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September 8, 2019

WHY CAN’T BOYS TALK ABOUT THEIR FEELINGS?!?!?

Hi Brandon!

I’ve been seriously crushing on a guy for almost 2 years and I’ve told him as well. But whenever I try to talk to him about it, he just weasels his way out of it. I just want to know how he feels about me. What should I do?

Crazy Crushitis Case

Hi Crazy Crushitis Case,

Whoa, that’s a long time for an unrequited crush! And you’re brave for telling him! It sounds like you’re pretty comfortable talking about your feelings, which is awesome. But not everyone is.

You say he “weasels out of it” when you try to talk to him about how you feel, but I wonder what that means. I’m guessing he doesn’t give you a straight answer about whether or not he likes you back. But he’s in kind of a tough position! Let’s think about his possible responses.

If he DOES like you, he has two options:

  1. OMG, I totally like you too!!!!   Okay, well this would be awesome and is probably what you’re hoping for, but it hasn’t happened, so either it’s not what’s going on OR
  2. Awkward, fumbling, unclear response.  Maybe this is what you’ve gotten? It could possibly be because he DOES like you, but he’s awkward and shy about it and uncomfortable talking about his feelings.

If he DOESN’T like you, he has two options:

  1. I don’t like you. Which is…mean? There might be kinder, gentler ways to say it, but no matter how he says it, he’d probably be worried about hurting your feelings. And he’s a decent guy, so he doesn’t want to do that.
  2. Awkward, fumbling, unclear response. And again, maybe this is what you’ve gotten? Because if he doesn’t like you (like that), but he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, what ends up coming out of his mouth might be totally unclear. One might even say “weaselly.”

So whether he likes you or not, what you see as weaseling out of answering is probably him being uncomfortable with the topic. And it’s not the answer you want but…it’s still sort of an answer? And bugging him until he gives you more of an answer is probably not going to make him like you more.

So I think you should probably try to chill out a little and give him some space. He hasn’t shut you down with a blunt, “I don’t like you,” so you can continue talking with him and being friendly. But you’ve already made clear how you feel. So if he decides he’s got feelings he wants to express, I’m sure he’ll tell you when he’s ready!

Have you ever told a crush how you feel? How have you responded when a crush has told you they like YOU? Tell us in the comments!

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  1. SUN DORK says

    September 23, 2019 at 3:59 pm

    OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! when a boy does this to you, it means he LOVES YOU!!!!!! SQEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  2. Anonymous says

    September 23, 2019 at 10:57 am

    NOPE NOPE I WILL NEVER AND HAVE NOT TOLD MY CRUSH MY FEELINGS ITS TOO EMBARASSING

  3. CuteCreativegirl says

    September 22, 2019 at 1:29 pm

    Maybe he DOES like you, but he’s not ready to admit it. That’s what happened to me. But don’t feel bad, if you really like him, then he must be an awesome guy!

  4. COLL says

    September 22, 2019 at 10:38 am

    It is all good he might be enbaresd or he has a crush on someone else and dosent want to make you sad And eater way it’s nice

  5. Problem Solver says

    September 22, 2019 at 9:05 am

    I think if this boy never talked to you about this… It’s probably because he doesn’t want to admit that he does like you.

  6. Queen bee says

    September 22, 2019 at 8:53 am

    He’s prolly just shy. Give him time and respect his answer

  7. happybunny says

    September 20, 2019 at 8:11 pm

    I have never had a crush, but most school years people are always saying that someone likes me, it actually makes me feel really uncomfortable. any advice?!

  8. NEVER USE UR REAL NAME says

    September 20, 2019 at 5:07 pm

    i have i a crush well had he mouved away

  9. Anonymous says

    September 20, 2019 at 12:19 pm

    It kinda depends on what he’s like, it could go either way just wait and see what happens, he might say something that gives away what he’s rlly feeling!

  10. Dorky Lucia says

    September 20, 2019 at 5:47 am

    WOW…I would not DARE tell my crush that I like him…

  11. VSCO TSK TSK TSK says

    September 19, 2019 at 7:14 pm

    I like a guy at school and he liked me last year too, but we still communicated during the summer. its the 3rd week of school and he asked out the most popular girl in the grade to a dance in DECEMBER! WHAT DO I DOOOO????

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