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July 23, 2016

I MADE UP AN IMAGINARY CRUSH!!!

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Hey Brandon,

I really need help! My new friends and I decided to tell each other our crushes. They both told me their crushes first and it turns out one of them has this HUGE crush on the same guy I like. So when it got to my turn, I quickly made up a guy’s name and said he was on my afterschool sports team. So, to make it sound like I really liked this “guy,” I keep telling them stories. But now, I’m afraid that they might tell my siblings my crazy stories. What should I do—keep up the lies, or tell them the truth?

Sincerely,
Liar, Liar, Pants On Fire

Oh wow, this is tricky.

Your heart was in the right place. It doesn’t sound like you lied for your own gain, exactly. You weren’t trying to trick anyone—at least not to be mean. You just didn’t want to cause a conflict by liking the same guy as one of your friends, right?

The trouble is, you DO like him. If you’d happened to speak up first, would you have gotten mad at her if she’d said she also likes him? Probably not. I mean, it’s not her fault that she likes him. He must be a great guy if you both like him. Really, it means you’re a great friend-match, since you have similar taste in people.

But you said these are new friends, and I wonder if that’s a part of this. If you haven’t been friends long, that might add to the anxiety about not wanting to cause conflict.

Anyway, the bigger problem is the ongoing lies. I don’t know your friends, but if it were me, I would be WAY more upset about someone lying to me over and over than I would if I found out they were crushing on the same person as I was. But the absolute WORST would be if I found out about the lies from someone else.

So it might be tough, but this is what I think you have to do: tell your friends the truth. Tell them that you made up the pretend crush because you felt awkward about having a crush on the same guy as your other friend. And then you didn’t know how to stop lying. Tell them you feel awful about it and apologize—for the lying. (You don’t need to apologize for your real crush.)

There’s a chance they’ll be SUPER mad. Maybe. But I think it depends how you present it. If it’s obvious you are truly sorry and you did it because you like them so much and didn’t want to mess up your friendship…I think most people can relate to that. We’ve all done dumb things in order to make or keep friends.

Going forward, try to work on trusting your friends enough to tell them the truth, even when it’s hard. That’s how friendships get stronger!

Who else has lied to friends to avoid a conflict? How did that work out?

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  1. Queezy boy says

    October 8, 2016 at 10:11 am

    I have that too you rock Brandon when you help people

  2. love blue says

    October 8, 2016 at 10:03 am

    I have a crush but we don’t talk anymore

  3. princesschloe11 says

    October 8, 2016 at 9:49 am

    My problem is like yours too!

  4. Siya Sara says

    October 8, 2016 at 9:43 am

    I agree with Brandon.

  5. Dejá vú says

    October 8, 2016 at 3:16 am

    OMG, I can’t believe this. I did the exact same thing, except I lied about where I was from! Eventually I told my friends and they were ok about it. Just go for it! (BTW sorry if my nickname is spelled wrong. I don’t know French)

  6. love is a battle field says

    October 7, 2016 at 10:52 pm

    hey it;s okay i told my friends my crush when i was in 4th grade WE HAD THE SAME CRUSH me and my friend didn’t care.

  7. Anonymous says

    October 7, 2016 at 3:01 pm

    Be honest. They’ll understand if they’re loyal friends.

  8. Confused Person says

    October 7, 2016 at 12:19 pm

    Srs tho guys. Brandon is right tell your friends and if they get all prissy and Mackenzi-ish Then they are not really your friends

  9. ha ha laugher says

    October 6, 2016 at 8:21 pm

    i totes agree with brandon

  10. your friend says

    October 6, 2016 at 12:03 pm

    you should tell them the truth and deal with it anyways or you can tell hem a lie and feel guily

  11. nisqis says

    October 5, 2016 at 8:58 pm

    Dear ‘Liar Liar Pants on Fire’,
    as if the thing happened to me, I will make a huge distance from that guy, and try to avoid to talk about that guy in any way. It might be hard at first, but slowly it will be diminished. I hope it helps.

  12. lucky bug says

    October 5, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    i’ve had the exact same thing. my friends where not even close to mad, they where laughing. we all started making up imaginary crushes. the perfect crush…

    • princesschloe11 says

      October 8, 2016 at 9:44 am

      Me and my friends did something like that too!

  13. Little Amy says

    October 5, 2016 at 12:15 pm

    I like this boy in the other class and when he looks at me I wonder if he has a crush on me how do you know if he likes me

    • love help says

      October 7, 2016 at 10:53 pm

      i know right he is one of my classes (crush)lol

  14. Singer girl says

    October 4, 2016 at 8:51 pm

    I had done the same thing but it was hard telling the truth but like Brandon said that is what made our friendship stronger.

  15. The Secret Crush says

    October 4, 2016 at 7:06 am

    Dear Brandon I am in middle school and I have friends and they are boys and they like to play around with me and they say funny things and I have realized that I have a crush on some of the boys I have a crush on. How do I tell if they have a crush on me?????

    • Autumn says

      October 5, 2016 at 9:10 pm

      Ok if the.boy/s likes you the he will hang out with you ,al ot also if a boy likes you he’ll stare at you a lot
      .

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