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April 19, 2020

MY CRUSH LIKES SOMEONE ELSE! ☹️

Hi Brandon,

I need your help! I’ve had a crush on the same boy like FOREVER. But I just found out that he’s crushing on somebody else! Should I stop crushing on him? HOW?!

Catastrophic Crush-tastrophe

Hey Catastrophic Crush-tastrophe,

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. It’s a major bummer. When you have a crush, there’s always the exciting hope that they might feel the same way. But if your crush likes somebody else…well that hope is kinda…CRUSHED (no pun intended). ☹

You ask if you should stop crushing on him, like it’s that easy. If it IS that easy for you, then yes, you should. Mostly for your own sake, because watching him go on and on about the girl he already likes is going to be SO hard if you’re still crushing on him. And also because you don’t want to be the kind of person who gets in the middle of that sort of thing and tries to control who he likes or doesn’t like. Please believe me, you control another person.

But the fact is, I’m afraid you also can’t just flip your crush feelings off like a light switch either. I mean, I’ve never been able to. Most people can’t which is why crushes are so complicated sometimes. Life would be a lot easier if we could, am I right?

So how do you get over your crush? Or at least handle him liking someone else without too much heartache?

  1. First, let yourself feel sad. Express those feelings in a journal or playing music. Try telling your dog, cat, fish or whatever pet you have about it. Whatever. Let the feelings out. It’ll be a lot harder to move on if you skip this step.
  2. Try to limit how much you have to be around him, especially when he’s going on and on about this other crush. That might mean unfollowing on social media, so you don’t see posts about it or photos of them together. It might mean sitting somewhere different at lunch when you’re back in school. There might be situations you can’t change, like if you all have classes together, but just do what you can to forget about it.
  3. Stay busy. Start a new hobby, learn a new language, or Skype your grandma. Whatever it takes to distract you so you don’t have time to sit around thinking about your crush.
  4. If you have friends who know about your crush, tell them you’re trying to get over it and remind them not to bring him up around you. You might even ask them to stop talking about crushes altogether, just for a while.
  5. Finally, give it time. That’s the most important thing for getting over crushes, I think. It’s not going to happen overnight. But it WILL happen.

What are your tips for getting over a crush? Do you stop crushing on someone if they like somebody else? Tell us in the comments!

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  1. Helena says

    May 15, 2020 at 1:35 pm

    I need help with my crush

  2. Pricess says

    May 15, 2020 at 4:24 am

    I have a crush on a SUPERcute boy he is literally sitting in front of me right now

  3. i got you girl says

    May 14, 2020 at 4:56 pm

    tell him why do like the other girl and dose he has feelings or the her

  4. Popularqueenie says

    May 14, 2020 at 4:46 pm

    Well I am so popular that all the boys have crushes on me but I have my boy ! But I wasn’t always the queen of my school and when I was in second grade I had a crush on this guy who never had one on me but now he has a MEGa crush on me So pal I was you and don’t worry there are loads of cute and friendly boys out there

  5. I'm Unpopular. Just Unpopular. says

    May 14, 2020 at 4:38 pm

    This Has Happened To Me, But I Can’t Quite Get Over It.

  6. Anonymous says

    May 14, 2020 at 3:52 pm

    i need help too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  7. Anonymous says

    May 14, 2020 at 10:28 am

    It’s okay Nikki

  8. bumble bee 2j84 says

    May 14, 2020 at 8:44 am

    i need help i think my crush likes someone else

  9. Crush Queen says

    May 13, 2020 at 7:08 pm

    I hate when that happens just be yourself and be nice

  10. OMG crush catastrophe says

    May 13, 2020 at 7:03 pm

    Im the SAME i have a crush but i feel like they like someone else it a bad feeling but you cant help it p.S The person he was crushing on was my bff talk about harsh

    • delicate cool girl says

      May 15, 2020 at 10:26 pm

      sad

  11. Nikki j. says

    May 13, 2020 at 5:50 pm

    Hey Brandon I’m Nikki j and I like this boy named peter I want to ask him to the dance but I really like this boy named Michel who likes me and I like him help me decide!

  12. unicorn girl says

    May 13, 2020 at 1:17 pm

    I am so sorry for you

  13. Dorkofthecentury says

    May 13, 2020 at 11:29 am

    I feel bad for you. Hang in there.

  14. HelpfulHurricane says

    May 13, 2020 at 10:54 am

    I’m guessing you can find someone better than him!! <3

  15. Girl friend says

    May 13, 2020 at 6:06 am

    I have a crush we meet last year and became very good friends and the this year at the start of 2020 we found out that we have crushes on each other sqeeeeeeeeeeee!

    • Anonymous says

      May 17, 2020 at 6:02 am

      Omg so lucky! I wish my crush liked me back but I just can’t tell

  16. We are all in it together!! says

    May 12, 2020 at 9:55 pm

    I feel you, thats hapened to everone!

  17. Nikki jonior says

    May 12, 2020 at 2:15 pm

    I need help with my crush too

  18. Anonymous says

    May 12, 2020 at 9:30 am

    yup that’s happened to me before

  19. Queen of the CCP's says

    May 11, 2020 at 10:33 pm

    thanks there really helpful

  20. DORKY DORK says

    May 11, 2020 at 9:34 pm

    IT NEVER HAPPENED TO ME BECAUSE ALL THE BOYS ARE SUPER GROSS

  21. crazy about holidays says

    May 11, 2020 at 9:07 pm

    I don’t have a crush. I’m SO unpopular! I am proud of that!

  22. 2dorky4u says

    May 11, 2020 at 2:22 pm

    I really need crush tips too. helpful

    • Crush Queen says

      May 13, 2020 at 7:07 pm

      well be yourself and have a scene of humor

  23. Lila says

    May 11, 2020 at 12:55 pm

    Hey so there’s this girl named Marinette in my class and she has a crush on MY crush! Ugh. Any advice?

    • Callie says

      May 12, 2020 at 5:49 pm

      Omg it’s just like Miraculous!!

    • OMG crush catastrophe says

      May 13, 2020 at 7:05 pm

      umm Kinda just be yourself not anyone else, be nice and be loose and dorky just be you

    • Kitty says

      May 14, 2020 at 7:56 am

      Girl that is because you are probably pretending that you are from miraculous!!

    • Anonymous says

      May 14, 2020 at 11:13 am

      Ask Chloe to get Marinette in trouble while you steal Adrien.
      (I see you, Miraculous Ladybug fan)

      ;D

  24. yeetus2000 says

    May 11, 2020 at 10:38 am

    yea this happened before

  25. Dork Diary Lover says

    May 11, 2020 at 6:12 am

    I know the feeling.

    • Crush Queen says

      May 13, 2020 at 7:06 pm

      its hard

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