March 29, 2020 MY CRUSH IS LOSING INTEREST! Hey Brandon, HELP!! I’m SO confused! My crush used to be really nice to me, but now he seems uninterested in what I say or do. But when I ask him if he doesn’t like me anymore, he acts like I’m crazy and nothing’s wrong. I really need some advice! Crushed By My Crush What’s Up Crushed By My Crush, Hey, I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. Things are always the most exciting with a crush when the friendship is new. But you should never feel like someone who cares about you is completely uninterested in you! Your crush doesn’t sound like he’s sensitive if he makes you feel like you’re crazy for telling the truth about how you feel. It doesn’t mean all is lost, but it definitely sounds like he needs to be a better friend and consider your feelings. Sometimes people change and drift apart. Unfortunately, this can happen in friendships that involve crushes. It’s really uncomfortable, but everyone really needs to be honest about their feelings and where they stand. It sounds like you’ve tried to have the hard conversation, asking him what’s up. But maybe he felt defensive, or hadn’t really figured out his feelings when you asked. Truth is, he might be confused as well! Here’s what I think you DON’T need to do: change anything about yourself. It might be tempting to try to make yourself more interesting and get his attention back. But even if it worked, you don’t want to constantly be putting on a show and pretending to be what you’re not to keep his attention. He should like you for who you really are, not who you are when you’re trying to get his attention. The same thing is true with your other friends. There’ve been times when I’ve tried to be who I thought friends wanted me to be, and even if it works for a little while, it’s exhausting. It makes you feel fake, and you wish they liked who you really are. I think you should try to talk to him (again), and be really clear about what you’re asking. Explain how you see him acting differently and how it makes you feel. If he says nothing’s wrong, it’s okay to push a little and say things really feel different to you. If he’s just making you feel bad, then it might be time to find a new crush. It won’t mean you failed at the friendship. It won’t even mean he failed, except maybe sort of at communication. It’s just part of life. But the more communication skills you build in a relationship, the better for all your relationships in the future – friendships, crushes, and even family. How do you handle it when a friendship or a crush drifts apart? Tell us in the comments.
Really Desperate says April 12, 2020 at 2:25 am Can I get some help with my crush situation? I like this guy but and he seems to like me, but he has a friend (that is a girl) that constantly follows him and annoys him. For example, he’d walk into class and sit next to me, but she’d get jealous and sit near him. It’s obvious that she likes him. She even invited herself into his friend group. What should I do?
The divergent mockigjay says April 11, 2020 at 6:02 am If he is loosing interest, then he is obviously not good enough for you! I’m sure u rock!
Gogetter9 says April 10, 2020 at 12:34 pm Like.. that’s just so mean about him so girl, u gotta get another crush!
Miss Ask'N'Answer says April 9, 2020 at 6:04 pm Oof! That’s bad! Having a crush who is loosing interest in you? Eek!! I should probably start by saying, even if things don’t work out for you in the end that’s okay! Everyone has a mate waiting for them some were! Now que to the advice! If he’s losing interest that might be cause he’s obsessed with. . . UCK! . . . FORTNITE!!! If he tends to like that HORRIBLE GAME! Then he probably wants to have a chat about with his friends that know about it. If he somehow DOEN’T like fortnite (which has pretty slim chances) Then he might like one of those other weird boy-ish games or shows. Either that or he might actually be trying to get you to confess your love to him before it’s to late and he likes you back! If he turns you down don’t sweat it! That just means there is still your soulmate that will love you forever is still out there! I hope that this advice has helped. Also! If anyone has a problem please ask me! Just seeing everyone else’s problems makes sad and I want help! I mean, MY LIFE IS EXACTICALY LIKE NIKKI’S!! I am NOT lying! Anyway! I give everyone the BEST OF LUCK! – Miss Ask’N’Answer!
The divergent mockigjay says April 11, 2020 at 6:01 am EEEEEWWWWW!!! I hate Fortnite! All of my boy relations and classmates are all about Fortnite 24/7! I hate it sooooooo bad!
Roxy123465 says April 11, 2020 at 8:29 pm You are totally right! Except for the Fortnite game! That is your opinion! Not everyone elses! I am a girl and so is my cousin! We like Fortnite!
dorky dork says April 9, 2020 at 2:23 pm hmm i think asking Nikki was the best thing to do.. good luck
Advice Giver #1 says April 9, 2020 at 1:14 pm Ok…So…First.. 1. Ask yourself why he’s losing interest. Did you do anything he doesn’t like? Maybe you accidentally did something? 2. I was gonna say hang out…But virtually! Coronavirus is going around, so if you can’t actually hang out, get his number and videocall him. If you don’t have it, ask your mum, dad or friends. They might know it. 3. I’m gonna say what I said to Ignored By Crush…Don’t make a HUGE effort! Guys don’t really like that, unless they have a huge ego and like it when girls make a huge effort for them or fight over them. 4. Talk to him more. You can get a better relationship then. But I’m really thinking that there’s something wrong at his house or he’s moving..It just feels like it! Also, maybe your mum could ask his mum (or your dad could ask his dad) if there’s anything bad happening. 5. And this one, girl, is up to you. Make your own destiny. I’m rooting for you, and I really hope you and him get together. Byee! •3•
Kitty Cake/Crafty girl says April 9, 2020 at 1:27 pm Advice giver #1, you are amazing at giving advice! Good job! Keep it up!
