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September 4, 2017

AM I OUTGROWING MY LITTLE BRO??

Hey Brandon,
My little bro and I have been best friends since like forever. But now that I’m getting older, I kinda get bored with his games and stuff. I’m 3 years older and plus I’m a girl. I’ve noticed that I’ve been getting annoyed easier by him lately. I really don’t like it and neither does he. What do I do? I feel mean not playing with him! I really need help on this one.

Sincerely,
Bothered By Brother

Hey Bothered By Brother,

Oh man, this sounds super hard. Your brother is your brother and he’s always going to be a big part of your life. But it sounds like some things are changing, and change is hard.

On the one hand, yeah, you’re maybe moving into a different stage of what interests you and what’s fun for you. When you guys were 6 and 9, you probably had more in common. If you’re 10 and 13, your differences are probably getting clearer. And yeah, boy-girl differences can also add to it.

Getting older also explains why you’re getting annoyed more easily. Because you’re probably going through puberty. (Even if it seems early for that, the hormone changes start a couple YEARS before there are obvious changes in the body.) So the hormone changes affect your temper and can make you irritable. It’s not a free pass to be a jerk, but it’s an explanation. You’re not a horrible person who suddenly doesn’t love your brother or something just because you’re more irritable. This might seem really basic, but when you realize you’ve been short-tempered with him, apologize. It doesn’t mean you immediately have to do whatever he says. But you can just say, “Dude, I’m sorry I was a jerk earlier.” That simple.

I think it’s really sweet that you realize there’s a problem. That you even see it as a problem shows how much you love him. You’re not moving on and forgetting him. You just have to make your relationship work for you as you both change and grow.

It sounds like whatever you guys used to do isn’t working for you anymore. That’s fine. We grow up, and what was once fun stops being so fun. That doesn’t mean those games will NEVER be fun ever again, though. And sometimes you can play things just to be nice. If he likes to play superheroes or whatever, and you now find that boring, you could compromise by occasionally playing superheroes (because it won’t KILL you) but also work on finding new things you might like to do together.

What about active things, like riding bikes, rollerskating, geocaching, throwing around a ball or frisbee? What about making something together, like a tree house or a fort? What about building stuff with Legos? What about introducing him to some of your favorite shows or movies he’s been too little for but is old enough for now?

But also, you’re not being mean when you want time alone, or time with your friends your own age. It’s normal. And I think as long as you do make some time to do fun things you both enjoy together, you can ALSO take the time you need for other stuff. And as you recharge with the stuff YOU want to do, you’ll probably have more patience for the stuff HE wants to do.

It sounds like you’re a really good big sister and he’s lucky to have you. You guys might be going through a rough patch, but I’m SURE you are going to be really good friends for the rest of your lives!

What do the rest of you do when your little sibling is annoying you? What sort of activities do you like to do with a younger sibling?

Category: Ask Brandon Tags: brother, siblingsnikki

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  1. Dunno says

    September 15, 2017 at 12:33 pm

    I don’t have a brother.

  2. Samantha geidel says

    September 13, 2017 at 8:18 pm

    Ikr I used to like my litre bro but when I was 2 I didn’t play with him and watched jack Paul instead I’m now 11 and fight him and I ignored him instead of listening

  3. BrotherTrouble says

    September 13, 2017 at 4:20 pm

    Thanks Brandon!

  4. Bothered By Brother says

    September 13, 2017 at 10:15 am

    Thank you so much Brandon!!! =D

  5. Got a brother says

    September 13, 2017 at 5:46 am

    Hi same problem

  6. Cherrycupcake says

    September 12, 2017 at 11:10 pm

    My siblings always bring up games we played 3 to 5 years ago and I say no and they shrug and say ur loss and run around and you know those games little kids make up they always have a LOT of noise and I feel bad for telling them to be quiet but hey I’m the oldest.unicornunicornwhere is unicorn emoji???????

  7. Pois3nIvy says

    September 12, 2017 at 8:37 pm

    I have a cousin that’s 3 years older than me too. She’s 12 and I’m 9. She got older and is getting bored more easily. I try to do things that we both like, like playing scary games, watching YouTube videos, and drawing. It acually helps me understand her better, but that’s probably because we’re both girls.

  8. Related Life says

    September 11, 2017 at 9:32 am

    OMG I can relate 2!

  9. 14 yr old Someone says

    September 9, 2017 at 12:53 am

    I had the same the same problem with my brother, but this is really good advice,☺I bet now i can be nicer to my little brother,Thank you for posting this(By the way, My little brothers name is BrandonSame name except he’s 7)

  10. the outsiders fangirl says

    September 8, 2017 at 10:52 pm

    I love dork diaries and the outsiders from S.E Hinton
    (;

    I RECOMEND THAT BOOK ITS REALLY GOOD

    -STAY GOLD PONYBOY XD

  11. Relatable Me says

    September 8, 2017 at 8:46 am

    This is the same problem with my friend

  12. random says

    September 7, 2017 at 11:59 pm

    my sister always make inside jokes

  13. Niyaalwaysdorky says

    September 7, 2017 at 9:44 pm

    You should give suggestions and see if he like it.

  14. Cutie says

    September 7, 2017 at 8:57 pm

    Great advice Nikki

  15. Lazer_Narwhal314 says

    September 7, 2017 at 8:42 pm

    omg im going through the exact same thing to

  16. Anonymous says

    September 7, 2017 at 6:36 pm

    Same with me and my lil sis. She is almost five and I’m almost eleven 🙁

  17. tomboy109 says

    September 7, 2017 at 10:56 am

    omg yes i have 3 and i go nuts after their EVERY MOVE

  18. #DORKDIARESROCK says

    September 7, 2017 at 5:49 am

    ITS SO ANYONNING

  19. Anonymous says

    September 6, 2017 at 2:25 pm

    i do not have a sis or a bro

  20. Me= says

    September 6, 2017 at 8:28 am

    I have an older brother so it is vice-versa.

    • Anonymous says

      September 7, 2017 at 12:13 pm

      same!

  21. Anonymous says

    September 6, 2017 at 3:35 am

    My little bro and I are superclose but the way we interact changed.We used to play and now all we do is talk a lot and play games on phones together.I kinda missed the old times

    • ! says

      September 7, 2017 at 9:24 pm

      Same here fam! Exact same!

  22. Gem says

    September 5, 2017 at 10:11 pm

    That’s the same thing with me and my little sis who is 5 years younger than me

  23. away with the fairies says

    September 5, 2017 at 9:29 pm

    me and my little bro have problems playing together to but that doesn’t mean we can manage to get along sometimes!

  24. Anonymous says

    September 5, 2017 at 5:24 pm

    me and my lil bro used to play all the time. now we hardly ever play. we talk a lot now. and laugh over stupid things.

    • Millyoz says

      September 6, 2017 at 9:47 am

      same 😛

  25. KawaiiKirbyEevee says

    September 5, 2017 at 5:18 pm

    I have a sister that’s 22 yrs old Lol!! And I’m the younger one in my family I don’t like her tickling me It hurts a little

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