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IS IT OKAY TO LIE TO MY BFFS?

Dear Nikki,
I have two BFFs just like you! We do everything together. Lately, we’ve been playing this online game where you have to be a team of three. The thing is, I don’t even LIKE playing online games. In fact, I kind of hate it. I’d rather be reading! But I told them that I love it, because they’re obsessed with it! They want me to play the game every day and it’s killing me! If I tell them the truth, I’m afraid they’ll get mad at me. . . and maybe stop wanting to be friends. What should I do?

Liar, Liar, Pants On Fire

Hi Liar, Liar, Pants On Fire,
Funny you should mention lies, because my dad just wore a shirt this morning that was COVERED IN DEAD BUGS LYING ON THEIR BACKS!!! He said it would be good for his extermination business, and he was all, “Isn’t this great?! Nikki, what do you think?”

I nearly choked on my cereal. Okay, I didn’t nearly choke. I totally choked. Then, thanks to Brianna, Miss Penelope pounded me on the back until I coughed up a cereal marshmallow shaped like a unicorn. My dad clearly LOVED the ridiculous, hideous shirt, so I looked at the wall behind him and said, “Um. . . I like it.” Because who doesn’t like walls in houses, right??? So I didn’t really lie.

Yeah, I TOTALLY lied. And that’s the thing. There are all kinds of lies:

  1. Mean lies, like the kind Mackenzie spreads about me constantly.
  2. Weird lies, like my temporary gym teacher Sensei Hawk saying he didn’t know where the salami sandwich in his gi (aka, karate uniform) came from.
  3. Little lies, like the one I told my dad (which, hey, wasn’t technically a lie, because I was talking about the wall! It’s a nice wall!).
  4. Straight up nice lies, like when someone asks you if you like their new haircut (PS, THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS YES! Even Brianna told me that my hair looked FABULOUS at Salon Brianna after she stinkin’ CUT. MY. BRAID. Okay, so that lie was completely obvious, and I didn’t appreciate it at the time, so maybe that’s a bad example).
  5. Accidental lies, like when you feel pressured into not telling the truth to friends or family. . . like when I didn’t tell my friends Chloe and Zoey that Brandon had asked me to a dance, because the three of us were supposed to go as a trio. I couldn’t stand to let them down!!!

Your situation sounds like a classic number five. And I totally get how you feel! Deep down, I know that Chloe and Zoey would have been SO excited for me if I had told them that Brandon asked me to a dance. They might have even done my Snoopy Happy Dance with me (though that would have been pretty tough if we were all in the janitor’s closet where we have our meetings during school—it’s a little cramped in there).

When I think back on that time, I really wish that I’d just been honest with them. I told myself that I was trying to protect THEM because I didn’t want to disappoint them, but really. . . I think I was trying to protect ME. I was worried about what they would think. Would they hate me for ditching our idea of going together? The answer, which I realized way too late, was OF COURSE NOT!!

The thing about lying is that it eats you up inside. I LITERALLY felt sick to my stomach, knowing that I hadn’t been truthful with my best friends. Turns out, it would have been better for me and my BFFs if I had just been honest from the start. I mean, would you want to be lied to by your BFFs? Probably not. But also, if you found out that a BFF lied to you about a sensitive situation, would you be mad at them forever? Again, probably not. When it comes down to it, it’s your decision!

My advice for you is this: be honest and up front. Talk to your BFFs about your situation and tell them how much they mean to you—I’ll bet that everything will work out fine! Then find out if there’s anything else you guys could do together that all of you sincerely love. 😀

Okay, readers, what do you think? Have you ever felt like you needed to lie to a BFF? How did it make you feel? Tell us all about it in the comments!

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  1. Quirky Question Time!

    Where were YOU supposed to go for summer 2020?

    I was supposed to go to Disneyland Paris! Also, any advice written will be taken, and will take up to around 2 weeks to get your response! Cant wait to hear your problems/answers!

    ~Dorky Advice

  4. Hi Nikki,
    I am so like amazed you are here but the thing is I feel like my friend is talking about me behind my back! I just don’t know what to do???

  5. Don’t worry I know what it feels like, it is hard but listen to the advice and trust me it will get better

  8. It’s not okay to lie to your friends neither pretending to like something when you dont is not okay

    • Oh stop it, of course she has to tell her BFFS the truth and then it will be all over and done with.
      Have some sense #DorkDiariesForever!!!!!

