Dear Nikki,
Worried About Relationship
I have a crush on a boy, but one of my BFFs does NOT like him at all! Even though my ENTIRE school ships us together (totally NOT an exaggeration), my BFF is always mocking my relationship with my crush in front of my other friends ☹️!
How do I get my BFF to stop wrecking my relationship with my crush while keeping my friendship with my BFF?
Dear Worried About Relationship,
I totally understand the frustration and stress of your BFF not liking your crush. If Zoey or Chloe didn’t like Brandon! OMG ☹️!! I’d feel just like you and do everything I could to fix the problem!
I think you should start by asking your BFF WHY she doesn’t like your crush. Maybe she sees him differently than you do or maybe there’s something about your crush that you aren’t aware of that your BFF knows. Also, ask your BFF to stop criticizing your relationship with your crush and saying rude things in front of your other friends which is SO. NOT. COOL!
Maybe your BFF is worried that you’ll stop being her bestie and start spending ALL your time with your crush and get closer to HIM. This means she could be reacting out of jealousy or insecurity. If that’s the case, you’ll need to let your BFF know how important her friendship is to you and that a crush could NEVER-EVER-EVER break your BFF bond!!
Also, be sure to remind your BFF about the “Rules of Friendship” and that you’ll both need to listen to each other with an open mind especially since YOU may not always love every guy your BFF crushes on either! Let your BFF know that you wouldn’t let HER crush ruin your friendship with HER, so she shouldn’t let YOUR crush ruin her friendship with YOU!
At the end of the day, if she is TRULY your BFF, she will respect your choice and accept your crush. Who knows, maybe she’ll end up changing her mind after she sees all his AWESOME qualities and understands why you’re crushing on him 😊! If not, just live your life and be sure that you are making the right decision for yourself.
Okay readers, what do you think? What advice would YOU give to “Worried About Relationship?” Has this ever happened to you? What did YOU do? Tell us all about it in the comments section below!
Me says
i think you should ask why and just try to fix the problem, maybe??
Anoymous says
I Think She Should Ask Her BFF If She Knows Something Bad About Him Or If She Is Jealous Or Feeling Insecure.
Maira dork lover says
She’s your BFF but you are the only one to make the decision follow yourheart❤️my advice is to talk to you friend and see her point of view
Dorkalicious Weirdo says
The girl might have a crush oh him too, you’ll never know so don’t freak out. (Yet) Never let a boy break a friendship.
Secret girl says
OMG! I had the same problem except no one shipped us and my friends didn’t know I liked him. I would talk to your best friend about it! I’m sure if you tell her how awesome this guy is she’ll understand. And if she doesn’t, tell her “I hope we can still be friends! You don’t have to hang out with him.”
Mikura the dorky girl says
Tell your friend you don’t like her mocking your relationship with ur crush and that she can dislike him but she’s not suppose to be mean. if she still mocks u, u should unfriend her and find new friends
YASSQUE3EN IS SLAY says
SAME
just saying says
ur bff seems like shes insecure about not having a bf
super dork says
OMG your advice column is baaaacck!!!!! All these days I just looked through the old posts!!! Anyways my advice is if your bestie doesn’t like him maybe you need to accept that. But like nikki said if she’s really your friend she’ll accept that he’s your crush and respect your choice. Super dork xx
Twiddle says
I guess you just have to weigh your and your friend’s judgement; they may have a good reason for disliking your crush or they might just be blind to why you like them. I think the advice is really good as is, but if you ever need to talk to your friend about it, don’t be immature and make a huge argument out of it. The best thing is just to talk out your problems in a discussion, not by hurling insults or being unreasonable. Who knows; you could learn something.
tell her to back off kk crush says
hey girl if she dose not like him who cares crush who you wanna crush on
dorky fan says
if one of your friends does not like the person that you have a crush on ask them why you don,t like them.
Kailee says
Maybe ask her and find out why and if she is a true friend she will support you.
