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December 4, 2019

When You’re Stuck With Kooky Family Members During The Holidays 

Hi everyone, Nikki here!  Since we’ll all be stuck with our families for the holidays and the New Year, I thought I’d re-post this advice column about how to deal with your zany family members at family get-togethers.

Dear Nikki, I have a very large family. All of my relatives live in different cities, so during the holidays we have big family gatherings.

I HATE attending these gatherings because everyone gets pretty rowdy, including the kids. It makes me feel nervous and uncomfortable.

I can’t tell my parents that I don’t want to attend the gatherings because I HAVE to. What should I do?

Frustrating Family Fiasco

Hi Frustrating Family Fiasco! That’s so cool that you have a big family, though I’m sure it’s a little annoying that they get so wild. It sounds like you’re not as outgoing as everyone else, and you like things a little more chill and quiet.

I get why your parents would want you to be part of these gatherings, since they’re big family events, and you’re an important part of your family.

But I’m sure your mom wouldn’t be so happy if one night she found you curled up in a ball in the corner, plugging your ears, muttering, “So loud… too crazy… FREAKING OUT!!!”

Maybe it would help to tell her how you feel and suggest a few solutions.

You could explain that it actually makes you super anxious to be around so much activity and rowdy people.

Then you could ask if she’s cool with any of these ideas:

  1. Maybe after you chat with the whole group for a while, you can go up to your room and work on extra credit stuff for school, and then you can come back down toward the end of the night after having a little space. (Parents LOVE when you volunteer to do extra credit! To them, this means “eventual college scholarship and fewer nights eating spam and Raman noodles to save up for your tuition.”)
  1. .
  2. You can see if any of your cousins want to join you for a quiet activity in your room (or their room, if you’re at their house), like watching a movie or playing a game.
  3. If your parents aren’t cool with you leaving the main area, or no one wants to do something quieter with you, maybe you can bust out your iPod for a little while and listen to music when you start getting annoyed or stressed out.

It’s possible that your mom might say something like, “It’s once a month! Suck it up, loosen up, and have a little fun!”

And the last part isn’t bad advice. It IS only once a month, and maybe if you relax a bit, these parties will seem less obnoxious and more entertaining.

(My family is SUPER entertaining when they’re obnoxious…and I have a whole blog that proves it!)

What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Frustrating Family Fiasco? How do you deal with kooky family members during the holidays? I’d also love to hear all about your kookiest family member or something really crazy that happened to you while your family was over!

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  1. annoyed old sister says

    January 8, 2020 at 5:50 pm

    i have a brother im older tho

  2. Anonymous says

    January 8, 2020 at 5:49 pm

    cool

  3. Posh princesses says

    January 8, 2020 at 12:41 pm

    I feel the same. I like being posh but my family is way to kooky

  4. Cool dork says

    January 8, 2020 at 3:40 am

    I think u r lucky u get to spend time with your relatives.

  5. Anonymous says

    January 8, 2020 at 3:36 am

    I think u are lucky u get to meet your relatives and spend time with them.

  6. kitty queen says

    January 7, 2020 at 7:29 pm

    I do wish my family could be a little more quiet.

  7. You says

    January 7, 2020 at 5:31 pm

    Some times I feel like you

  8. chickenlover says

    January 7, 2020 at 12:35 pm

    lucky, we never have family parties

  9. Good Luck! says

    January 7, 2020 at 3:58 am

    I totally understand, sometimes parents get really annoying but the more you inquire into them the more understandment you have for them.

  10. dokrey girll says

    January 6, 2020 at 6:26 pm

    my lifes really cruddy like hers to

  11. DramaDiva says

    January 6, 2020 at 5:04 pm

    My family is some times annoying too

  12. Please just be quiet says

    January 6, 2020 at 3:01 pm

    I just tell the kids tat are in the room that their favorite person is out side hiding and waiting for them to come find them and once their out the room will be less crazy since the kids usually make more noise than the adults.

  13. ArianaGrandeROCKS247 says

    January 5, 2020 at 6:44 pm

    i am an only child

    • Anonymous says

      January 7, 2020 at 3:59 am

      Lucky!

  14. TheCraftedCrusader says

    January 5, 2020 at 1:31 pm

    One time,When my family attended my aunt’s Christmas party.It got SO crazy that we made a HUGE mess.It was the best party ever.

  15. Katniss Everdeen says

    January 5, 2020 at 5:16 am

    I just chill and sit around.

  16. How much HW left?! says

    January 4, 2020 at 8:21 pm

    Same, my cousin gave me a tube of toothpaste! She drives me NUTS!!!!!

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