  10. Hi liar liar pants in fire, don’t worry about it I lie to my BFFS all the time
    About personal things and things I don’t want them knowing
    Don’t stress about it Xx

  11. Dear any advice giver,
    I need help!!
    So, y’know how like a lot of people have a crush and you always want to know what your crush thinks of you, but really do you want him to like you. Well i had a crush on this boy and i didn’t want him to like me deep down but then he found out i liked him and he likes me. We have been emailing and talking a lot but i don’t like him loads and he just want’s to go like public and let everyone know we are dating , even though we aren’t. He so sweet but i don’t want him to find out that i don’t like him that much and i don’t want him to start telling people about us otherwise people will make fun of us! What should i do?!
    Please help me, anyone who reads this. I feel like this is my BIGGEST problem ever
    Also i want to give a big shut out to: WINTER101, Rainbow crystal ( sorry that last time i asked for help i called you rainbow sparkles!!), DORKY CCP CHIC, Music lover, pinkie pie Dork from Korea and pine_apple for all the amazing feel good content you guys post, it always makes me smile!!!
    Merry Christmas to every dork diaries fan and anyone who reads this!
    PS: if i added your nick name to this post sorry i couldn’t add the emoji thingies that some of you guys use
    Your paper Friend,
    The note girl

    • Hi! I’m not any of the awesome advice givers you listed, but I think I might have an answer to your dilemma.
      A crush can go both ways: You can either like you crush a lot and they never know you exist, or you can like your crush a lot and they like you back. It’s great that you got the latter, but maybe a crush is just one of those things you want until you get, and the journey is greater than the destination, right? So it’s understandable that you might not be so into the guy anymore. That’s totally okay!
      You’re you, and you control your own feelings! You’re in charge here! Nevertheless, we don’t want to hurt anyone, do we? So here’s my advice: Get your crush a new crush!
      If you want to let him down gently, you obviously need to do it, well, gently! So why not get him into another girl? A friend of yours? An enemy? Once that happens, you’ll just drift apart…which I assume you want to happen? Anyway, I hope this helped, and if you need advice, you can add my name to the list of amazing advice givers here.
      Love,
      Beautiful girl inside & out

  12. Wow i mean that would be pretty normal i would do that but not lie to them because you know if i didn’t like games.

  13. be honest with ur bffs if they were real freinds they will understand 🙂 and if u do that do it nicely

  16. Hi Liar, Liar, Pants On Fire, Here’s my advice: Tell your friends KINDLY and CARFULLY, face to face, that you’re not a fan of the game. You shouldn’t lie to friends. You shouldn’t lie at all! If they get upset, give them time and space to calm down. Maybe a day or two. If they’re still upset after that, hang out with other friends until they’ve really and truly calmed down. Then explain to them (like I said, face to face) that maybe you could each stick to the activities that make you happy. -SugarBomb

  18. I remember when my friend asked if I liked her bracelet I said yes but there was way to much going on on that braclet

  19. I think you should tell them and if they get mad all you need to know is that they still care for you they just wish that you told them sooner!

  20. Be your self. tell them the truth they wont hate you and if they do forget then. you are who you are and dont let then stop you

  21. OMG HI NIKKI

    so here is the stitch
    i have a crush in this guy

    he gave me his pencil cause mine broke!!!!!

    anyway i told him i like him he regeted with a laugh but then like 2 weeks ago to gave him my number anomineesly but they found out rlly fast but i still like him..

    So then i only foumd out 2 days ago that he gave my bff €2 cause she accidentally hit a coffie machine and my frenimey refused to give one to her because she was crying but now im aeeimg it more and more that he might like her and she might like him ive told my bff that he is the guy of my dreams and she stills acts the way she dose i try to get her to admit it that she likes him but she always throws a HUDGE HISSY FIT and screams she dosent

    What should i do im really worried he might like her

  22. If your friends made you play that game THEY love you could make them do something YOU love maybe <3

  23. CALLING ALL ADVICE GIVERS!!!!!!

    Okay, I’m going to start. I have a problem that I feel talentless. I just had a spelling bee yesterday and I got fourth place. Suddenly, I’m thinking I DON’T have any talent. I play the piano, and have been doing it for 8 years. However, I see one of my friends that has been doing piano for 2 years and has been playing songs. He says he’s good, but I’ve never heard play. I think he’s better than me. It goes with the same with every I know!! Reading, tennis, etc!! I know I’m being insecure, but I can’t help it!! Please help me ASAP!!!
    PLEASE POST FAST!!!!!!

