October 22, 2020 HELP! I’VE GOT HALLOWEEN COSTUME DRAMA! Hi Nikki,Here’s the deal—I’ve known my BFF forever (we were even born at the same hospital just a day apart!). We ALWAYS dress the same on Halloween, and I always feel like I give into whatever she wants to be (even if I want to be something else). This year, I REALLY want us to go as minions (I found us the most hilarious costumes and MINIONS is our favorite movie!), but she’s insisting that we dress up as our favorite pop stars and take microphones to sing “Trick or Treat!” into. When I brought up the fact that she NEVER wants to do my idea, we got into a huge fight! It was our first argument ever! Now we’re not talking to each other. I don’t want to lose my BFF, but I’m so tired of giving in! What should I do??!?Halloween Costume Conflict Dear Halloween Costume Conflict,This is a tough situation! Trust me, I know from experience that it can be really hard to balance friendships when you and your BFF don’t want the same thing. It’s easy to think, “Hey, we do EVERYTHING together! How could we possibly disagree on something?!” But here’s the thing. Even twins don’t always like the same things. And sometimes, the more diverse your interests and ideas are, the more you can appreciate your friend. Okay, so confession time: wanna hear more about how I can relate to you? One Halloween, my besties wanted the three of us to show up to the school Halloween party as GARBAGE BAGS! And they were SO excited about it! THEN, I got roped into dressing up for a little girl’s b-day party really close by. OMG, and guess what costume the girl’s parents gave me to wear to entertain all of the kiddies??? IT WAS A GIANT RAT ☹️!! And THEN, I got asked to the Halloween dance by my crush (you know who!), so I wanted a Halloween costume just for me that, um…maybe wasn’t a garbage bag. Or a rodent! I got to wear a totally beautiful dress! 😀 I tried to balance all three, without anyone finding out! How well do you think THAT went down? Just read my Diary #2: Tales From A Not-So-Popular Party Girl to find out (SPOILER ALERT: Lots of embarrassment and devious acts by MacKenzie!). SO, first of all, I think it’s VERY cool that you have a BFF that you’ve known that long! When I moved and started going to my new school, Westchester Country Day, I didn’t have any friends at all. Now Chloe and Zoey are the best BFFs a girl could ever have! That said, there are even times with Chloe and Zoey when I feel like they don’t completely understand me—I mean, how could they? But when any of us share our feelings, we always seem to come together. None of us want to let each other down, even if it means sacrificing the things we want. But from what it sounds like, you’ve been doing more of the Halloween sacrificing. My GUESS (and it’s just a guess!) is that your BFF had NO idea you felt that strongly about Halloween costumes for all of these years. It’s DEFINITELY not your fault for being so agreeable . . . but it’s not necessarily all her fault for not knowing your true feelings. Bottom line, you guys are BFFs! You can’t throw that away on a night of dressing up and begging people for candy! I mean, seriously, Brianna does that at least three times a week. (PS, Brianna, if you’re reading this, I know where that chocolate bar went, you little brat! I don’t believe for a second that Miss Penelope took it! ☹️)Here’s my advice: First and foremost, after you both have had a little space, let her know that you want to work things out. Maybe text or call her and say that you’re so sorry that you fought. You don’t have to apologize for standing up for yourself—you shouldn’t be sorry for your feelings—but just let her know that you want to talk. Maybe invite her to a virtual sleepover by using Zoom or FaceTime.Don’t hold things back whenever you talk, but don’t be insensitive. Again, she’s probably more embarrassed than angry with you. Remember, she’s your BFF—it was never her intention to hurt you.Consider dressing up differently this year. Just a thought—you can both rock your own costume and still have a good time! 😀 Just don’t forget to wear a face mask and practice proper social distancing! That’s all I’ve got for today! Now it’s YOUR turn, readers—have you ever had a major argument with a friend about Halloween costumes or anything else? Any tips for how to handle it? Tell us all about it in the comments below!
luvnikkiand har says November 10, 2020 at 8:11 am ya right u choose vat u wanna wear or else it will be like yr bff is yr master!
chivasmr19 says November 9, 2020 at 10:24 pm look me and my friend were born in the same year but we both don´t like halloween ah i still remember we were texting each other but yeah i don´t know (help me!!!!)
