September 13, 2017 I’M SUCH A SCAREDY-CAT!! Hi Nikki, I get scared whenever it’s dark. It’s been a real problem for me whenever I have sleepovers with my friends. Whenever I freak out, I can’t run to my parents so that they can calm me down, but I can’t wake up my friends either, since it would be SO embarrassing for them to find out that I get scared like a big baby. So, I just stay up all night since I can’t fall asleep, and then I get cranky because I’m tired. I’m not sure how to get over this. Please help!! Sincerely, Scaredy Cat Hi Scaredy Cat, Oh, this sounds tough! The most important thing here is there’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing weird about being afraid, no matter how old you are! I get why you think you should be brave. But look at it another way. When you were younger, you just had a general sense of bad stuff that could be out there. But now that you’re older, you see the news, you read books, you watch TV and movies, and you have a stronger understanding of the real dangers that can be out there in the world. From TV and movies, you even have visual images that can be super hard to get out of your brain once they’re in there! So it makes sense that, as you get older, you have a lot more to be afraid of and naturally, you get scared. PLUS a lot of people get more anxious when puberty sets in. Unfortunately, raging hormones can make the anxiety worse, which is totally crummy! But, at least it helps to know why you feel a certain way, right? And, the other thing about nighttime is that when it gets quiet and dark, you don’t have any distractions to keep your mind busy, like you do during the day. So your mind starts wandering into the dark alleys where scary things happen. A few suggestions, whether you’re at home or at a friend’s house: Try to limit the amount of violent/scary/suspenseful stuff you watch or read. Especially close to bedtime, but really any time! If you’re at a friend’s house, you don’t have to say you’re scared to watch that horror movie. Just say you’re in the mood to watch a super-funny movie and laugh! Keep a flashlight handy. At home, you can have a nightlight. But at someone else’s house, I get that you might feel weird bringing a nightlight. So keep a flashlight handy, or get a flashlight app on your phone. Unfamiliar houses can be extra spooky in the dark, so be prepared! Listen to something as you fall asleep. If you use ear buds, people don’t even have to know you’re doing it. And even if they do, there’s nothing unusual about listening to music as you go to sleep. But it doesn’t have to be music. It could also be sleep meditation, or an audiobook. Either way, it should be something that keeps your mind from wandering and soothes you. When you’re at home, like I mentioned above, use a nightlight. There’s no shame in that. The other thing is that if you have a pet, consider letting it sleep in your bedroom with you. It’s amazing how much comfort an animal can be! And look, if you’re REALLY freaked out, don’t be afraid to wake your friends up. Would you want one of your BFFs sitting up alone and scared when she’s sleeping over at your house? Of course not! You’d want to be there for her. Just wake them up and tell them you’re spooked. If they’re really your BFFs, they’ll understand and will help you calm down. I promise! 🙂 How do you handle it when you’re afraid at night? How about if you’re sleeping over at someone else’s house? Tell us in the comments!
Galaxy 101 says September 27, 2017 at 6:53 am Nikki, when I am in a dark place I usually get scared can you help me?
Galaxy 101 says September 27, 2017 at 6:41 am Hi Nikki, in such a scaredy cat because every night when it’s a blackout I jump then scream
Just helping says September 26, 2017 at 9:00 pm Scardy cat let me tell you one thing and one thing only: i went through THE EXCACT SAME THING! I used to hate sleeping over because i would be afraid so here is my advice: dont be scared to share your fears hey your friend will respect you if they actially are your friends. If you are sleeping over ask to dim the lights so there not off completely!
unknown says September 26, 2017 at 8:55 pm when I was little I was scared of the dark I would sneak under my parents bed
NikkiFan says September 26, 2017 at 3:41 pm Great. So when ever I am scared after watching an hour or three of the Ghost Adventures or Amish hauntings or My Haunted House or what ever is on I cut it down but to how long!!? Thanks!!!!!!
Dancing diva says September 26, 2017 at 1:55 pm I watched this horror movie called lights out.And it really spooked me out!!:(!Now I am afraid of the dark!What should I do???
Scaredcat says September 26, 2017 at 8:36 am What I do is think about the good things or random things like my crush or my friends.But I’ll still scared of the dark!
layla says September 26, 2017 at 8:31 am the first thing you don’t want to be is scared if you think somethings there don’t be scared you know in horror movies there so scared they don’t know what to do then the scary thing gets to them its all because of fear
Mikumiku princess says September 26, 2017 at 5:53 am I also watched this horror movie with my friends, and i always closed my eyes in the scary parts, but at night I was afraid and scared! somethings you feel nothing in the daylight sometimes freaks you out at night! I’m glad that mister sun is always shining brightly, and making us get out from darkness! 🙂 !
Spooked Girl F-Ever says September 25, 2017 at 11:40 pm Confession alert:I SLEEP WITH MY PARENTS!!! I am a TOTAL scaredy cat!! Don’t worry just think about something as you fall asleep, for example create a story, think about a cool tv show or dream about your crush(IDK???) but don’t think about the scary things remember that you are not alone!!, ~Spooked Girl F-Ever
dorkalicus617 says September 25, 2017 at 2:57 pm I’m scared of the dark to! Even though I have a night light,I still get scared of stuff I watch (5 nights at freddy’s,bendy,ect.). I am 9 years old,and I still get scared of the stuff I put in prenthesees.
KassadenBliss13 says September 24, 2017 at 8:45 pm I always sleep with my favorite stuffed animal, a polar bear, and cuddle with it. It not only protects you from the dark but also keeps you from getting nightmares. Try my theory out. Trust me it works like a charm
NotAlone10 says September 24, 2017 at 7:04 pm OMG!, I went through theexact same thing, I couldn’t sleep because I kept imagine terrible things that could happen,You are not alone, apparently almost everyone goes through the same stuff