    • Hi Talentless,
      First of all NEVER think that you don’t have a talent. Everyone is good at something or the other. Sometimes it just takes some time to find your talent. It took me 3 years to find something I was good at. So don’t give up! Keep trying new things! I am sure an amazing person like you will find your talent and passion 😉
      PS: Here are somethings you can try-
      Singing
      Gymnastics
      Art
      Story Writing
      Poem Writing
      Coding

    • Ok so calm down, and take a break.

      Here, Talentless

      Just because you’re not good at some stuff doesn’t mean you can’t practice (or choose another talent)! It’s ok to not be good. It doesn’t matter. What matters most is your personality. You might have hidden talents, so don’t give up. If your friend is good at everything, it doesn’t mean that you have to be good too! I’m not judging you just because it’s insecure. But don’t give up. You can do what you love without being bothered. Just don’t think about it. And maybe, you can take lessons from him! I play the piano, and I stink. But I found another hidden talent I never saw before: sports! So don’t ever give up. If you love it, you can keep it within your heart. If you want, you can let it go and search for a new one. And it doesn’t matter one bit. People love you for who you are, not for what you do. So keep your talent, but practice. You don’t need to be better then people. Don’t hang in there!

      PS If ya need help I’m ya gurl. Or u could talk to my idles, TAPDANCER & WINTER101! Have a nice day!

    • Dear Christmas Present Catastrophe,

      I had a cold in September. Weird! Here’s some advice:

      1- please, LISTEN TO YOUR PARENTS!
      And…
      2- maybe mail out the presents NEXT year! i’ttl save you a LOT of hard work making MORE!

      Good luck,

      ~Dorky Advice

    • Hey, Talentless!

      Okay, talents are something that people will discover when they try new things. For example, I can burp on command. (That sounds a bit gross, but whatever). Okay, you shouldn’t compare yourself to others. It’ll bring you down and you’ll lose confidence in yourself. But talents don’t come without practice. Spelling might be your talent, but you haven’t had enough practice with it.

      There are a lot of hobbies that people can choose from. A few are making jewelry, gaming, reading, writing, sports, etc. If you are good at certain hobbies, it becomes a talent. If a certain talent feels like a chore then STEP AWAY FROM THE ACTIVITY. Find something new and don’t give up on talents so much.

      Hopefully, this advice works! ~Clever Capricorn

      Quick Question! Do you have a talent or are you still searching? Feel free to comment!

    • Just because you fell talentless doesn’t mean that other people feel that way about you. I know I have the same problem, and it’s nice to see that someone out there feels the same way!!! Just try to focus on all of your strengths and all of the amazing things that you can do, like tennis and playing the piano. This helped me and I hope it will help you too!!! I hope you get this! BYE!

    • Hi Talentless! First of all: you have talent. All of us have talent. Whether it be bike riding to cleaning your room, all of us are good at something! It just takes time and patience to master it.

      Anyways, It’s okay that you got 4th place. in fact, it’s awesome! I ain’t the best at spelling either. The thing is, nobody is good at everything. What matters is we try our best, nobody is perfect.

      For the piano situation, don’t compare yourself to other people; everyone learns at their own pace. Some learn more quickly than others, but that does not mean they’re better than you. Believe in yourself.

      Whenever you doubt about how good you are, tell yourself, “No, you are awesome! Keep on trying!” or something like that.

      I am rooting for you; have a good day/night, stay safe!

      PS. Due to schoolwork, I haven’t been really active on DD website. I will still be active but I think I won’t be as active as before. Have an awesome day/night!

      Stay dorky,
      ♡Cupcake Dork♡

    • OMG! I literally have the some problem! I actually got lessons for 2 different instruments but I not good at any of them.

      P.S. I don’t think you are insecure

    • Hi talentless,

      Ok first of all let me get this straight, you feel insecure because you got 4th on the spelling bee? That’s not that bad! Omg I got a VERY VERY bad score in the spelling bee! I totally flipped out when I found out!

      Any way back to you, I’m sure you’re a good piano player. You just don’t believe in yourself! Did you know that on time HALF of my class didn’t believe in themselves when we had a test and ALL of them got a bad score!?

