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April 3, 2019

I FEEL PRESSURED TO BE LIKE THE PERFECT GIRLS IN MAGAZINES, SOCIAL MEDIA, AND ON TV!

Hi Nikki,

It seems like the only way to fit in is if you have long flowing hair, flawless skin, and stylish clothes, just like all the glam girls do on TV, in magazines, and social media. I don’t have any of those things, and it makes me feel really bad. Should I get a makeover?

Wish I Was Perfect

Hi Wish I Was Perfect,

OMG!! I totally feel this. I wish you could see me now. I have a GIANT zit right on the end of my nose!!! If I were drawing myself in my diary, I FOR SURE wouldn’t include the zit!!! I’m a DORK, not the Wicked Witch of the West!!!

It’s the same on TV, in magazines and social media. Those perfect faces and bodies? None of it is real! The glam girls (and guys too, honestly) you see on screens and magazine covers are so filtered, Photoshopped, airbrushed and digitally altered that you probably wouldn’t even recognize the real person if you passed them on the street! 

(If you Google “Photoshopped models,” you’ll see a bunch of before and after shots. They’ll COMPLETELY open your eyes!)

I’m not just talking about zits getting removed. I’m talking about bodies being completely reshaped – stomachs flattened, legs slimmed down, eyes enlarged, cheekbones raised. It’s gotten so extreme that some countries have created laws to regulate it, because it’s a public health issue.

People see these images and believe they need to look the same way, only these bodies are FAKE, which is dangerous! They’re totally messing with our minds. Some girls feel like we should go on strict diets or even STARVE in order to lose unhealthy amounts of weight so that they can look like those models!

So do you need a makeover? Sure. A CONFIDENCE makeover!!! 🙂 

I mean, you could spend a bunch of money on fancy clothes, makeup and hair styling. But it’s not going to change anything. You’re still not going to look like models in magazines because you’re a human being, not a fake image. And you’re still going to find things to feel insecure about. 

As soon as you have long, flowing hair, super short pixie cuts will be the style. And, even if you DID have perfect hair, skin, and clothes, you might start thinking that your nose is too long, your eyes are too close together, or your feet are too big.

If you think a perfect appearance will make you fit in, take a closer look at the most popular kids at your school. Are they perfect? I guarantee they’re not. (Nobody is!) They’re just kids who have confidence and attractive personalities.

So, remember the truth about the models in those pictures. Usually, they’re just trying to sell you something. Always, they’re trying to make you feel like they have something you don’t. 

But YOU have something they don’t! You’re a real human being with a brain, a heart, strengths AND flaws. When you show those things to the world with confidence, another girl who’s wondering if she’s enough will see you and feel better about herself too!

Do pictures of models ever make you feel like you’re not good enough? Have you ever looked at how those pictures are changed to make you think they’re perfect? Any advice for Wish I Was Perfect? Tell us in the comments.

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  1. Flower princess says

    April 18, 2019 at 7:32 am

    I soooooooooooooooooooooooo love the dork diaries lots.

  2. The PAR-TAY animal says

    April 18, 2019 at 2:37 am

    I just KNOW that you look WAYYYYY better than me!

  3. love yourself says

    April 17, 2019 at 9:20 pm

    BE-U-TIFUL

  4. Chickens4life says

    April 17, 2019 at 3:41 pm

    I searched it up! Plus sized models were slimmed down, eyes were enlarged, and there was so much Photoshop!!

  5. Diary queen says

    April 17, 2019 at 2:08 pm

    I feel pressured to be like the girls that everyone likes.I also feel like nobody likes me.But,my advice is to act proud and confident.

  6. smile more! says

    April 17, 2019 at 7:40 am

    yep! I’ve seen it! your perfictly imperfict!!

  7. TheStripedParrot says

    April 17, 2019 at 7:10 am

    Girl, I feel you. I pretty much have hairy arms and legs which are SO hairy, I call myself a gorilla. A few months ago, I would have freaked out because literally every girl in my class is not like that, but now I realize that it’s a special feature of mine. Kinda like being a dork, at first you hate it but then you LOVE being a dork!
    DORKS RULE!!

  8. jessica says

    April 17, 2019 at 7:07 am

    Nikki is so good at this!

  9. jessica says

    April 17, 2019 at 7:03 am

    These books are the bestt

  10. WaterRose says

    April 17, 2019 at 3:49 am

    I think you should just accept yourself, just the way you are.

  11. kittycat says

    April 16, 2019 at 7:00 pm

    I love the advice because I love everything

  12. Anonymous says

    April 16, 2019 at 5:22 pm

    Please, don’t feel pressured to become a Barbie! I’m sure you’re awesome just as you are (and I know that sounds cringy, but I don’t care). I mean, would you rather live off salad or eat your own body weight in ice cream?

  13. TheGirlWithNoName says

    April 16, 2019 at 11:34 am

    I really really feel you.
    You see spots at EVERY ANGLE of my face, but I love myself and you should too!

  14. Anonymous says

    April 16, 2019 at 1:03 am

    Beautiful article Nikki

  15. Bananana says

    April 15, 2019 at 5:13 pm

    Love who you are

  16. Soccer lover 35 says

    April 15, 2019 at 11:45 am

    Do you know why they are called “Super models”? Because it is super rare that you will find an actual one.

  17. Love-sick girl says

    April 15, 2019 at 10:20 am

    Hey Nikki,I have a crush on someone and don’t know how to tell him☹️

    • CaticornKitty Dork says

      April 16, 2019 at 7:06 am

      Me too. IDK what to do.

    • Diary queen says

      April 17, 2019 at 2:10 pm

      I feel you Love-sick Girl.I have a crush and I don’t know how to tell him.

  18. Anoynomous says

    April 15, 2019 at 12:41 am

    I know! Some people on mags and tv are so fake!

  19. Anonymous says

    April 14, 2019 at 11:43 pm

    While you’re googling “photo shopped models”, try googling photo shopped animals! Some of them will really brighten your day! (Just my opinion!)

  20. Herimone Granger says

    April 14, 2019 at 8:55 pm

    i feel like that always!!!!

  21. Spicy says

    April 14, 2019 at 5:19 pm

    OMG! Google photoshopped modals! It’s a real eyeball opener!

    • Starco4life⭐ says

      April 17, 2019 at 3:43 pm

      Same!!! My mom wants me to do modeling! (You basically sit still and look pretty[ pun intended])

  22. CaticornKitty Dork says

    April 14, 2019 at 4:22 pm

    Even after reading that, I still need advice. Like almost every girl, I have low self esteem. And my parents don’t help. Every time that I try to make myself feel better, my parents dont allow me to do those fun things that make me happy. What do I do?

  23. Worst Life Ever says

    April 14, 2019 at 3:20 pm

    Hi Nikki

    I have 2 BFFs who are just like “Chloe” and “Zoey”. We always have lots of fun together. I can also tell that they truly care about me! Though sometimes they leave me alone and pretend I’m not there!☹️They can totally ignore me! Do you have any idea how to stop this? If you ask me I seriously have no idea how to stop it!

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