May 24, 2017 MY BFF IS BEING SO MEAN!! Hey Nikki, My BFF is usually nice, but sometimes she overreacts to small things! For example, once I was using her notebook, which she was fine with AT FIRST. But then, I wanted to show her my drawing as a surprise, and she started gritting her teeth and glaring at me, and kept saying, “GIVE ME BACK MY NOTEBOOK. IT’S MY NOTEBOOK.” And when I told her to calm down, she just said “NO!” She also cries if things don’t go her way, and takes it out on me. Lastly, she made a rude comment about how I don’t do well in math, and it made ME want to cry! Should I hang out with her anymore? Bothered By Bratty BFF Hi Bothered By Bratty BFF, It sounds like you’ve been really patient! AND like your BFF needs a MAJOR attitude adjustment!! 🙁 I have a bunch of questions: Has your BFF always been like this? Or, is this a change that has come over her recently? Is she your awesome BFF most of the time, and then sometimes just has her moments? Or is this kind of an all-the-time thing, lately? If this is new behavior, and it’s only happening sometimes, I don’t think it’s a reason to drop her. For one thing, we all have our bad days, or our bad moments within good days. I know I get upset at Chloe and Zoey sometimes. And not to get too TMI, but depending where you’re at with the whole puberty thing, you might soon find yourself more short-tempered and/or likely to burst into tears at any moment. There’s a lot of hormonal wackiness going on in middle school, and it’s not just about how your body changes. Your emotions change, and feel out of control every now and then. Your friend might be going through all that before you. Or, she might have something big going on at home that’s got her losing it easily. I think you need a lot more information before you take the drastic step of losing her as a BFF. I think you should talk to her! See if you can find out if something is going on. Maybe she realizes she’s been super on-edge, too. It might feel icky to her, even as she’s snapping at you. If there are specific things she’s said that have upset you, like the math comment, bring them up. But not in an accusing way. More like, “I wonder if you realize how much that hurt my feelings. It didn’t seem like something you’d normally say, so I wondered if you were dealing with something. Do you need to talk?” It’s POSSIBLE that this is just how she is. Maybe she’s always been edgy. Or maybe something has shifted in her and this is the new “normal.” If she doesn’t care that she keeps hurting your feelings, or can’t recognize that she’s being so short-tempered with you, there’s NO reason you have to keep putting yourself in a position to feel bad. I guess you have to ask yourself, “Do the positive parts of the friendship outweigh the negative parts? And if the negative parts outweigh the positive parts, is there any way to change that?” If not…it might be time to branch out in your friendships. It doesn’t mean you have to stop being friends entirely. Just widen your circle, so you have more people you hang out with. You might find someone who’s a better fit as your BFF now, but you can still be friends with your old BFF! And maybe, with time, whatever she’s going through will pass and you’ll be back to the good old days. I sure hope so! You sound like a great friend, and you deserve the best BFF ever!! 🙁 Does your BFF ever go through mood swings? How do you handle it when your friend is not his/herself?
Miss Know-a-lot says June 13, 2017 at 5:58 pm OMG! Your friend sounds rude. Take some time apart and in about a week or so you’ll be friends again! (And I mean good friends!)
A+ for stress says June 13, 2017 at 7:08 am Nikki help! I have so much homework due over the next couple of weeks! A french oral, math exam, science assignment on HOMEOSTASIS… and more! I really want to pull off a good mark for these, considering how CRUDDY my grades are! But I am breaking under the pressure and I have no idea what to do! Help! A+ for stress!
Fangirl49 says June 12, 2017 at 10:11 pm nikki,i NEED your help realy bad.So,i missed the last day of school and during that time,i was in a fight with my BFF.Now, im DREADING school next year.What should i do?
The dork with bratty sister says June 12, 2017 at 7:55 pm Ok so nikki, I NEED YOUR HELP!!! Because i have a BRATTY little six year-old sister, and she keeps on looking on MY PERSONAL BUISNESS and keeps on HUMILIATING MY LIFE and and annoying me SO SO SO SO BAD!What can i do with this LITTLE MONSTER?
Dork with ANNOYING brother says June 13, 2017 at 10:34 am Try putting your personal stuff in a box on a high shelf. Tip: (don’t write ” Personal Stuff ” on the book)
Your best fan says June 12, 2017 at 3:32 am I have that same problem and need Nikki’s help so Nikki HELP. Your best fan
FLORA223 says June 12, 2017 at 1:43 am i know how you feel it can be troubling but i relized that my bff has been talking bad about me the whole time so we split
Nikki is life says June 11, 2017 at 9:08 pm Bratty BFF, that’s how my BFF was acting too. I dumped her, but I made new friends.
Bff problems says June 11, 2017 at 1:12 pm Don’t worry , i am having the EXACT same problem and I think this is some great advice !
dork lover says June 11, 2017 at 9:38 am I’m so sorry for you! It must be horribile to have friend being mean to you! I hope you can stand up to her.
Bella says June 11, 2017 at 7:49 am This happened to me as well! My BFF used to be one if the people I trusted the most, but a few weeks ago she started to act very rude. Eventually I found out, her mum and dad died in a car crash, so she didn’t know how to express her emotions. I felt very sorry for her, so some of my close friends and I invited her over to our house quite often. You sometimes never know what caused some of your close friends to do something bad or rude. So in particular situations, we can sometimes understand why this happened. If waiting a while isn’t enough, ask someone you trust. #dork diaries!
AWSOMEgirl says June 11, 2017 at 7:10 am just do what nikki says and everything will be fine,let your inner dork shine through
flowergirl21 says June 11, 2017 at 1:41 am my former bff is exactly like this. she lied, copied off me, and stole from people. here is what I do, don’t beat around the bush tell her straight “you cause to many problems. We shouldn’t be friends.” then just avoid her.
x-BFF alert says June 11, 2017 at 1:19 am me 2 she so sensitive my mom thinks she getting her period but i don’t think so she’s prb just a terrible jealous popularity sucking obsessed x-BFF
Bratty BFF says June 10, 2017 at 10:20 pm Hi Nikki! I have a major BFF problem! She keeps critizing me, and even when I tell her to stop,she keeps on going! I told her I did not want to be her friend anymore, and now almost all of the girls are on her side! Please help!
Kiki says June 11, 2017 at 5:27 pm Dear Bratty BFF. I’m NO Nikki, but I know how you feel. But you have no reason to suffer by her hand! I’ve dealt with this problem before since I am also a Miss-Know-It-All. So I’ll tell you what I told her. If your BFF never agrees with you on anything, drop her. All of the girls agreeing with her Just. Can’t. Help it. They must think she’s a CCP. Why else would they pick her! Just forget her and get new BFFs. If no one else likes you ( no harm done in that statement ) then focus on your hobbys and forget everyone. Don’t bother. Do what you should do and, from experience , I know that you’ll find friends.