      That just goes to show that not believing in your self can actually STOP you from achieving great things!

      My advice is to:
      {1} start believing in yourself
      §and§
      {2} don’t let what others achieve get in the
      way of you achieving them yourself!

      {have a great day,
      and best of luck}

      -§~DorkyDiva~§

    • Dear Talentless,
      First of all, you are NOT TALENTLESS. I’ll tell you how I can sort of relate..
      I draw cartoon figures a lot and I’ve started digital drawing. But I’m having difficulties adjusting to it, I can’t draw anime figures properly. My friends draw like me and THEIR DRAWINGS ARE AWESOME AS HECK. I underestimated myself sometimes, thinking that I wouldn’t be able to draw digitally. But guess what, today I drew a chibi on my drawing app and I really loved it! That’s when I found out I excelled in drawing chibi and comic strips. That was the right thing for me. (AND BTW I DID NOT MAKE THIS UP, THIS IS A TRUE STORY)
      Enough about myself now. About the spelling bee.. fourth place is also pretty good! The fact that you’re close to first (yes, contradict me if you will, but it IS close) is really good! And don’t worry – if you think you could have done better, we all have our good days and off days. You were probably just a bit off your game yesterday. And that’s okay. You can’t expect yourself to be good all the time.
      You also say you’ve been playing the piano for 8 years (wow, I don’t even play an instrument, that’s pretty dope!) and you know this guy who’s been doing it for 2 years and plays songs. Just look at my example.. maybe he’s been practicing certain types of songs and excels in playing them. But you probably play different songs, so he isn’t exactly better than you in general, he’s probs just better than you at playing certain types of songs. He says he’s good, I take it to mean that he’s happy with his music and that’s perfectly fine. In fact – not to compare but – I think you should take a leaf out of his book and be happy with your progress too.
      I think TV and movies plant false statements in our minds that if we have a talent, we have to be THE best at it. But that ain’t true, we just have to be happy with our work and love what we do (being good is a great bonus though!). I’m not the best artist in the whole world, and art is one of my talents. Probably likewise with you. So just do what you love, and love what you do. ❤

      —TheStripedParrot

    • Hi, Talentless…

      Okay so, I admit, that’s me too-

      I can exactly give advice, but you can have a person who feels the same way as you. Piano, reading Tennis, those are all my hobbies, but I feel as I’m not good enough. If I get a second place, I am in shock, I feel like I’m a loser. But, just appreciate what you have ! Appreciate that you can even do it. Appreciate that you at least got 4th place instead of nothing!

      ~ ♡♬Music_Lover♬♡

    • Hold up hold up. Calm down. Just because a few people are slightly better than you doesn’t mean you’re not good! Like, you’re being to hard on yourself! Think about it this way- if Taylor Swift thought she was a good singer but knew that some people were a little better at pitching those notes, she never would’ve been famous. Because everyone is second place at something!

      -ChaChaSlide

    • First of all, you shouldent doubt yourself! BTW, fourth place in the spelling bee is really good! Kudos to you for taking piano for eight years! Girl, your amazing! And hey! Its ok to feel insecure at times. It has happens to all of us. I know that plenty of other people and I have had the exact same feelings you do, so don’t feel alone on this one! Just try to not compare yourself to other people and be your own best friend! Rememnber: You wouldn’t let anybody else talk to you the way that you talk to your self! I hope this helped,
      A

    • Okay, I’m not too much of an advice giver, but you seem really depressed and desperate, so here I go…
      Wow. Sometimes I feel the same way. But listen, Spelling Bees and the Piano isn’t everything. It’s not all the talents that exist in the world. Sure, you may feel that you don’t have a talent, but you should go and find one. But there’s the slight complication. WHY do you compare yourself with your friend? He may be play HARDER songs than you, but you can try them out as well. It wasn’t like HE didn’t even try!
      So I suggest you try playing those songs, but if you feel you can’t,it’s all right because feeling comfortable is the best. It might be that you don’t have too much talent in Music and English, but if you try, you’ll get better because no one gets better without trying, and practicing is everything. But if you feel like it’s not your thing, you can try something else, because there are far more talents than that. Before I end, I will like to give you some recommendations you can try…

      -Rollerskating (Sports)
      -Writing
      -Drawing
      -Cooking
      -Dog handling
      -Yoga
      -Singing
      -Dancing

      Because I bet you already have an talent, and you don’t know it. Don’t judge yourself. You are a great person. Stay safe and I hope you feel comfortable!

