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May 22, 2023

HELP! MY BFF DOESN’T LIKE MY CRUSH!

Dear Nikki,
I have a crush on a boy, but one of my BFFs does NOT like him at all! Even though my ENTIRE school ships us together (totally NOT an exaggeration), my BFF is always mocking my relationship with my crush in front of my other friends ☹️!

How do I get my BFF to stop wrecking my relationship with my crush while keeping my friendship with my BFF?

Worried About Relationship

Dear Worried About Relationship, 

I totally understand the frustration and stress of your BFF not liking your crush. If Zoey or Chloe didn’t like Brandon! OMG ☹️!!  I’d feel just like you and do everything I could to fix the problem!

I think you should start by asking your BFF WHY she doesn’t like your crush. Maybe she sees him differently than you do or maybe there’s something about your crush that you aren’t aware of that your BFF knows.  Also, ask your BFF to stop criticizing your relationship with your crush and saying rude things in front of your other friends which is SO. NOT. COOL!  

Maybe your BFF is worried that you’ll stop being her bestie and start spending ALL your time with your crush and get closer to HIM.  This means she could be reacting out of jealousy or insecurity.  If that’s the case, you’ll need to let your BFF know how important her friendship is to you and that a crush could NEVER-EVER-EVER break your BFF bond!! 

Also, be sure to remind your BFF about the “Rules of Friendship” and that you’ll both need to listen to each other with an open mind especially since YOU may not always love every guy your BFF crushes on either! Let your BFF know that you wouldn’t let HER crush ruin your friendship with HER, so she shouldn’t let YOUR crush ruin her friendship with YOU!

At the end of the day, if she is TRULY your BFF, she will respect your choice and accept your crush. Who knows, maybe she’ll end up changing her mind after she sees all his AWESOME qualities and understands why you’re crushing on him 😊!  If not, just live your life and be sure that you are making the right decision for yourself.

Okay readers, what do you think? What advice would YOU give to “Worried About Relationship?” Has this ever happened to you? What did YOU do? Tell us all about it in the comments section below!

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  1. MusicQueen❤️‍ says

    May 30, 2023 at 8:22 pm

    Same here! Talk to your BFF and say why she does not like your crush. I’m pretty sure it will be alright.

    Reply
  2. Me says

    May 30, 2023 at 7:46 pm

    if you like him tell him

    Reply
  3. ❤ dinosaur forever says

    May 30, 2023 at 5:04 pm

    Talk to your bff about it girl you got this

    Reply
  4. Drama but friendly CCP says

    May 30, 2023 at 4:14 pm

    just be yourself. be honest w/ your bff. if they dont like your crush, talk to them about it

    Reply
  5. iluvmylipglossofficial says

    May 30, 2023 at 1:18 pm

    yeah just bc you don’t like him does not mean u have to b mean to him!!! maybe she is just jealous of something.

    Reply
  6. Dork Diaries Super Fan says

    May 30, 2023 at 12:21 pm

    I TOTALLY agree! Just be yourself, and ask why your BFF doesn’t like your crush, and you can begin there, like Nikki said. But remember, you don’t have to change your feelings about your crush just because your BFF doesn’t like him.

    Reply
  7. ANIME GAMER GIRL 2.0 ;) says

    May 30, 2023 at 8:40 am

    THAT IS NOT COOL TO ACT LIKE THAT.
    but maybe she likes him too or is going through something big. she might just be jelly of u. well anyways good luck ❤️
    xx

    Reply
    • iluvmylipglossofficial says

      May 30, 2023 at 1:19 pm

      SOOOOOO true!!!!

    • Anonymous says

      May 30, 2023 at 4:10 pm

      Been there, done that

  8. ILOVERENEERUSSELL says

    May 30, 2023 at 8:12 am

    well talk to him and if ur bff wants u to be happy then tell her

    Reply
  9. DorkyFanGirl :) :D says

    May 30, 2023 at 6:25 am

    This is a line from dork diaries…
    Tell her to: cry herself a river, build a bridge and GET OVER IT!!!
    And BTW Good Luck! ‘Cause you’re gonna need it!

    Reply
  10. DorkyFanGirl :) :D says

    May 30, 2023 at 6:01 am

    You should ask your friend why she doesn’t like your crush. Maybe she knows something you don’t or maybe she is afraid of losing you to your crush. But maybe she just doesn’t like him. JUST ASK YOUR FRIEND!!!

    Reply
  11. XxakuritoxicshinzoxX says

    May 30, 2023 at 5:16 am

    I am no longer in the same class as my crush I think he has feeling for me but he never shows them I am tired of this help!!

    Reply
  12. AnimeFan says

    May 30, 2023 at 5:13 am

    Is the advice column back???
    Eee! (Doing the snoopy happy dance)
    Well, maybe your BFF likes the boy and like, is worried that you two will like, get super close and desert her and ur crush won’t like her because he likes you since the entire school is shipping u two 2gether

    Reply
  13. crush lara says

    May 29, 2023 at 12:36 pm

    my crush is soooooooooooo cute but it’s hurt that my friend doesn’t like him. thanks for the advice! I think it should help.

    Reply
  14. Cookies and cream says

    May 29, 2023 at 11:16 am

    First try to see what YOU bffs what your crush to be like and then try secretly to make it happen????

    Reply
  15. cute kitty says

    May 29, 2023 at 8:10 am

    HELP this same thing I went through .nikki help

    Reply
  16. Potter girl says

    May 29, 2023 at 7:04 am

    Wow Nikki this is wonderful advice

    Reply
  17. cute kitty says

    May 29, 2023 at 5:15 am

    I think your BFF is sad that you don t hang out

    Reply
  18. Brandon says

    May 29, 2023 at 5:08 am

    Just be yourself and never let people share secrets that u don’t want them to share so be careful there are lots of creeps out there

    Reply
  19. Brandon says

    May 29, 2023 at 5:06 am

    Just be yourself

    Reply
  20. LALA KKK says

    May 29, 2023 at 2:37 am

    omg i have that problem with my fried thanks for that ;D

    Reply
  21. Unknown says

    May 28, 2023 at 6:16 pm

    I think this is not too good..

    Reply
  22. Zoderapple says

    May 28, 2023 at 5:28 pm

    Okay, so let’s start with your BFF. I would recommend that you try to gather information from her so you know what’s going on. That way your not sitting there wondering what’s going on with her. Here what the conversation might look like:
    You: Hi _______! I was wondering why you don’t like my crush. Can you tell my why?
    Your BFF: Well, I don’t like your crush because ____________.
    You: Okay, if you don’t like him, why do you mock me about our relationship in front of our friends?
    Your BFF: I mock your relationship because ________________.
    You: Thank you for telling me,_______.
    Please do better next time!
    Your BFF: Okay _________.
    Hope that helps!

    Reply
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