Thunderstorm says
Maybe you should talk to her? Or maybe she’s just salty. You never know.
Anonymous says
ok well maybe just ask why she dosen’t like your crush but don’t worry I get made fun of for my crush which is COUGH marty COUCGH mcfly from back to the future but hey I don’t think it matters what your BFF thinks!
DorkychEeseLoveR says
It could possibly matters what their BFF thinks, maybe their BFF knows some bad thing or flaw about their crush?
Trying to help says
Totally Not true! Bffs have feelings! What they think counts too! But yeah she either likes him secretly or knows something u dont.
Inky moonligHt says
Yeah,and Possibly she has a crush and shes afriad you guys might get married instaed of her and the crush but my other advice is to ignore her (see comment coming soon)and just keep up the crushing who cares what she thinks of you?Because everyone eventually has Bff problems.No big deal!
Mackenzie is mean girly says
Tell your friend that you like him and say it okay if she doesn’t like him much but please be nicer or else we may not be besties anymore
I SAID CALL ME AMERICA says
Maybe her BFF may not like him, she may also have a crush on him, she maybe is trying to protect the girl or the craziest theory is maybe she likes the girl
nivillian says
OOHH!! the last one’s a huge possible twist to this situation. Worried About Relationship’s friend might be trying to separate WAB and her bf just to be with WAB out of jealousy/insecurity. I’ve sadly heard a few experiences about how some people were pulled into a relationship by a person like that.
but on a lighter note, I like your user lol. do you also go by U/S/A?
Jelly says
If she like that guy, then why not crush on him openly ( I honestly do not know why BFF’s will like their BFF’s crush )?
such~ Dorky says
maybe you should ask her to tell you why she don’t like him? there could also be a reason why she doesn’t like him. he might be a bad guy to like or done something to people that are mean.
Anonymous says
SO TRUEsame
Cute Chick says
Yeah, he could just be telling lies, or suger coating the good parts about him, making him look amazing, but your bff could also think she would lose you or she is just mean or jealous.
Dorky Queen! says
Ask why, maybe he isn’t the best person, and she knows it, or possibly have a crush on him too! If she has heard things about him ask her what and dig a little deeper to see if it is true. If she has a crush on him too, she may not be the best friend you think she is if she is trying to get you to stop liking him, if your friends would break girl code, they may not be real friends.
Anonymous says
Makes sense!
Dorkalicious Dorky Dork says
OMG!! The advice column is back? SQUEEEEE!!
Anonymous says
Yay!: D
Jelly says
OMG! Yay!!! 🙂
dorkybooklover says
My Advice for her would be: NEVER let a boy break up your friendship, sometimes friends are overly protective or don’t want a boy to break their friends heart, so maybe she’s just keeping a close eye on him for now until he proves that he has good intentions, it shouldn’t be anything to worry about for now, but definitely communicate with her about it! <3
im a big dork says
hi niki im a huge fan like really big one i got every single one of your books im tots abessed my advice is ask why she dosent like him what could go wrong puh -leeze repily back
JAY the Dork! says
WOW! Haven’t been online in some time, & WOWIE! I’d probably try & convince my BFF, I GUESS
Advice Diva says
If they are always mocking u, then they are NOT really a good friend. Try to find some better friends!
Anonymous says
Gurl I totally get you. Here’s my advice: Go up to your friend privately and really just ask her to explain what she doesn’t like about your crush and why any of this is even happening. Then at least you know what’s up even if you don’t know how to fix it. Well, that’s what I did. Hope that helps!!! (^^)
Alpaca in lipgloss says
I think she should confront your BFF and if she keeps mocking you, her loss.
If she donsent stop, than you should also let her go! If you don’t, that’s not called loving yourself and that’s not really cool!
Cupcake cutie says
i agree
Funnygurl says
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LOVE YOURSELF!
Hahaha!
Funnygurl says
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ROMANTIC STORIES!
Hahaha! That totally did not make sence.