January 16, 2017 MY CRUSH IS NOW MY LAB PARTNER!!! Hi Brandon! So, I’ve had this crush FOREVER. Yesterday in science, we had to move seats and now he’s MY LAB PARTNER!!! The good part is that he’s super funny, cute, kind, and a very great person to talk to. But, the bad part is that if I do something dumb, I’m afraid he’ll totally think I’m a loser. And since I’m horrible at science, it’s twice as worse! What should I do? Please tell me!! Science FAIL Dear Science FAIL, Well first of all, it’s AWESOME that you get to be lab partners with your crush in science. Now you’ll have a reason to look forward to this class. (It sounds like it was NOT a favorite class before.) And besides that, you’ll have a built-in reason to talk to him every day. (Or however often science meets.) SOME people have to make up fake reasons to drop by their crush’s locker (not that I’d know anything about THAT). But, you just have to show up for a class you’d go to anyway. I believe my friend Nikki would say, “SQUEEEEEE!!” But you’re stressed because…you’re worried he’ll think you’re dumb? He won’t be nice anymore if he sees you’re not an A+ student? I mean, that doesn’t really sound like the kind of guy you’ve described. Look, let me flip things around on you. If HE screws something up in an experiment or gets a terrible grade on a lab, are you going to like him any less? Are you suddenly going to think he’s a total “loser?” I’m guessing no? And if he’s as kind as you say he is, he’s not going to judge you if science isn’t your best subject. I promise. Look, everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. So you don’t feel confident in science. But maybe you’re great in English, history, or math. Maybe you’re the fastest runner in the school, or the best artist. Maybe you’re an amazing friend. Or maybe you’re still figuring out your strengths. But you have them. And remember, your crush is not perfect (even if it seems like it). Maybe he’s great in school but a total klutz at sports, or a terrible dancer, or he forgets his mom’s birthday. Maybe he seems super smart, but he freezes up on tests. So, when you’re stressing that he’s going to judge you for being imperfect, just envision him dancing HORRIBLY. Or, just remember that nobody’s perfect and this is a nice guy. And then be grateful that you get to sit next to him. In fact…if he’s really good at science, maybe it’ll be an excuse to spend even MORE time with him! Because if you’re struggling, you could always get together to study. I’m NOT suggesting you pretend not to understand something just to spend time with him. Playing dumb is NOT a cool way to get a guy’s attention. But if you need help, and he’s good at science…that sounds like a perfect fit. So, try not to stress so much. This definitely sounds like a reason to celebrate. Science will be fun now. You’ll get to talk to your crush! And, maybe your grade will even improve. Everybody wins! Readers, how do you deal when you’re stressed about impressing a crush? Do you worry about not being smart enough/athletic enough/funny enough/whatever enough? How do you overcome that?
Total Dork says January 29, 2017 at 10:07 am Well even though my crush is so far away from me whenever our teacher reads a book we lock eyes and start blushing.When your teacher might be busy or if nobody’s looking check if he’s looking at you.Its a real clue.
Unloved one says January 27, 2017 at 12:50 pm Dear Brandon, Okay so I have this crush and I think he does not like me. What do I do?!?! I want him to marry me when I’m older! I need advice Pronto!
5th grader says January 26, 2017 at 4:09 pm Hey brandon, i like this guy… and well he also likes me but i dont know if he actually means it thanks your a real friend. :3
Crushstar says January 24, 2017 at 11:58 pm Hi Brandon so I really like this boy in my class and am not really sure that he likes me back can you maybe give me some signs if he likes me or not plz.
Angel says January 27, 2017 at 8:32 am Hy I think just go for it because that same thing happened to me and I told that boy that I love him and asked him to be my Valentines so go for it maybe he will say yes or no sometimes in life you have to take risks
Never Impress Dork says January 24, 2017 at 11:49 am Here’s what I do: I NEVER EVER TRY TO IMPRESS HIM!!!! If he doesn’t like me for who i am right now, and will always be then he will have to forget about me. Like if a boy doesnt like you for you, then move on gurlfriend!! just let it go
Sophie the dork says January 23, 2017 at 6:45 pm Sup i had that…once…twice…three times… i was blushing the WHOLE time! so i know how you feel! be Happy!
DorkyPokemonGirl says January 22, 2017 at 4:24 pm you should act normal and calm if you do think he thinks your not athletic or smart dont try to do that it could get messed up! just be normal and calm and get on with it
brifever says January 21, 2017 at 11:12 pm i just act normal.if we thinks im not smarrt or athletic then thats his lost because im amazing
Amelia. says January 21, 2017 at 11:01 pm If you do something “stupid.” Just laugh. Everyone makes mistakes, and if you laugh it off, he’ll apperciate that you have a good sense of humor and learn from your mistakes.