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July 28, 2019

Should You Quit a Team Just Because Someone is Picking on You?

Hey Brandon!

I’m on the soccer team at school and there’s this jerk that’s always picking on me.  He’s poured Gatorade into my cleats and tripped me during our games.  I could almost understand his behavior if he were on the opposing team.  But, get this…HE’S MY TEAMMATE!  I’ve even lost 3 soccer balls thanks to this hater “accidently” kicking my ball over the fence and into the woods.  Since he’s giving me such a hard time, should I leave the team? I no longer enjoy the game because of this guy!

Soccer Stinks!

Dear Soccer Stinks! Wow, soccer really does stink, if you have to put up with treatment like that! I’m sorry to hear it!!

But does SOCCER really stink? I’m guessing it’s not the game. It’s just this one guy, right? When you imagine hitting the field without this guy on the team, do you start grinning and dribbling an imaginary ball? One person shouldn’t have the power to make you miserable doing something you’ve always loved.

From the sound of it, this goes way beyond “picking on you.” Maybe one ball over the fence could be an accident, but three? No way. And aside from the balls, this guy is damaging your property—from what I understand, soccer cleats aren’t cheap. But the thing that worries me the most? You could break an ankle or something if he keeps on tripping you during games. There’s a reason he’d get a red card if a ref saw him do it.

Normally, I’d suggest you try to talk to someone who has a problem with you, and see if there’s a way you can work it out. But, honestly! I think you need to take this one to the adults. Maybe a coach or a ref has noticed the on-field antics. But whether they’ve noticed or not, you need to fill someone in on what’s happening on and off the field. Let the adults figure out what’s next. If anyone should leave the team, I think it should be this guy who’s giving you so much trouble.

I know you want to be able to solve this yourself and you might worry about being a tattletale. But, what if you end up with broken bones? And if he gets tired of messing with you, that type of guy will probably just move on to messing with someone else. It really sounds to me like he needs help. And you need to get back your love of the game!

What do you guys think? When do you deal with a bully yourself and when do you involve an adult?

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  1. storm chaser says

    August 27, 2019 at 11:16 am

    i’m so sorry,but i think you should tell a adult you trust about the bully.

  2. CCP Gurl 4EVA says

    August 26, 2019 at 2:21 pm

    Dude, Tell your coach! And if he\she doesn’t listen tell your parents about this and get them to tell your coach! This guy should really back off of you!

    • Cheergal says

      August 30, 2019 at 8:33 am

      I totally agree, don’t let him get away with it

  3. Andrea says

    August 26, 2019 at 10:35 am

    No you shouldnt quite your dreams

  4. Picked player says

    August 26, 2019 at 4:38 am

    Hey, I’m on this baseball team and some of the kids are picking on me all day! I suggest you help or give them something nice or just ignore them because after a long while you won’t notice they are picking on you. And in a long time they could be nicer also.

    • Love your advice! says

      August 28, 2019 at 9:40 am

      Well thanks for the advice!!!

  5. Nikkisela says

    August 25, 2019 at 8:21 am

    Never give up !

    He only wants you to melt like Snowman !

    I hope your Team wins.

    NiKkIsEla

  6. here to support says

    August 25, 2019 at 6:30 am

    omg sooo rude. Just be honest and tell him straight to his face. Trust me itll work. If not, Tell THE. TEACHERRRRRR

  7. SassyUnicorn#1 says

    August 24, 2019 at 6:09 pm

    Dear Soccer Stinks!,

    Listen….
    He’s jealous of you, or feels threatened by you. You’re a good player, aren’t you?
    That’s what he’s trying to get you to do….quit. He thinks that if you’re going to quit then he will be the star of the team. DON’T QUIT OR YOU’RE LETTING HIM WIN!
    Love and High Hopes,
    SassyUnicorn#1
    P.S. tell somebody!

    NEED ADVICE? JUST ASK!

  8. Bri the brat says

    August 24, 2019 at 1:21 pm

    Wow I used to have problems like that. If he accuses you of doing all of those things that he did to you he is not new you what to hear. I feel so bad for you 🙁

  9. Mexican girl says

    August 23, 2019 at 10:30 pm

    Aww I feel bad but follow brandon’s advise 🙂

  10. DrOgonDorki says

    August 18, 2019 at 5:07 pm

    Brandon is totally right!Listen to him! DON’T YOU DARE QUIT! *DABS ON THE HATER*

    PS:I am a girl :3

  11. BlueBirdy says

    August 18, 2019 at 8:59 am

    Ugh! that sucks. Don’t quit. Tell someone. Mostly, tell the bully he’s a nincompoop. Or a ninny. Which ever one floats your boat :3

    • Sorry for him says

      August 28, 2019 at 9:42 am

      I just think he may get madder? Sorry no offense

  12. AlexHamiltonGirl says

    August 18, 2019 at 8:57 am

    ugh leave teem
    cuz I give up
    sorry guys
    I got low self esteem

    • pear says

      August 26, 2019 at 5:20 pm

      Same don’t have self esteen eather :3

  13. Hamildork X says

    August 17, 2019 at 9:44 am

    Dear Soccer Stinks,
    Even though I am a girl, I still have some cool advice to share.

