June 18, 2020 HOW DO I CHOOSE A BFF?! Dear Nikki, I have a LOT of friends, which is great, but they keep asking who my BEST friend is. I don’t know and I feel like I have to tell them! But then the one I don’t choose is going to feel bad. I’ve asked them if I can have more than one, but they say no. I have too many people to choose from and I don’t know who to choose. Please help me out! Bummed BFF Hi Bummed BFF, Okay, first of all, I am PROOF that you can have more than one BFF! I would never in a million years choose between Chloe and Zoey (and they would never ask me to!). I’m sure there will be some people who read your question and wish they were in your shoes. I definitely get A LOT of letters from people wishing they had a BFF, or any good friends at all. I’m not trying to make you feel bad—your situation sounds really tough! But maybe people who struggle with not having friends will see that even people with a lot of friends have problems, too. Having BFFs is great! But honestly, having so many great friends that you can’t choose which one is the best also sounds pretty great. You shouldn’t HAVE to choose. And you’re right—if you choose only ONE person as your BFF, there are going to be lots of hurt feelings! If someone really IS your BFF, I don’t think you should hide that to protect other people. BUT if you truly don’t feel like you’re closer to one friend than another, don’t let them pressure you. After all, REAL friends don’t pressure friends to choose who’s the best! Also, if everyone is trying to be named your best friend, it sounds like you actually have some power. I know that comes with tons of pressure. But you can also use that power in a good way! If they really want to be your friends so badly, they’re not going to dump you if you refuse to name a BFF. Instead, tell them that you think they’re all equally awesome in their own way! Then point out why you think so for each friend. For example, one friend might host amazing sleepovers, while another has a great sense of humor. Hopefully that should make them feel special enough to get them off your back! LOL 😀!! So, I say stand strong! Tell them you’re not choosing. You love all your friends and they’re all special and that’s that. There might be some hurt feelings from people who think you should have chosen them, but it won’t be as bad as if you had actually named someone else. They’ll get over it. (And if they don’t, they DEFINITELY aren’t BFF material.) What do you guys think? How do you deal with choosing the best BFF, or do you think you shouldn’t have to choose? Tell us in the comments!
Helpful Helper says July 1, 2020 at 2:54 pm Ok,ok,ok. Got it!!! Which BFF do you trust most? The one who made you confused,or one of the others? Simple! Talk to them personally,such as a call while you’re at home or just a text. Like Nikki would to Chloe or Zoey!Even though I’m sure they trust each other equally.Right,fellow dorks???
Friendless Dork says July 1, 2020 at 2:42 pm Hi Nikki, I’ve been studying at my school for years.You expect me to have an amazing life and lots of friends,right? WRONG!My problem is KA-RAY-ZEE! The girls in my class ignore me.When I ask them,they say they don’t know what to reply.Now how RUDE is THAT?! And now that I can’t see them much,it’s harder than ever. What did YOU do when you were new to WCD???
Luvdorkdiaries says July 1, 2020 at 11:23 am I used to have that problem but now I know that I can have as many bffs as I want
TotalDork says July 1, 2020 at 11:04 am I have a big group and there is 7 of us and we r all BFFs!!! This is also proof u can have more than one bff, and it’s nice to have more than one so if u fall out with one, another can be there to comfort u! Hope u find Nikki’s advice helpful xx
puppylover2000 says July 1, 2020 at 9:42 am hey, its ok ive got a lot of BFFs and its great to have more than 1!
GamerKawaiiXoX says July 1, 2020 at 8:01 am Me and my two friends ask me too!! (I tell them they are both the best.)
CCP Forever!(A kind one!) says July 1, 2020 at 4:32 am If they are very sensitive friends,then just tell them that you count all of them as you fav bffs!I did that and it tots worked for me!
I626& says July 1, 2020 at 3:00 am It’s alright, relax. To be honest I have a loads of friends, but one secret BFF. Just do what you think is right. – hands cookie-.
•♡ARMY ADVICE ♡• says June 30, 2020 at 11:11 pm Hi Bummed BFF, Wow, you are lucky to have a lot of friends, but at the same time, it’s kind of stressful on how they keep asking you who your “best friend” is. It seems like your friends like you, which is why they regularly inquire you about this. I don’t think you need to choose who you like better. Based on the letter that you wrote, it seems that you do not have a favorite, and you admire them equally. So, just tell them the truth that you appreciate every one of them for who they are. Your friends are all different people, which is what makes you like them. Please do not feel obligated to choose. I’m sure your friends were curious, and they don’t mind if you feel indifferent about them. I hope this helps. Best regards, •♡ARMY ADVICE ♡•
Lover Girl says June 30, 2020 at 1:35 pm dear bummed Bff you dont have to just 1 bff, you can have lots of bffs. I have had that problem befor and it was hard to pick untill my mom said { you don’t have to have to worry who your friend is but you have to worry about how they act} so what i meen is that you can give your friends each a awored for something that you think is great about them. you can tell them that you don’t want to have just 1 bff but you want to have them all as your bff. I shure that they will understand what you meen. well hope you and your friends figer out a way to solve this problem. Love, Lover Girl
Unicorn Cupcake says June 30, 2020 at 6:20 am ‘sup nikchicks (a nickname for “nikki”) thx for the advice. I have some friends and 1 is I known for a long time.
Dorkalicious 1 says June 30, 2020 at 5:05 am Yeah, I agree. Having too many BFFs is great but my friends actually gave me a TEST to see who would be my Number 1 BFF! 🙁