March 10, 2018 HELP! I’M BEING BLACKMAILED!! S’up Brandon! I consider myself a friendly, caring dude with a variety of nice friends. But the jocks want me to ditch my friends and hang with them instead. Well, they overlooked one very minor detail…I DON’T WANT TO! They’re rude and always discriminating against people. Personally, I think that’s JUST WRONG! But, they said that if I don’t join them, they’ll spill the beans about my humiliating secret! Brandon, what the heck do I do know? Bothered By Blackmail Hey Bothered By Blackmail, Okay, this whole situation is SUPER messed up! I’m glad you’ve got a variety of nice friends. And I’m glad you can see that the way those jocks treat other people is not okay. (Though I’m guessing it’s one particular group of jocks, since there are plenty of friendly athletes.) But it’s super messed up that anyone would try to blackmail you into being their friend. Because that’s what it sounds like! I mean, I’m sure you’re great, but why are they even messing with you? Why not leave you to your group of friends, and they could just mind their own business? I’m sure you’re wondering the same thing. The blackmail piece is what makes this a tough situation. Because otherwise you could just carry on with your friends and ignore the jocks. But they’re holding something over your head. Let’s imagine what would happen if you decide to go along with them, so they don’t spill your secrets. What will happen next? I mean, you’re only going to be a part of the group because you were blackmailed into being there. So…that sounds like it would be tough to actually be friends with anyone. Won’t you resent them? And they’ll have power over you. Plus, they’ll keep blackmailing you, even when you’re a part of the group. They’ll just keep using this embarrassing secret to get you to do stuff you don’t want to do. It might be even worse than whatever secret they’ve got on you! So I think you might have to call their bluff and be prepared to face the consequences. There’s a chance they won’t actually bother spilling the beans. Maybe they’ll have moved on to torturing someone else. But let’s be honest – they sound like jerks. So there’s a solid chance they will. If there’s someone who will be particularly hurt/upset/angry by whatever this secret is, I think the best move might be to go directly to that person and confess. Give them a heads up that the secret might become public, if it could be embarrassing to them, too. However, if the embarrassing secret is only about only you, try to remember that the more chill you are about it, the faster it will blow over. And it sounds like you’re a well-liked guy with good friends. Hopefully most people whose opinions matter to you will see the jocks as jerks for trying to mess with your reputation. You might just have to face the consequences for this secret thing. But whatever they are, they probably won’t be as serious as the consequences you’d end up facing in the long term if you get in deeper with this group of horrible guys. Have you ever been blackmailed? How did you handle it? Tell us in the comments!
Maddie_is_litty178 says March 24, 2018 at 10:38 am Tell the principal and let her handle the boys that blackmailed you
Nerdy CCP says March 23, 2018 at 5:24 am My now best friend used to bully me because she was being black mailed and the two mean CCP’s at the time threatened to tell the whole class her secret. The two planned if she bullied me enough one of them would me in the top 5. I’m so thankful that atleast i got fifth place , became best friends and never saw those two again.
Stronggirl says March 22, 2018 at 8:57 pm You should tell a adult this and make sure to not be a pushover
athletic says March 20, 2018 at 8:23 pm bro, don’t let yourself get pushed around. be whatever you want to be.
Dory girl 1 says March 19, 2018 at 7:34 pm I’m a girl but I know what you mean because I remember when my BFF`s didn’t get invited to a party I knew they really wanted to go to but some of the ccp’s invited me and they wanted me to keep that a secret from my best friends but I decided not to go because I knew it would hurt them!☺
Little Liar says March 18, 2018 at 7:40 am Hey I’m facing something similar and I wish someone out there can give me some advice. I’m a dorky “nice kid” in school and this popular so-called “bad boy” is into me!! And worse, he wants to follow my private social media accounts thinking I trust him and we are super close. But I don’t!! He’s forcing me to accept him real bad and I lied to him countless times and made many different excuses that don’t link up. He still is forcing me and I’m getting pressurised. I don’t want to hurt hil by straight out telling him the truth. He reveals stuff to his friends who have influential power in the school and and I’m scared he reveals how I’m mean by not accepting him even though I have a lot of followers. I don’t want another rumor to start! Please reply!!
dorkycupcake72 says March 23, 2018 at 3:38 pm Hi, Little Liar, Okay. So that is just WRONG. So you don’t like him… he needs to find himself a river, build himself a bridge and GET OVER IT!! But this sounds serious. He can’t force you into liking him. In fact, you probably just keep disliking him even more day by day. And you need to tell him this. Just be like: “Look, I know you like me and want me to follow you on social media (instagram, twitter whatever) but I won’t accept. I don’t like you that way. The way you’re trying force me into a relationship is NOT. COOL. I would like if you would be nicer – not just to me, but to everyone else. Then maybe, just maybe, we can be friends. But until then, leave me alone, please. I’d appreciate that.” I know you don’t want to hurt his feelings, but the truth is better than being a liar. Because you’d just have to keep covering up a lie with another lie to make up for that lie and one day it will get out into the open. (A little lie is like a little pregancy: Not much time goes by until the whole world finds out -C.S. Lewis) If he tries to spread a rumor and people get hurt, then you need to tell an adult. A teacher, your parents… just an adult whom you trust. They can do something about it. And go to your friends for moral support! I know that we can put an end to this guy’s bossiness and meanness. Hope this advice helps!
Anonymous says March 24, 2018 at 11:24 am Hey Little Liar, If you’re getting into a sticky situtation like this, delete your social media and make a different one.