    One thing is to just ignore him. When he finds out that you’re not showing any sadness he will get bored of trying to be mean to you.

    Or, just tell the ref or a adult you trust. Sorry, but they are going to have to have a chat with you together.
    And try to dodge when he trips you. You could end up with a broken ankle, just like Brandon said.

    Your dorky friend,
    Hamildork X

    P.S. Need advice? Just ask!

    • CCP Gurl 4EVA says

      August 30, 2019 at 2:31 pm

      Great advice! You really know your stuff!
      Ever thought about doing therapy for people or a Councillor? Because in my opinion, that advice is like what one of those jobs would say!

  14. GirlWithBlackFace says

    August 17, 2019 at 9:20 am

    I know your feeling. This happend with me to put in dance. And i quit because of that. But dont you dare to quit!

  15. awesome advice says

    August 17, 2019 at 4:27 am

    you know the saying haters gonna hate? great well here’s my suggestion……………. FORGET THAT SAYING! don’t follow it because you want to don’t want to you. you have to remember that

  16. Cj says

    August 17, 2019 at 12:05 am

    What did Brandon think about biology class?

  17. Cj says

    August 17, 2019 at 12:04 am

    Will you date her and ask her

  18. SecretlyShe ra says

    August 16, 2019 at 9:59 pm

    Hi My voice matters too,
    Ok,you’re right.We can’t tell him what to do,but you can’t ,either.And you kind of offended me (and other readers)
    when you said that .I mean,we’re respeting his wishes.We can’t make him do something.
    Now,we respect you,we want to make sure you’re heard,but you have to respect us,too.you can’t tell us that we can’t give advice.Thanks!
    Always DORK-i-dy yourself!
    -SecretlyShe ra
    Anyone,need advice?!Feel free to ask!

  19. AngelWings says

    August 16, 2019 at 12:39 am

    DONT U DARE QUIT!!

    Haters gonna hate!

    • The tweenage dork says

      August 17, 2019 at 10:21 pm

      Great comment!

  20. SecretlyShe ra says

    August 15, 2019 at 8:17 pm

    Hi soccer stinks,
    First of all,this guy’s behavoir is NOT cool.What he’s doing is breaking the soccer rules,and he’s making your love of soccer go down the drain.Both of you need serieous help.You,because his behavoir is unaccptable,and him,because,well….he needs to learn that his behavoir will NOT be tolarated on the soccer feild.
    So,I suggest you involve an adult who is incharge of the soccer programs at your school.the coach,ref,etc.
    That way,they’ll deal with him,and you won’t have to worry!
    Hope this helps and that it gets posted!
    Always DORK-i-fy yourself!
    -SecretlyShe ra
    Hey,anybody!Need advice?!Just ask!
    P.S.:School started on the week of August 12th /monday!And my freind jozie got into my class!Thanks so much for your support from:
    Thebagofhope
    That’s it for now!

    • Thebagofhope says

      August 17, 2019 at 12:21 am

      Hi SecretlyShe Ra!
      That’s amazing! Now you could actually enjoy school, because life is quite incomplete without friends!! Which class did you come to?
      My school came into session in April, closed for summer vacations in June and reopened in July… BUT the worst part was that I had to leave my old school! Still struggling to fit in school and my society! Any tips? Also, which country do you live in?
      I hope this gets posted!

      Keep believing in yourself!
      Thebagofhope

      P.S. Where and how are you Toodles?! 🙂

  21. Cat Valentine says

    August 14, 2019 at 2:11 pm

    Tell him to stop being mean

  22. Baking_Master says

    August 13, 2019 at 7:49 pm

    He should leave not you!!!

  23. emi the super dork says

    August 13, 2019 at 8:38 am

    hey!! i know im a girl .-. BUT
    dont quit juat cuz ppl are being mean but in the words of the hack shake sisters YOU RUBBER AND THERE GLUE THIS IS WHAT IM TELLING YOU ANYTHING A HATER GONNA SAY GONNA SAY IT COMES OF ME SAME WITH YOU!! 🙂 DREAM BIG

  24. Weird and Dorky says

    August 12, 2019 at 6:36 pm

    Woah, that is so not cool that your teammate is picking on you! You should definitely tell a trusted adult. Or talk to your soccer coach abut it privately, so the person picking or teasing on you won’t think your a tattle tale. And don’t quit the soccer team if it’s something you enjoy doing. Good luck

  25. dorkibunni says

    August 12, 2019 at 11:06 am

    poor you!

    keep playing!

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