I was kind of sad because NOT ONE of my friends remembered! I’m sure each one will say, “OMG! I’m SO sorry! And happy birthday! How can I make it up to you?” That’s what it means to be a true friend. It’s not about doing everything perfectly. It’s about admitting when you’ve messed up and doing your best to make up for it. If they DON’T respond like this, and instead say something like, “Bummer, hey I got to run, Jessie’s on soon!” then they’re probably not really good friends. I know, it stinks to realize that! But in a way, this is KIND of a gift. It means you get to find out who your REAL friends are. Real friends would NEVER want to hurt your feelings, and they ‘d do anything to make you feel better when you’re down. Odds are, you have more of these kinds of friends than you realize. And THAT’S something to celebrate! What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Avalon?
Jamara says December 25, 2014 at 11:08 am This Christmas my family told me I was getting no gifts. But today I got Orbeez Luxury Spa,Crazloom,and dork diaries tales from a not so glam tv star and tales from a not so happily ever after. Who wanted something I got? What should I get for New Years. Yesterday for Christmas my church gave me a shirt , a lunchbox ,super tip washable markers , cookies ,and candies for gifts but for food I got BBQ meatballs ,BBQ chicken,bread,macaroni salad,and Coca-Cola.
AntonetteZ13 says December 25, 2014 at 10:31 am Hi guys! I’m probably new here but I’m a fan.. Anyways, I’ve sort of encountered something like that, it was when my close friend was so sad because he THOUGHT no one remembered his birthday, but we did remember! It was sort of late when we greeted him coz it would be rude to greet him while our teacher’s talking. We even made him cards! Maybe you’re just forgot but don’t be sad. Sometimes you can forget someone’s birthday, too, right? The advice I can give you is forgive them and don’t let this ruin you’re friendship. I know this can really hurt you and make you mad.. I kind of commented late coz it’s already christmas.. so MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE and BELATED HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU AVALON!
Bailey says December 25, 2014 at 4:17 am Don’t worry everyone forgets things I forgot my cousins birthday last week your bffs probably just had a lot on their minds
)> says December 24, 2014 at 5:28 pm Wow…friends forgetting your birthday? How sad 🙁 , (_) |-| | | | | .| |. |’—‘| |~ ~~| .-@’| ~ |’@-. (@ ‘—‘ @) |’-@..__@__..@-‘| () |~ ~ ~ ~ ~ | () .||’| ~() ~ ~ ()~ |’||. ( || @’-||.__~__.||-‘@ || ) |’-.._ || @ || _..-‘| |~ ~ ”’———”’ ~ | | ~ ~ H A P P Y ~ ~ ~| | ~ B I R T H D A Y ~ ~ | jrei ‘-..____AVALON____..-‘ ”’———”’
/)(OcO)/) |Creme Cake| c(*^*c) says December 24, 2014 at 5:06 pm Happy Belated Birthday Avalon! 🙂 😀 But anyway…here… 😉 ‘“““““✬ ‘✧ `✬ “““““ ♜=♜=♜ “““` ` {_♥_✿_♥_} ‘“` ✩ `✫{=✰=✰==}✫ `✩ ““♖.{♖___♖_♖___♖}.♖ “`{================} “`{✿_❤_❀_♥_✿_♥_❀_❤_✿} “ {=================} “{_✿_❤_❀_♥_✿_♥_❀_❤_✿_}
ElsaTheDork says December 24, 2014 at 5:06 pm Don’t worry, this happens to me nearly every year, but I just laugh it off. My family make sure that I have an awesome day, so why should I feel down? Happy birthday! xx
(^o^)/) {Animated Emoticons} (\(^o^) says December 24, 2014 at 5:00 pm I feel so sorry for you Avalon! 🙁 I never had this kind of problem before. But if I had, I would be sad like what you were. But anyway, HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!! 😀 🙂 😛 (*U*)/) (\(^-^)/) (\(*U*)
ddlover says December 24, 2014 at 12:44 pm DEAR AVALON well I think you are in need of some better BFF’s or it could be a misunderstanding you should tell your friends about your birthday they’ll instantly remember and apologise for forgetting xoxoxoxox – DDlover
superdork!!! says December 24, 2014 at 12:40 pm your friends actually forgot your b day!!! i can’t believe it!!!! i’m so sorry. But Nikki is right. i am sure your bffs didn’t mean to! Definitely follow Nikki’s advice.
Honey Ranking says December 24, 2014 at 11:44 am happy birthday! Don’t worry, follow Nikki’s advice and SMILE!! BE CONFIDENT!! Your bfs are sure to remember!!
spaderdarthvader♥ says December 24, 2014 at 10:20 am i know how his works ; it happens to me all the time.. but it ends up as a surprise my friend didn’t want me to know and it was sweet! try to talk to them at the end of the day though… ☺
Dork it up 629 says December 24, 2014 at 8:18 am Hy yours is better my family forgot my birthday (only for the first 2hours of the day ) but if your friend are the bad types I dont blame you.
Catnip says December 24, 2014 at 3:35 am Well… I agree with Nikki. And also, everyone has their own reasons. Besides, your BFFs probably hang out with you everyday and have fun with you! What’s not to love, come on! Doesn’t that make up for ONE lost birthday? I guess you ought to forgive them. HAPPY LATE BIRTHDAY!
mahnoor y. says December 24, 2014 at 2:31 am Avalon, hope you feel better, its okay! Nikki tried to make you feel better so you should be happy btw its your birthday! u should be happy! friends forget! AND ! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
ice princess says December 23, 2014 at 10:23 pm your friends are mean they need to put this IMPORTANT day into a calendar