June 17, 2017 WHY ARE MY GUY FRIENDS ACTING WEIRD?? Hey Brandon, I’ve been friends with boys pretty much all my life. The other girls think it’s weird, but I don’t care! Recently, things have been changing. I don’t know if it’s because of hormones or something, but the boys that I used to hang out with and tell silly jokes to are acting weird around me. Some of them have even asked me out! I really would prefer to stay friends with them but I don’t want to lose them because I hurt their feelings. I don’t know what to do!! Boy BFF Blues Hey Boy BFF Blues, Okay, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. When us guys start to go through puberty, the hormones make us NUTS. This is NOT to make an excuse for any of the messed up stuff we do—we DO have self-control, after all. But it sounds to me like hormones might be a big part of what’s going on here. (And to be fair, neither guys nor girls are all sunshine and roses when those hormones hit. We’ve all got to cut each other a little slack!) I think it’s great that you’ve been friends with guys all your life, and that doesn’t have to end now. It just might be a little trickier. Because yeah, hormones are flying all around, making us stupid. Your guy friends might be just starting to notice you’re a girl. I mean, they knew before. But it didn’t matter. And it SHOULDN’T matter. But yeah, hormones. And because they’re noticing you’re a girl, their wires get all crossed. If they’re logical about it, they don’t want to mess up your friendship, either! But…they’re not always logical about it. They might compete to impress you. They might suddenly think they’re going to offend you if they’re being too silly. And yeah, they might ask you out. I think the best thing to do is ACT NORMAL. That’s hard, when the guys around you are acting like bozos. But rise above. Keep showing up for the pick up games or Xbox marathons, or whatever you like to do when you hang out. And call them on it when they get weird. Tell them nothing’s changed and you’re still you, so they need to chill out. When they ask you out, I think I’d try to laugh it off and move on. Not laugh AT them, because guys have feelings too. But just don’t take it super seriously. If you don’t let it be a huge, awkward deal, they’ll probably move on to someone else. Say something like, “Dude, do you really want to date someone who can crush you in one-on-one?” Or, “I’m not interested in dating anyone. Hey, what did you think of the new superhero movie?” Show them that you’ve been their friend and you’re going to be their friend, even through the weirdness. I bet your friendships will be stronger for it. Then go out and crush them in one-on-one!!! 🙂 How do you handle it when your friends start acting a little weird around you?
Lovely Me (Haha) says June 30, 2017 at 8:43 pm That has happened to me before! I become friends with a guy and I talk to him ALL THE TIME and I joke around and all that stuff friends do. And some of them started acting weird and then their guy friends would come up to me telling me my guy friend HAS A CRUSH ON ME!!??! I was like 0_0 I didn’t feel the same, I just liked them as friends. I guess guys start liking girls when they get to know you better…(Im just guessing)
ViaOnFleek21 says June 30, 2017 at 5:27 pm Three of my guyfriends asked me out this year, and we’re in middle school.My solution, was tell them the truth about how I feel, then make it up to them
Same kind of says June 30, 2017 at 5:12 pm Wow I have a problem like this but my friend that’s a boy is lieing to much
Kind hearted advice giver says June 29, 2017 at 2:20 pm If they are acting weird around you, then u should ignore them if you don’t want to go out with them.
dorkerella says June 25, 2017 at 11:14 pm Great tips! I like hanging out with everyone, including guys, but this always ends up being the situation I’m in at the end of our friendship. I can never continue being their friend because they end up liking me more than just a friend and start doing weird things like holding my hand or swinging me around by my backpack. It gets pretty awkward. I hate that it has to always end that way. I’ll try this next time rather than running the other direction when they try to hold my hand.
dorks for life says June 25, 2017 at 8:30 pm They totally like you.They probably just been waiting for the right time to ask you.
#DorkGirl1 says June 30, 2017 at 9:24 am I totally agree with Dorks for life! Don’t worry because Brandon’s advice is great and Dorks for life’s advice is great!
Prof. Thinkalot says June 25, 2017 at 5:09 pm It’s okay, but I m’d recommend not to bring up the subject of them asking you out in the future. They’d be embarrassed.
Girl power says June 25, 2017 at 7:13 am Poor you Maybe they do LIKE you and that is not always a bad thing but I have also been friends with this one boy my whole life and he recently admitted that he loved me I kind of like him too but I just want to stay friends so I feel you
Anonymous says June 24, 2017 at 9:20 pm Try to let them know you are a good friend, nothing more or less. You seem like a nice girl, so maybe some of them are crushing on you. But don’t let it ruin your friendship. They n