October 9, 2017 MY CLASSMATES ARE HATIN’ BECAUSE I GET GOOD GRADES! Hey Brandon, Math is my FAVORITE subject. But just because I was the ONLY one who got an A+ on a math test, everyone in my class now HATES MY GUTS! I wasn’t trying to make them jealous! The problem is that my friends aren’t in my math class and it STINKS. Once, my teacher put us in teams for a competition. I expected my classmates to be happy that I could help them out. But boy, was I wrong! 🙁 They all ignored me like I wasn’t on their team. They also kept whispering and rudely GLARING at me! Please help!! Mad Math Skillz Hey Mad Math Skillz, I’m so sorry you’re struggling in math class. I mean, not struggling to keep up – it sounds like you really do have “mad math skills,” and that’s great! But, it also sounds like your classmates are really bringing you down, and that’s not so great. It’s SUPER hard to be that one kid in class who got a good grade on something because you can’t change how other people feel about that. And you DEFINITELY shouldn’t do less than your best on a test, just to keep classmates from getting mad at you. Those classmates are acting super insecure and immature, and they’re taking it out on you when they should be complimenting those mad math skills of yours. So, about your test results. Let’s face it—there will probably be more tests that you’ll ace while others struggle. One thing you could try is to be humble about your score. HOPEFULLY the teacher didn’t single you out in front of the class and tell everyone how great you did. If your teacher did do that, it would be totally legit to talk to the teacher after class and thank him or her for their encouragement, then request in the future that your score not be announced to the class, because it puts you in an awkward situation with your classmates. So if the teacher keeps quiet and YOU keep quiet, the only way people should notice your score is if they ask you directly about it. And if they do…well, be honest. It would be really unfair for someone to go out of their way to ask you and then get all mad about it. If they do, that’s on them. You can’t control their reaction. And, as Nikki would say, they should “cry themselves a river, build a bridge, and GET OVER IT.” While it’s great to be humble and all, I also think you shouldn’t have to hide your success. You should be proud of yourself! But since you’re especially worried about your classmates’ reactions in this class, keeping your scores to yourself is probably the best way to go. As soon as you see your friends, you can celebrate with them. As for the whole team thing…I kind of wonder if you EXPECTING them to appreciate your help annoys your teammates even more. You know, since they already can’t take how good you are at math in the first place. But, I’m sure you don’t mean to annoy them. You love math, you want to win, and you want to help! But I think you need to approach that kind of situation not as “helping them out” but “working with your teammates.” Don’t assume you have all the answers. Give others a chance to contribute. In this case, I think it’s more important to be considerate of other people’s feelings than to make sure your team wins. Hopefully, next semester you’ll have some friends in your math class. But until then, celebrate your awesomeness with those friends, keep your head up, and keep up the great work in math! Readers, how do you handle it when you’re the best at something? Do people get mad at you for your success? Tell us in the comments.
DorkiePie says October 21, 2017 at 4:59 pm I recently wrote a good story in writing class and everyone enjoyed it. I’m proud to say that people finally understand why I get good grades. Its not my fault I get good grades and heaps of praise. People used to get jealous because I was self taught in most subjects and people thought that when I explained it to them that I was bragging. But I explained it even further and apologised if it sounded like I was bragging. I feel really sorry for the person who wrote this in. Maybe talk it out with your classmates. It helped me. It might help you.
Awestruck Dorky Fan says October 21, 2017 at 10:52 am I wish I were as smart as you.I freak out during tests and I don’t understand anything even after getting help.And I’m really slow so I never finish my exams. 🙁 Cheer up!
Cookie says October 21, 2017 at 6:30 am Some of my friends pretend their not jealous but I think they are
dorky grin bookworm! says October 21, 2017 at 5:55 am wow! you must be great at math! i wish i was ! i’m in the top math set at school but I’ve only recently been moved up so all the others are way ahead ! don’t be worried be proud! maybe join a math club or help some younger kids with math!
8th grade dork says October 20, 2017 at 7:35 pm I with u as well i actually get BULLIED cause everyone thinks im showing off thats why i absolutely HATE the 8th grade
dork diaries FAN!! says October 19, 2017 at 9:31 pm I feel bad for you sometimes people do that to me too you’re not alone don’t worry.
Anonymous says October 19, 2017 at 9:47 am Wish I had you as a tutor on math I get cBut recently I got a A B C= U seem like you would not make me in comfortable
Road dahl says October 19, 2017 at 2:26 am Whoa Branden you really know how to sort out problems keep at it!
Hopeful Romantic says October 18, 2017 at 10:30 pm Hey! Wow… People being mean to up you for getting good marks??? Totally unheard of at my school. My school IS filled with stereotypical Asians though. Anyways, no one wants to be seen as a teacher’s pet and maybe you don’t mean to be, but people think you are. No one likes a brown noser very much. My suggestion, you can still do awesome on tests, answer questions and stuff but try a tiny bit harder to make it seem like nothing special or anything. But not in a condescending way. Get what I mean? Gl Hopeful Romantic
Fake name is audrey says October 18, 2017 at 10:09 am Grades didn’t affect whether u have friends or not!
bad to good grades. says October 17, 2017 at 10:46 pm my mom is gets so mad her head explodes(not literally). but she apologize about it. but I have better grades now.
Hating my school life says October 17, 2017 at 7:23 pm My mom is always strict about me getting A’s. If I even get one B, she will explode at me. DO you have any advise? Im getting harder and harder homework and tests and i’m pretty sure I’m going to get a B somewhere. Can you help?
Hopeful Romantic says October 18, 2017 at 10:36 pm Hey, totally get what you mean! A grade doesn’t show how smart you are all the time. For example, if u cheat on a test but got 100%, do u really know anything versus you getting 75% and actually working for the grade? Ur mom should try to be more constructive! Instead of being like, “WHAAAAT? U GOT A B????? U R ONLY GOING TO STUDY ALL WEEKEND!!!!” She should be like, “well you can’t change what’s happened and B is an ok mark but A is going to give you more options for what you want to do later in life. So let’s work together so that you can do even better next time!” Gl Hopeful Romantic
Rose girl says October 19, 2017 at 2:34 am So your mother should be proud just say “mum I tried my best you knew I’d get a b on somthing” and if that doesent work you need a meeting with your mum say it’s not the grades that matter it that your trying your best! Hang in there!