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January 6, 2018

MY FRIENDS WANT ME TO BE MEAN!

Hey Brandon,

I consider myself a friendly CCP girl. But, my friends are mean and they want me to be mean, too! They all hate this one girl (like Mackenzie hates Nikki), but I think she’s cool and super funny. There’s also a guy I have a huge crush on who’s been giving me a hard time because I’m nice to her. What should I do?  Should I give in and be mean to her, or ignore my CCP friends and be nice to whomever I want? PLEASE HELP!!

Confused CCP

Hey Confused CCP,

Okay, I think you already know the answer, or you wouldn’t be questioning what your friends want you to do.  Of COURSE you should be nice to her. Honestly, you should be nice to her no matter what, because…she’s a good person like you. She’s nice, right?  Plus, she’s super funny. Like…why would you be mean to her? Just because your friends tell you to? That would make you a total sheep—just weakly following the crowd for no reason of your own.

CCP stands for “cute, cool, popular”, right? None of those words mean that you have to be MEAN. It’s not cool to be mean. Being mean shouldn’t make you popular. In fact, if you’re popular, you can afford to be nice to anyone. You have more power than less popular kids, and you should use it for good.

If the guy you like is bugging you for being friendly to a nice girl (or anyone, really), I think you might want to reexamine why you like him. He kinda sounds like a jerk, to be honest. What about looking for a nice guy to like?  You know, the kind of guy who’ll like you for being nice to people?

And same thing goes for your friends. I don’t know what their problem is, why they want you to be mean to that girl. It’s bad enough that they’re mean to her. Why are they spreading meanness? I mean…I think a really cool thing to do would be to push back and ask them WHY they’re being so mean to her. But if you don’t like confrontation, I’d just shrug them off, and keep being a nice person. If they would drop you for not being mean to someone…then I think it’s time for some new friends, too.

I’m sure that’s hard to hear. But let’s face it…it’s the right thing to do. The good news is, being popular because lots of people genuinely LIKE you feels a LOT better than being popular because people are afraid of you. 🙂

Hey readers, do you have the power of popularity? Do you use it for good or evil?

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  1. Tomboy says

    January 20, 2018 at 8:35 am

    I am very unpoupular lol

  2. 2 says

    January 20, 2018 at 8:30 am

    so me!

  3. The Revengeful, Blue Lady Knight! says

    January 19, 2018 at 9:50 pm

    Hey when you reach a fork,
    And you don’t know what to do,
    You have to do what is right,
    Be a diva or a dork.
    But if you choose the right,
    Not what is easy,
    You will soon find out,
    That you bit the right place to bite.
    If the kid you call your friend
    Is mean to another,
    It means that your friendship,
    Is leading a loose end.
    It’s your heart that decides,
    Something you should definitely follow,
    The thing that shows your true self,
    The little voice inside.
    This poem’s about friendship,
    But as you discovered,
    It’s easier said than done,
    And I advise you to listen,
    To yourself, not anoher one.
    I hope this poem made you feel better!

  4. Dork gril says

    January 19, 2018 at 1:58 pm

    Be a dork

  5. Sugar lolly pop says

    January 19, 2018 at 12:37 pm

    I know Brandon is right

  6. Crazy Crazy Cat Girl says

    January 19, 2018 at 2:22 am

    Girl don’t even think about being mean! Be yourself! Even if it means you wont be a CCP.

  7. Coolish says

    January 19, 2018 at 2:04 am

    Being nice is being good!

  8. Just advice says

    January 18, 2018 at 10:20 pm

    To be honest in my opinion she should find better friends just saying

  9. LuvTheSmell says

    January 18, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    #AngelOrDevil?

  10. Anonymous says

    January 18, 2018 at 11:34 am

    My “friend” is a CCP and she is so mean to me!

  11. Princess Unicorn and Dorkicorn says

    January 18, 2018 at 10:34 am

    No and don’t be rude like them their Mackenzie and Jessica in real life just tell them and make them understand what mean people Confused CCP if your reading this then maybe you should think of getting your friends and to not be bullies I mean they have to be insecure to a cool and funny girl (aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!!!!!!!!!!!!!) they just love being mean just say “If you don’t want to be nice to this super cool and funny girl then I don’t want to be friends.” that way they will realize and think “What have we done?” and if your crush gives you a hard time tell him “Fine if you don’t want to be nice then you should think what a hard time you’ve been giving me for liking a super cool and funny girl.” don’t yell and then he’ll think “oh my gosh I’m a monster” that way they’ll be more nicer to that girl you like. P.S. I’m a girl no kidding.

  12. The Slient Dork says

    January 18, 2018 at 8:24 am

    I agree! Cause just because i am a CCP soesnt mean i need to be mean!! #Bullys

  13. Teen Titans Go! says

    January 18, 2018 at 4:16 am

    Hi Confused CCP Don’t Ever Think About Being Mean Here Are Ways To Get The Pressure Off Your Back.
    1.Don’t Be Friends With Those People
    2.Tell A Trusted Adult
    3.Be Nice To Whoever You Want Kindness Rules
    Oh And Use The Power Of Popularity For Niceness Not Evilness
    #Dorks4Eva
    TTG Is Out!!!!!!

  14. Fuzzy Friends says

    January 17, 2018 at 9:25 pm

    i agree

  15. Brainy says

    January 17, 2018 at 11:36 am

    Don’t ever think of being mean !

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