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November 19, 2016

MY CRUSH THINKS I’M ANNOYING!!

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Hey Brandon,

I really like this girl at my school. But, whenever I try to approach her, sit with her during lunch, or talk to her, she keeps telling me to knock it off and stop being annoying. Plus, whenever she’s around her friends, she just ignores me! Am I really annoying like she says? Should I give her more space and time? Or, should I just quit trying to catch her eye? Help me!!

Desperate Dude

Hey.
Okay, the answer is really simple: Leave her alone.

It’s not that you’re a bad guy AT ALL. You might be a fantastic guy. But it sounds like she’s been really clear. It’s not just that she’s ignoring you (though that’s a sign right there she’s not interested) – she’s also said to knock it off and stop being annoying.

So look, her choice of words isn’t all that great. It seems like she’s really upset about you trying to talk to her. Or, she might just want to spend lunchtime hanging with her friends. Whatever the reason, she doesn’t owe you anything. That means you have to listen to her and let it go.

Because, here’s the thing (and this is true for ANY dude crushing on a girl that seems annoyed by him): it doesn’t matter if you’re a nice guy, you like her and you’re sure she would like you too if she gave you a chance. SHE made it clear that she’s not interested in getting to know you.

I know that stinks. I’ve been there. But I truly believe you should not just give her space and time—because that sounds like you mean give her space and time…and then come back and try again. Nope. She’s made it clear she doesn’t want to hang out with you. Now I think you back off entirely and move on.

Movies show us these examples of guys pursuing girls who are not into them, but the guys keep trying and trying, and then one day, magically, they win the girl over. But that’s not real life. And in real life, it’s frustrating for girls to have to keep telling guys they’re not interested. As we get into high school, it can even be scary for girls, since guys tend to get physically bigger. And an angry, stalker-ish guy can be a threat.

You’re a smart guy to see this as a potential problem and ask for advice. High fives to you for that! But, now you have to trust that she means what she says when she tells you to leave her alone. Maybe one day she’ll realize she missed out, or she’ll change her mind. But don’t hold out for that. By then, you’ll probably have moved on to someone who treats you better anyway.

Believe me, it’s always more fun when they like you back! I hope that helps.



Girls, how do you tell guys you’re not interested? Guys, how do you respond? Do you take “no” for an answer?

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  1. cupcake says

    December 17, 2016 at 6:01 am

    maybe see what her reaction is if your with another girl

  2. #unicornsquad says

    December 17, 2016 at 2:48 am

    Well I tell guys I’m not interested like this “sorry your nice and all but your not really my type but don’t get me wrong! Other girls will love you I bet but not me I’m so sorry” then I give him a hug and walk away.

  3. upset bro says

    December 17, 2016 at 2:44 am

    Hey Brandon,

    I love this girl at skl but I don’t think she likes me coz whenever I go up to her she completely ignores me and walk the opposite side it is getting realllllly Annoying but I still really like her.

  4. Helpful Unicorn says

    December 15, 2016 at 10:23 pm

    I think that if she does that she is actually really totally doing that then she’s not even worth it.

  5. uh oh girl! says

    December 15, 2016 at 7:31 pm

    OMG!! OH NO!!! i keep on telling my crush that i hate him and he is really annoying!!!

  6. qwertyuiop says

    December 15, 2016 at 6:16 am

    Maybe she likes you and doesn’t want to show it.

  7. flower says

    December 14, 2016 at 9:13 pm

    WOW! I have had that same problem

  8. Football Girl says

    December 14, 2016 at 8:27 pm

    I just tell him nicely and he will get the hint

  9. cupcakeplayer1 says

    December 14, 2016 at 2:31 pm

    well this was very interesting

  10. Dorkyfan says

    December 14, 2016 at 3:07 am

    Maybe take interest in someone else and she will see and get jealous?

    • Anonymous says

      December 15, 2016 at 12:45 am

      Maybe but the truth is that usually doesn’t work. Trust me I’ve tried it. But sometimes from that (and in my case) when you move on from someone, you end up finding someone even better. Remember, there is someone for everyone

  11. Minissu says

    December 13, 2016 at 5:38 pm

    Dude, I’m a girl and i do that to my crush all the time (Like a tsundere). If she says it in a nasty voice she’s totally not worth you. I’m pretty sure you’re awesome and deserve better! 🙂

  12. cupcake says

    December 12, 2016 at 8:40 pm

    Me Too i have the same feeling

  13. Awesome Girl says

    December 12, 2016 at 1:24 am

    What you could say to the guy is :
    “Sorry I’m seeing someone else”
    “Sorry but I like someone else”
    “Sorry but I’m not interested”
    And say each of these in a nice, calm and sensible way. DON’T yell at the guy or use any form of attitude.
    Thx

    • Yo mama says

      December 13, 2016 at 5:12 pm

      Totally right girl

  14. kkdork says

    December 11, 2016 at 10:31 pm

    Omg I have a boy who dose that to me and I say that to him!is this about me?!P.S. I relly liked him. Sqeeeeeee!

    • LoveQueen says

      December 13, 2016 at 11:14 pm

      OMG! I’m with you sister! Good Luck!

  15. kkdork says

    December 11, 2016 at 10:26 pm

    Omg I have a boy who dose that to me and I say that! Is this about me!?

    • IceGirl says

      December 16, 2016 at 8:19 pm

      OMG! Same! I was thinking it was about me too! Exactly what ive done to the boy who likes me

  16. PearlLover17 says

    December 11, 2016 at 5:57 pm

    Usually… I just… Tell them right then and there or… I’m really mean to them and ignore them!!! I know… That sounds terrible, but… U asked!!!

  17. Cool Cat says

    December 11, 2016 at 5:57 pm

    Dear Desperate Dude, I’m a girl but I think that the girl is not interested just like brandon said and just give her space.

  18. ArtistDork24 says

    December 11, 2016 at 9:34 am

    I totally think Brandon is right…. I am not just saying this because I am a girl, but because a lot of girls may feel this way, and the truth is when a girl says to back off, they may not be the right girl for you, as Brandon said.
    Hope you guys liked my comment!

    ArtistDork24

  19. miss-know-it-all says

    December 11, 2016 at 7:40 am

    wow!!!!! helps alot…! even grls!

  20. Girl who has a crush says

    December 11, 2016 at 2:02 am

    i’m sorry if it’s mean but i would say “I don’t like you and please stop gossiping about me”. Because the guy that likes me always talks to my friends about me and is sort of stalking me around.

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