November 23, 2019 WILL THE STAR ATHLETE OF MY SCHOOL EVER NOTICE ME?! Dear Brandon, HELP!!! I have a crush on a super cute STAR athlete. I have P.E with him, but the problem is… I’m TERRIBLE at sports! While he’s competing nationally, I’m losing in every game, race, and activity! We never talk, and all he really knows about me is I’m a major failure. I’ve tried to get over him, but I can’t stop thinking about him! They say opposites attract, but is it really true in my case? Tales From A Not-So-Wannabe Sports Star Hey Tales From A Not-So-Wannabe Sports Star, Okay, first of all, I think we need to talk about how you see yourself. Just because sports aren’t your thing doesn’t mean you’re a “major failure.” I mean, come on, I’m insulted! Because I’m definitely not an awesome athlete…does that make me a major failure too? Just sayin’. I’m sure there are things you’re good at. Maybe it’s art, cooking, science or making people laugh. When someone else isn’t so good at those things, do you think they’re a major failure? I’m guessing no. Most of us tend to be the hardest on ourselves. So do me a favor and be a little easier on yourself, okay? You’re NOT a major failure. You’re AWESOME! ☺ If we can agree that you’re great and being blah at sports has nothing to do with whether you’re successful or not, let’s move on to this star athlete guy. If he’s competing nationally, then probably NOBODY in your school PE class is anywhere near as good as he is. So you’re not alone. And it probably means he doesn’t judge his classmate’s sporting abilities at all. Like, would a star soccer athlete like Megan Rapinoe show up at a kids’ soccer game and judge the kindergarteners kicking the ball into the wrong goal? It’s possible he’s only interested in sporty girls. It’s also possible he gets enough of sports in all his activities and he really enjoys hanging out with people who have nothing to do with sports and give him a break from that world. Sometimes opposites attract. And sometimes people share the same interests. Crushes tend to be totally unpredictable, I’m afraid. Honestly, I don’t think it matters that you can’t do sports. For all we know, he might still like you if he got to know you. But I wonder—if his whole world is sports, what exactly do YOU like about him? If you really want to know him, you should go talk to him. If you’re genuinely interested in his world of sports, you could ask him about his latest competition. Or if you actually want to get better at sports, you could ask him for some tips. But DON’T do either of these things if you’re not really interested. Changing who you are to get a crush’s attention is NOT the way to go. But I guarantee sports isn’t the only thing that interests him. Maybe you could talk about a book or TV show you’re both into. Or, maybe he might need friendship advice or help with the math homework. Try to figure out something you could help him with that you’re good at. If none of these things work out, getting over him might be the best way to go, and we have whole advice columns about that. The main advice is to keep busy and distracted, and cut out unnecessary reminders of him, like following him on social media. That might be trickier than the average crush, since it sounds like he gets a lot of attention for his accomplishments, but you can do it. Do you believe opposites attract? Or are you more likely to crush on someone who shares your interests? Tell us in the comments!
Dork123 says December 14, 2019 at 7:54 am I have a crush on a person in the year in front of me.But I used to bully him,he’s over it but I don’t think he likes me.
Totally Freaking Out says December 14, 2019 at 6:22 am Hey , I’m totally FREAKING OUT! This super sweet boy just asked me out but I already have a bf. I do not think he knows but I think my bf saw him talking to me. But here’s where I gets crazy. My bf ( Harrison ) already asked me out. ON THE SAME NIGHT! AT THE SAME PLACE! when should I choose and what shall I do?
Hopefull for YOU! says December 13, 2019 at 11:01 pm Tell him to come to your house and put on a romantic movie and set up dinner. Come on fight the urge not to tell him. Its love for you and maybe him hopefully!!
Sparkling Sparkles says December 12, 2019 at 12:06 pm You’re not a major failure,you’re you! Be yourself,forget they say you’re a failure and get on with it,just try your best!
Nikki Sparkles says December 12, 2019 at 12:04 pm You’re not a failure,don’t worry. You don’t get worse just better!
Skater_Girl_2005 says December 12, 2019 at 12:01 pm Here are my three most important tips. #1 Be yourself. Boys don’t like a totally fake girl. #2 Be kind. You are never going to find a guy, if you are mean and snobby. #3 Always be there for someone. If are there for that person, they see you as trustworthy. Then they might trust you with their deepest darkest secrets. Love, Skater_Girl_2005
#dorky says December 10, 2019 at 2:10 am Just be who you are and if he doesn’t like you then he’s silly not to❤❤ You got this girl! Maybe you could ask him to coach you so you get to know each other more ❤xoxo
crushinonamusicanboy says December 9, 2019 at 4:00 am I really need HELP!! I met this really cute, nice boy who came with his school band to my school for a music event, and I hung out with him for a week, and now I have a MEGA crush on him, but he left back to his school! He lives in a different country, and I might never see him again!! I can’t stop thinking about him, and I don’t know if I should tell him about my feelings or not! Please help me!!
Not so popular girl says December 8, 2019 at 4:30 pm Brandon help I have a crush on this boy but I’m not good at social stuff and when I try to get over him I always bump into him and I get nervous please help me and the worst part is I sit right in front of him and when I look back it’s to look at him help me
G Girl says December 8, 2019 at 1:12 pm you got this . if your gym teacher gives you partner work ask him to be your partner.
rose butter says December 7, 2019 at 10:31 pm if you want to get better at sports and like him too, just ask him to coach you. This way you’ll be hanging out, and after practice with him you can say,” Hey_________, do you wanna get some ________ with me? (btw the first blank is for his name, and the second blank is for what you want to get; like ice cream, or smoothies, etc) Also, you MUST be yourself. imagine if he DID like you when your faking, then you stop faking suddenly. he will be shocked because he has been falling for a fake instead of falling for an awesome girl (or boy, I don’t judge) like you! ur awesome! xoxo Rose Butter
omg girl says December 7, 2019 at 4:51 pm I mean just tell him girl you can do it and if he doesn’t like you say it was a prank and try to frind a guys who likes you. you sound so kind
I know advice when I see it. says December 7, 2019 at 4:44 am Tales from a not so-wannabe-sports star, Listen, Brandon’s advice is NOT what you need to know about being different to your crush’s personal strong suit. If you wanna have him crush on you, you have to show him what YOU are good at! Then, he’ll be crushing on you because of YOUR AH-MAY-ZANG talent!! Try MY advice!