November 10, 2018 HEEELP! MY PANTS FELL DOWN!! THIS IS AN EMERGENCY! HELP!! 🙁 Yesterday, all of my pants were in the wash, so I had to borrow my brother’s. During PE I was running around, and forgot my pants were a few sizes too big. Well guess what happened? My pants fell down!! Everyone saw me in my trunks, even the girls, and now this is all people are talking about. The news has gotten around the whole school! But the worst thing is that someone got a picture of me, and now they have posted it on the internet where everyone can see it! What should I do? I’m so embarrassed!! Please write back soon, I am DESPERATE! Humiliated And Helpless Hey Humiliated And Helpless, Okay, I’m not gonna lie. This is BAD. In twenty years, it’ll be a story you laugh about when you tell your kids. But right now? This is Defcon 1 bad. (Did you know Defcon 1 is the worst? Some people think Defcon 5 is the worst, but it really goes in reverse. NOT actually the point right now, I know, but…fun fact!) So, this is an actual nightmare many people have – suddenly being undressed in public – only it really happened to you. That would be bad enough, but to have it recorded and posted on the internet? That brings it to another level. A CYBERBULLYING level. Sharing humiliating photos online of someone else without their permission is 100% covered by your school’s bullying policy and it’s the kind of behavior that needs to be stopped. Whether or not your school takes action (though I’d be shocked if they don’t), you can report the photo to whatever website they posted it to – Twitter, Instagram, whatever. They all have ways to report abusive content, which this definitely is. Even if there hadn’t been photos, this would have been super embarrassing, no doubt. And I’m sure lots of people were talking about it. But in the time it’s taken me to read your letter and respond, I’m pretty sure they’ve also probably moved on to the next juicy item of gossip. We don’t have very long attention spans, which is a good thing in this situation. If people DO keep bringing it up, the very best thing you can do is make a joke of it and act like you think it was hilarious too. I know it’ll be hard. I know you’re mortified. But if you make yourself a target, people will take aim. Find a way to laugh with them and they’re more likely to move on. Normally I’m all about telling people to be themselves, but this is the rare case when you actually want to play a part. Imagine how the most confident, cocky guy in your school would react if this happened to him. Then try to play that part, responding to teasing with the same kind of jokes or who-cares-attitude he would. Hey. This whole pants-falling-down fiasco could have happened to ANYONE. It’s a big deal because, for some reason, we all think that bodies are embarrassing. But believe me, it will pass. But the photo getting shared on the internet? That’s what really bothers me. That didn’t have to happen. It’s not something just anyone would do. Please report it so there are consequences for that bully. As for everything else, try not to let it bother you. What do you do when something super embarrassing happens to you? Any tips for laughing it off? Tell us in the comments!
Artistic Ferret says November 18, 2018 at 4:45 pm OMG! I feel so bad for you! Honestly, who does that?! People can be so rude sometimes. That person needs to grow up! Probably everyone has had this happen to them before, even if they haven’t said anything about it. First, I would keep an extra pair of clothes at school, whether it’s in your locker or in your backpack. Next, your pants fell down. Don’t worry. It will all blow over eventually. It may seem like the end of the world, but it’s not. Eventually, the people laughing about this will move on to the next piano-playing kitten or the next adorable puppy. Don’t worry. Finally, on to the cyberbully. It’s bad enough people are laughing and talking about it in your school, but posting it online? THAT’S on a WHOLE new level. That cyberbully needs to be reported. I would talk to your principal, a teacher, or anyone with authority who can find out who posted that picture. Just remember this: It WILL be okay. Don’t stress about it. Best Of Luck, Artistic Ferret
FortniteGirl says November 18, 2018 at 3:20 pm Okay. This is serious. Okay, if your pants fell down during PE, which I know is SUPER hard to laugh off, then totally try to forget about it! FAST! But if people are posting this on the INTERNET, that is a BIG deal! The your principal or trusted teacher about the incident, because in schools across the globe, cyberbullying is NOT TOLERATED! It’s basically the same as telling someone that they DO NOT belong but IN PERSON! Anyway, it could REALLY hurt someone else–not just with feelings, but it can leave a permanent dent in your self-esteem, which is really important. Anyway, the next step (other than telling your principal) is to tell your parents. This is very important–parents should know if another kid is hurting their son (or daughter!). Then, they can talk to your principal about it in a special meeting and should try to find out who in the school posted it, and who in the school wanted to do this to you. Seriously, cyberbullying is the biggest NO-NO in the whole school, so they could be expelled for that sort of behavior. Best of luck, FortniteGirl
I’m sorry girl says November 18, 2018 at 12:12 pm I’m so sorry I would NEVER laugh at that. That is super mean
petsitting problems says November 17, 2018 at 2:30 pm WHAT THE FREAKING HECK!?!? THAT IS SO EMBARRASSING!!!!!!!
a says November 17, 2018 at 1:26 pm Last time I slipped in mud at school,I got up asked my friends for a jacket and act Luke nothing happened.I honestly learned to stop being a cry baby like when I was smaller.
Dork lover#1 says November 16, 2018 at 5:59 pm i feel so bad for you. I hope everyone will forget about it soon. Good Luck!
Hi says November 16, 2018 at 4:17 pm I get pranked almost EVERY DAY so I have had a lot of practice with laughing it off, so just look in the mirror and do your best laugh. Practice makes perfect!
Alice says November 16, 2018 at 3:47 pm I agree with Brandon. Cyberbullying is not a good thing! You need to consult an adult or trusted teacher! I hope it works out for you! Love, Alice
Dorky but loveble says November 16, 2018 at 3:02 pm Oh man that’s bad but you shouldn’t care I would say that after I cried in the bathroom for two hours
Shipper says November 16, 2018 at 10:50 am AYE BRANDON! I SHIP YOU AND NIKKI! #NIKDON #BRANDKI #NIKKI&BRANDONTOGETHER