November 7, 2020 My mom is obsessed with me having a crush!!! Hey Brandon,My mom likes to talk about boys and wants me to have a crush, but I’m not really into that kind of stuff! She asks me every week who I’m crushing on and I don’t know what to say. Even if I really did have a crush, if feels SO embarrassing to talk about it! What should I do?Crushless What’s Up Crushless, LOL! I get A LOT of emails from kids whose parents think they’re too young for crushes, and your mom is the EXACT opposite! Either way, parents getting involved in crushes is definitely a thing! My guess is that it often has to do with their feelings about crushes when they were young. If, like your mom, they’re all curious and giggly and want to know everything about your crush, then they probably have gooey, warm feelings about crushes and want the same thing for you. If they’re all strict about not getting involved in crushes until you’re older, they might not have had the best experiences OR maybe they saw friends or family members have not-so-great experiences. Both perspectives have their points. Crushes CAN be super fun and they can also be super painful. Usually, kids are all giddy and giggly and love talking about crushes with their friends, but probably not so much with parents. In your case, I think you need to come clean with your mom and tell her you’re actually not interested in crushes. Even if she’s disappointed because SHE was having fun thinking you were, she’s not going to be disappointed in YOU. If she’s in the giggly, crushes-are-fun camp, she’s going to want you to experience a real crush you’re super into, not something you’re going along with half-heartedly to make her happy. The main thing is to communicate, even if—in all honesty—there’s really not much to talk about. 😀 Hey readers, do you like telling other people about your crushes? Or, do you like keeping it to yourself? Tell us in the comments below!
BlueBunny says November 28, 2020 at 5:26 am Hey Crushless, it’s BlueBunny here with some extra advice! Maybe your mum goes on about crushes, because she doesn’t want you to grow up! (That will make sense in a sec). Basically, your mum doesn’t want you to grow up. She thinks of you as her little baby. She constantly (did I spell that right?) goes on about your crush because she’s anxious about you leaving her for boys/girls. My advice: ask her why she is so interested in your crush. If she starts to deny it, just reassure her (I don’t think reassure is spelt right) that you will always be her baby, and that you would never leave her. I really hope mine, Brandon and other advice givers’ advice helped you! And, if you need advice, just ask! Stay dorky, dreamy and a DD fan! BlueBunny
WINTER101! says November 27, 2020 at 1:40 pm Hi Ella Nightingale, My advice: •ASK HIM: ask your crush if he likes you maybe not in a big crowd, but in a room alone just you and him talking about something. Maybe get to a certain subject close to crushes then ask him. Maybe like “Hey um I was wondering since we are on the subject of crushes I have to ask you a question. Do you like me?” Hope fully he will say yes, but if not who cares like him anyway. •NOTE:You could simply ask him in a note so that its private and no one will know, but remember to put at the bottom of the note. PS. Please don’t show this to anyone and keep it between us. Here’s what to say. Dear _____, I really like you a lot and I was wondering if you felt the same way? Circle, yes or no. That was the letter you could write to him, but if you want make it personal and heart felt. What I mean is write your feelings down In the note so it’s more touching and will make him want to put down an answer and so he doesn’t throw it away. •CALL HIM:this is another good way to do it without your friends hearing it. You should call him and tell him how you feel. Don’t make the call long because he might get uncomfortable talking about that so make it short, but sweet. Say what I said above with the other advice, but still be sweet, but make it kinda short. •MY SUGGESTION: I sugest the note so that you can write all your feelings down and make it as long as you like. Sometimes it’s easier to right things in a letter than it is to actually say something to the person your crushing on, right? I gave a note to my crush, but for some reason notes are band at my school!!!! Crazy right? I hate that rule! But I would still do the note so that you can exspess yourself in the note to get you feelings out! But you can do any of these!! HAVE A NICE DAY!! And remember if you need advice in your girl!! Post fast please YOUR GIRL WINTER101!
Anonymous says November 27, 2020 at 12:30 pm I fess my mom says you don’t need a crush but Ian sure she will let me have 1
cheerqueen says November 26, 2020 at 3:08 pm I always keep it to myself but when my mom asks about boys I freak out.When she read one of the dork diaries she asked if I had a crush like Niki does . Ahhhhhhhhhhhh
Mad Dog says November 25, 2020 at 10:12 am tell her that you would like some space and that its not really a big deal
Jules says November 24, 2020 at 3:45 pm i think i have a crush but i’m not sure how to tell him.but in middle school like 8th grade i may have made my crush a bit obvious and he was like ” what are you looking at you like me or something?”
Fox says November 24, 2020 at 12:10 pm I wish my mom would let me have a crush well either way i could still have one just not talk to her about it but right now im crushless ~Fox~
Ella Nightingale says November 24, 2020 at 12:43 am hi I dont know if my crush likes me back . need advice PLEASE HELP
Ella Nightingale says November 24, 2020 at 12:34 am I told my mother she was ok with it she said it was part of life if you had have a crush so can you
Raining Shadow says November 23, 2020 at 6:09 pm I have a Crush on a guy named Dylan he’s cute he likes me back!