March 30, 2019 MY FRIEND WILL BE MAD IF I TRY OUT FOR SPORTS!!! Dear Brandon, Me and my BFF have always thought popular people like athletes and cheerleaders were mean, rude, self-centered, and obsessed with their team sport. But…lately I’ve wanted to try out for cheer and basketball! I’m scared my BFF will get mad and won’t be my friend anymore if I try out for these teams. HELP!!! So Not A CCP Hey So Not A CCP, This situation sounds really tricky. But, to be honest, I think it’s going to turn out better than you expect. I think your friend will be surprised, for sure. But mad? Only if you completely dump her and turn into a mean, rude, self-centered person who’s obsessed with their team sport or whatever. You sound like a nice person, so I don’t think you’re going to do that. And neither do ALL athletes and cheerleaders. Because there’s a lot more to them than some silly stereotype. They’re people, after all. Good, bad, and sporty. 🙂 It’s easy to talk badly about cute, cool, popular people, or as Nikki calls them, “CCPs.” They seem untouchable, like they have all the power. A lot of times, we assume CCPs are looking down on us, so we look down on them first. But the truth is, they’re just living their lives, with all their own insecurities too. There’s this thing my grandma says all the time: When you know better, you do better. It’s from an author named Maya Angelou. Sometimes we do, say or think certain things because we don’t have enough information. Now, that doesn’t let us off the hook. Sometimes we don’t have enough information because we’ve been too lazy or judgmental to learn more about whatever it is. But eventually we learn more, and then we know better, and then we change our attitude and our actions. So you’ve learned more about cheer and basketball. Enough to want to do them yourself. And as you do them, you’ll get to know the other people who do them, and your point of view will change. So can your BFF’s! When you tell your BFF about your new interests, explain WHY you’re interested in cheer and basketball. Maybe she’ll want to join you. And whether she does or not, maybe she’ll see cheerleaders and athletes in a new light if you become one. Just make sure your friend knows you’re not dumping her for these new activities. You’re just trying something new, and there’s nothing wrong with that! Hey guys, do you think it’s okay to start doing something that your friends don’t like? What advice do you have for So Not A CCP?
Bunny says April 12, 2019 at 3:14 pm just go with the flo if ur friend doesn’t like u then shes not a very good friend
Miss Davin says April 12, 2019 at 1:33 pm Don’t listen to your friend, listen to your heart! Do what you want to do.
powwerbird27 says April 11, 2019 at 7:41 pm dear brandon my crush likes(really likes me)i dont know what to do help
Never too Old for Horses :) says April 10, 2019 at 9:53 am Hi! This is me! I posted I comment before this but it didn’t post so I’m hoping this one will! I just wanna say that you should follow your heart wherever it takes you! 🙂 Remember, we’ve got your back girlfriend! ;D
Anonymous says April 8, 2019 at 4:27 pm I have the same exact problem my so called BFF I making me feel insecure about my choices in life I don’t live in America and I am leaving primary school she was soo unhappy when I got in to this fancy all girl prep school when she got in to well not a good school I’m so glad I don’t need to feel insecure about my choices again!
CuteAwesomeUnicorn says April 8, 2019 at 2:35 pm never try and change what u like just so ur friend can be happy
dull dork says April 8, 2019 at 5:25 am do not let your best friend hold you back just because they like one thing dosent mean you have to but most importently just be you!
Dork finder says April 7, 2019 at 9:01 pm Look you know I’ve thought that two but when I grow up I want two be a cheer girl a nice one but if your scared don’t be you are not bad mean or all that other stuff if your friend doesn’t like it shes not respecting what you want to do so just do what makes you happy
Disney Dork says April 6, 2019 at 3:08 pm If your friend is mad at you for being yourself by doing sports and cheer she isn’t your true friend
Super Dork 999 says April 9, 2019 at 2:42 pm I agree with you! It doesn’t matter what you’re doing as long as YOU like it!
cute dork says April 6, 2019 at 2:00 pm I am normal person and all my friends in the class loves me and calls me kind , sweet , funnny and cute. They love me even though I am not famous. I try out new things and my bffs love it. They always support me