    • Hey Everyone! Thank you for the advice, my hobbies are tennis, crocheting, piano, writing, drawing, and making Christmas presents. I am also Christmas Catastrophe and thanks to your advice, I can be more energetic and I sent emails to my friends that they won’t be recieving any Christmas presents from me this year. They understand! Thank you, thank you, thank you to those that helped me!!! I actually got a trophy for participating in the spelling bee and that was a nice surprise. Thank you again!!!!

  24. Hi everyone!
    I seriously need advice like ASAP!!! All advice givers can answer, so here’s my problem. I’m a huge, huge Christmas fan. I love to bake cookies, put ornaments on the tree, etc. However, I’m not so good as giving presents to other people. The past few years, I made presents at the very last minute. This year, I’ve been making presents since, what, OCTOBER!! I’m almost finished making them, but last week, I got a fever and I was rushed to the nearest COVID-19 testing area by my parents. I’m negative, but my parents DON’T want me to send my Christmas presents out!! I know they’re worried for my friends and family, but I’m afraid that my friends and family are going to feel super bad of NOT receiving any Christmas presents from me!! Should I listen to my parents and let them waste my hard work or deliver them, so I don’t feel bad? HELP!!!!
    PLEASE POST ASAP!!!!!!

    • I think that you should talk to your parents about how you feel. If they STILL say no, then write to your friends, relatives, whoever you’re giving gifts to, and explain you’re situation. I know the will understand!!! In the meantime, think about how awesome your gifts will be next year! Everyone will probably enjoy them even MORE then they would have this year because of COVID-19! Maybe you can give your gifts from this year next year, too. I know they will enjoy them!!

    • UMM WOW! Thats a tough one, A) GOOD FOR YOU ON TESTING NEGITIVE!( That is not my luck!)
      B) I think you should ask your perents to let you send them, then your family can wait 7 days to open them, and sanatize them before they open them! C) If your parents say no to this, try quarantining! Stay at home for 14 days, then you should be covid free! Your parents would proably feel better about that! HOPE THIS HELPS!!
      ~person

    • It usually takes about 2 weeks to start showing COVID symptoms, so maybe you should quarantine in your room for that long, then take another COVID test. If its positive, then you should tell your parents to disinfect your presents thoroughly, but if they decide that its too risky, then you should tell your parents how you made them, and have them recreate them. I hope that you are negative and I hope this helps!

    • Hey, Christmas Present Catastrophe!

      That’s a really bad problem to have!

      I know you want to show your hard work and not waste, but wouldn’t it be worse if your family might catch Covid-19? It’s a very big risk….

      You might be negative, but you might have some other sickness that can lead to Coivd-19.

      Your friends and family will understand. Plus, it’s not all about gifts on Christmas, it’s about other things too. They won’t feel bad if they know the problem, plus, as long as you wish them a Merry Christmas, they won’t be able to say you didn’t give anything to them, you gave them joy.

      There isn’t really advice to give, this is more of a “this or that”, so I hope my reasoning helps you decide!!

      ~ ♡♬Music_Lover♬♡

    • Chill girl! I get it. I had the flu on Thanksgiving and it sucked! I couldn’t eat very much food, and my family had to cancel our plans to go to my cousins house.

      My advice is to send out a message to the people receiving the gifts and send them out when your parents think you feel better. That way everyone gets the present who worked so hard on! GOOD LUCK.

      -ChaChaSlide

    • I’d say listen to what your parents are saying because they know what’s best for you. I’m sure your family and friends will understand. If it makes you feel any better, I’d suggest sending pictures of the presents that you made to your friends. This way, they can see the effort that you put in + it will be sort of like receiving a present so it’s a win-win situation 🙂

    • Man, that stincks! I know what it is like putting in a lot of hard work and feeling like it was wasted. If I were you, even though it would stink, I would listen to your parents. You can give the presents to your friends and family as a late Christmas present or give it to them just as something special. It sure would mean a lot to them. i hope this helped,
      A

    • I would say to explain to them through social media and text them, and if you can, you can share presents after the pandemic.

  25. I feel the same way. I was forced using social media with my friends instead of drawing, writing or, the best option yet, reading.

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