I get it girl!!! says November 9, 2020 at 7:22 pm Maybe you and your friend need a little time apart. This has happened to me before, and it really stinks.My bff wanted to be peanutbutter and jelly costumes, and girlfriend, I thought they were bad. We looked silly. So,I told my friend why dont we be different this year. She was not happy with it at first, but then we were bffs again!! You got this!!
Puppy Girl Problems says November 9, 2020 at 6:42 pm Hi Little June!I have some advise for you.This happens to me all the time!My younger brother SCREAMS at me from the top of his lungs almost every day!So,my first idea is to confront her about it.Tell her how you feel,she may feel bad for you.If that doesn’t work,tell your Aunt,Uncle,Mom,and Dad about the situation.Also,if she does feel bad for you,maybe start being very kind and buy a friendship necklace with your allowance or remaining money!I really hope this helps!Bye and Stay Safe Little June!
Puppy Girl Prob says November 9, 2020 at 6:38 pm Hi Little June,I have an idea of how to help!So,this happens to me sometimes.But what I would do is actually confront her about it,because it will make you feel better!If it gets worse tell your Aunt\Uncle and you Mom\Dad about it!Bye!
✨✨Crystal✨✨ says November 9, 2020 at 2:05 pm You’ve been doing what she wants for YEARS. I think think she should understand that you are your own person, and you can make decisions! To confront her about this, you should probably tell her the reality of the situation, and be HONEST. Hope all goes well!
Dorkykitten45 says November 9, 2020 at 11:56 am I need to try and make some cool characters on dork maker like that!
#1 Dork Diaries Fan says November 8, 2020 at 1:36 pm Heres just a little tip! If your town DOESNT 🙁 allow trick or treating, just wear something cute and halloweeny! If your family isnt as kooky as Nikki Maxwells, (You still gotta luv ’em) you can always do a cool family costume! <3 Hope this helps!
little june says November 8, 2020 at 7:10 am Dear donutsandcottencandy or anyone who can give me some advise , my cousin Jess (fake name but real person) is being so mean to me , but i want to be her friend , what should i do ? please help. From,little june
SelfieChicStar says November 7, 2020 at 11:09 pm OMG YOUR FEIEND IS SOOOOO RIGHT! U SHOULD DRESS UP AS DIVAS NOT MINIONS! UGH! SUCH A TACKY IDEA!
Dorkiest Dork says November 8, 2020 at 2:22 pm Your wrong. Every one should be what they want for Halloween! It only happens once a year!
GamingN3rd says November 9, 2020 at 10:10 am Halloween isn’t about that. I wore a suit for my costume (20s-60s cartoon animator) and my friend was Bendy (well sort of. black striped shirt, black tutu, black devil horns). Our other two friends wore completely different (not that any of ours were similar). Costumes aren’t what makes Halloween. Sure, it’s fun, but that isn’t what it should be all about. I’m not saying you shouldn’t dress up, I mean, it’s still really fun. But my friends and I didn’t entirely care about how tacky or strange our costumes were. Heck, by the end of the night, we’d almost forgotten we were wearing costumes. We spent the night laughing through a haunted house and just having fun. What I mean to say is that it doesn’t matter how tacky your costume is as long as you like it. In the end, a dazzling costume means nothing if you didn’t have fun. If you have fun and don’t care how strange your costume is, no one can get to you about it.
Magdalena MoonStar says November 10, 2020 at 9:53 pm Um, SelfieChicStar, that’s pretty rude? So what if they want to go/dress up as minions? It really doesn’t matter? There’s nothing wrong or tacky about that!
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IheartDD says November 10, 2020 at 10:12 pm Hi! How do you know if a boy likes you from an online perspective (like, distance learning and online?) Thanks! – IHEARTDD
WINTER101 says November 7, 2020 at 5:56 pm HI, Mysteriously Me, My ADVICE: -Ok I have been there and I know what to do! You have to ask him if he like you or not. Skype him and ask him and if he says yes then this is what to do! 1;)Tell him softly and he will understand 2:)Say something that wont hurt him, but is enough to let him get the point your girl WINTER101!