Dorky Caramel chocolate (yum) says April 9, 2020 at 3:17 am Ask him about it and tell him that he can tell you and doesn’t have to keep it hidden even if it upsets you if it dose upsets you talk to your friends and remember that we are here to help and Brandon has got all of the advice if you do feel upset don’t worry about it crushed by my crush just brush it off your mind
DorkyPotato ;w; says April 8, 2020 at 10:10 am You should ask him why he’s acting that way. If he said he’s not interested in you, you should get over it and find another friend :>
banana girl says April 7, 2020 at 9:10 pm Try to leave each other alone for a while. Always works! When you think the time is right, just walk up, say hi and start a natural conversation!
dorkygirl123321 says April 7, 2020 at 9:07 pm ask him about it, its probably just something small that’s bugging him
fashionable dork says April 7, 2020 at 1:47 pm This is what I say cry yourself a river bill a bridge and get over it!
awesome people use this name says April 7, 2020 at 8:49 am Hey, there is a simple answer to this. Ask when he’s free and then ask him to hang out when he is free. if he immedietly says something just popped up on the day you two hang out without checking his phone, say ‘seriously?!? i thought my i heard you were free on that day. well whatever, bye’. That should make him feel bad and he will ask YOU to hang out.
Anonymous says April 7, 2020 at 7:12 am I feel you. I have the same sort of problem just that it’s with my BFF. Recently she has been working with a classmate and she hasn’t been working with me much. Every time I ask her if she wants to work with me she says she can’t because she is already working with someone else. I told her how special she was to me and asked her if she wanted to work with me and she said that she promised we would work together after the easter holidays. So I honestly think the key to this situation is mostly communication. Like Brandon said ask him clearly what’s up.
Stormie says April 6, 2020 at 10:08 pm I’m a girl that likes a girl, we are really good friends to! I feel bad. Maybe, ask ur crush to hang out at lunch or something?
Dorky4ever3332 says April 6, 2020 at 1:05 am im a single pringle and i loveeee it!!!! if I had a problem like this i would go to Nikki or maybe a family member and then i’d go to my crush and say….! hey dude you really are making me feel bad csn we talk about it.. and then keep going on IF THESE DUDES DONT APRICCIATE US WOMEN THEN THAT’S TERRIBLE THERE JUST LOSING AMAZING GIRLS THAT PROBLABLY THEY WON’T GET BACK you boys need to stop treating us girls like objects and people don’t think about yourself we have feelings to if you reakky don’t care then go ahead lose a amazing person but i’m telling you you’re going to regret it…
awesome people use this name says April 7, 2020 at 8:53 am That was……A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Katniss Everdeen says April 11, 2020 at 6:04 am You are amazing! YASS QUEEN! Keep fighting for our equality! I love the way u think!
Ignored by crush says April 5, 2020 at 7:00 am I’m kinda crushing on a boy in my class, but he OBVIOUSLY doesn’t realize it! It really hurts my feelings when my friend tells me SHE has a crush on him, but there’s more! He actually notices HER, and it’s like I’m just in the background, heartbroken and unwanted. Anybody, PLEASE give me advice!
Advice Angel says April 5, 2020 at 11:33 am Ignored By Crush, Have you tried talking to him? Maybe your friend just knows him better, so he talks to her instead. Do you know this guy well? If you don’t, then try to get to know him. Then he’ll probably talk to you more if he knows you better. I have a crush on a guy in my class. Once I started talking to him and getting to know him better, he opened up and we talked for days at lunchtime. Slowly, we became good friends and when we got into 7th grade, he asked me to be his girlfriend! Now, were in 10th grade, helping other couples get together! Try to be a good friend to him at first, and when you guys know each other well, very very well, ask him. If he says no, It’s OK, girly! Just stay being friends with him! Who knows, maybe he might have just said the first thing that came to his head! Just be yourself around him. If he hates you for who you are, just remember, there’s a nice guy just waiting for you! Advice Angel
Advice Giver #1 says April 9, 2020 at 1:05 pm The thing is.. You can’t pick who he likes. BUT you can try make him like you. So, first things first. 1. Don’t act like your making a HUGE effort. It kinda repels guys, so just wear some nice casual clothes and don’t be a huge flirter. (Just do that when it gets serious) 2. Talk to him more. If you have his number or something you can ask to videocall him sometime, maybe ask him about his favourite TV show or how he likes staying inside. (I personally love it!) If you don’t have his number…Ask your mum! She probably knows his mum, right? You can ask her for his number and she can ask his mum. 3. Tell your friend that you like him, maybe you can sort it out. (This is the very XTREME part, it’s what you’ll have to do but not immediately). 4. MOVIE NIGHT!!! This is also a thing you can do on videocall. (How, you may ask? Well. You watch the same movie and talk about it. With food, obviously. You can use Skype or something like that, BUT I still recommend houseparty. You can invite your friends to make it less awkward too.) Still don’t have his number? Ask your friends! They’ll probably know it or someone who does. 5. And, after you get a good relationship…Ask him! (duh!) If he says no, find another guy you like and follow the advice that we all gave you! <3
Sulky Sister says April 5, 2020 at 3:53 am if anyone doesnt like the way u r ,( not saying ur crush just like…anyone!) THEY should be the one changing, not u!! from the letter, i really like the way u r !!!!!