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HELP! MY BFF DOESN’T LIKE MY CRUSH!

Dear Nikki,
I have a crush on a boy, but one of my BFFs does NOT like him at all! Even though my ENTIRE school ships us together (totally NOT an exaggeration), my BFF is always mocking my relationship with my crush in front of my other friends ☹️!

How do I get my BFF to stop wrecking my relationship with my crush while keeping my friendship with my BFF?

Worried About Relationship

Dear Worried About Relationship, 

I totally understand the frustration and stress of your BFF not liking your crush. If Zoey or Chloe didn’t like Brandon! OMG ☹️!!  I’d feel just like you and do everything I could to fix the problem!

I think you should start by asking your BFF WHY she doesn’t like your crush. Maybe she sees him differently than you do or maybe there’s something about your crush that you aren’t aware of that your BFF knows.  Also, ask your BFF to stop criticizing your relationship with your crush and saying rude things in front of your other friends which is SO. NOT. COOL!  

Maybe your BFF is worried that you’ll stop being her bestie and start spending ALL your time with your crush and get closer to HIM.  This means she could be reacting out of jealousy or insecurity.  If that’s the case, you’ll need to let your BFF know how important her friendship is to you and that a crush could NEVER-EVER-EVER break your BFF bond!! 

Also, be sure to remind your BFF about the “Rules of Friendship” and that you’ll both need to listen to each other with an open mind especially since YOU may not always love every guy your BFF crushes on either! Let your BFF know that you wouldn’t let HER crush ruin your friendship with HER, so she shouldn’t let YOUR crush ruin her friendship with YOU!

At the end of the day, if she is TRULY your BFF, she will respect your choice and accept your crush. Who knows, maybe she’ll end up changing her mind after she sees all his AWESOME qualities and understands why you’re crushing on him 😊!  If not, just live your life and be sure that you are making the right decision for yourself.

Okay readers, what do you think? What advice would YOU give to “Worried About Relationship?” Has this ever happened to you? What did YOU do? Tell us all about it in the comments section below!

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  1. Hi there!Im sorry to hear what happened.Calm down,Its gonna be ok!

    If your bff taunts you dont react!Just ignore her and proceed to crush world!

    If you cant ignore her,Confront her.Tell her that she dosent have to like your crush and shes not you to be like that!
    Hope this helps,
    Inky moonlight

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  2. I also have a simaler problem, its just the “Crush” is my bffs brother. Thanks for the advice! It should help.

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  3. My crush is soooooooooooo cute! It kinda hurts that he doesn’t like me, and likes someone who kinda is rude to me. She used to my friend. (I moved a few weeks ago)

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    • Me to well I did hear something about my crush likes me but acts super nice to me and is funny but I don’t always think that love is true I,m saying that maybe he does not like me … We will never know…………..

  4. My BFF and me write books together, but sometimes she copies me. I’ve decided to still be friends with her, just don’t let her edit my books ! She’s the best.

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  5. Maybe try to talk with your friend, and ask her questions such as, ‘why does she not like your crush?’ If you spent time with your crush, maybe you can try spending time with your crush and bff to maybe bond more? Hope this helped.

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  6. Maybe you can try to talk to your friend about why she does not like your crush? Talk to her about why you are crushing on them, and have a good friend-to-friend conversation. I know it probably hurts when she mocks you, and maybe you could tell her not to mock, since teasing someone is never the answer. If you spend time with your crush, you can try to maybe spend around an equivalent time with both your crush and best friend. Hope this helped!

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  10. This is just so coincidental because I need a solution to my problem that I have been having recently. Thanks! 😀

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  11. It is your choice do what you think is right. It is your decision no one should force you to that . GO GIRL

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  13. Maybe ur friend likes the boy too, and thinks that your gonna take him away from her, or mabe even become his girlfriend! that happens sometimes. So ask ur friend if he likes him. So the advice collum is back. yay I guess.

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  14. There are only 2 reasons why your BFF doesn’t like your crush either she doesn’t want to lose you as a friend or actually likes him but hasn’t said anything. Now if these aren’t either the reasons then WHY can’t you just ask her, what her deal is with him? Like honestly COMMUNICATION is one of the most important things in this world and if you don’t want to lose her then talk about it when you have the chance. Also, I would like to say after reading a couple of Nikki’s blog posts I would like to say that if she complains about how cheap her parents are when it comes to her clothes then why doesn’t she go to a thrift shop since they have cheap and great stuff there usually. I just wanted to say that to get it off my shoulder.

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    • Only that makes alot of since, but ngl maybe the BFF is jealous of their relationship, could be jealous of the crush or her, maybe the BFF knows some secret or flaw about the crush that she doesn’t, maybe she just doesn’t agree with the relationship or maybe there is a possibility of the BFF just not liking the crush in general?

    • the thing that bothers me is that Nikki always says such mean stuff about her parents like the one time that she got a dairy instead of a cellphone but if she got a cellphone instead of a dairy, this series would not even exist guys

  15. It really depends on why your said friend dislikes him. I mean, it wouldn’t be really *friendly* of you to just get mad at her just because she dislikes your partner. So, before jumping to conclusions, ask why she dislikes your partner, and maybe that could overall be a red flag. If it is a bad trait that he has that she dislikes, talk to your partner about it.

    BUT if it’s a crush, you should do the same, and if he really *is* a bad person.. then that’s just your BFF standing up for you and pointing out the obvious.

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  16. Bruh one of my friends faced this! My BEST friend keeps trying to stop the shipping of my OTHER BEST friend.. and their friendship is being ruined! I try to stop it but what can I do?!

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  17. at school I have a crush and one of my BFFs found out they never stop teasing me I say ( line from dork diaries) that if she does not like she should cry herself a river build herself a bridge and GET OVER IT!

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  21. Maybe try to figure out why, or maybe ask why, there is a possibility of there being an important reason, maybe your crush has a secret or hiding something that she somewhat knows about, your BFF could possibly be jealous of your relationship, it seems like your in a sticky situation, you could ask your BFF to stop,

    Just a btw I will use the term “BFF” because I don’t know the BFF’s pro-nouns

    watch out mickey mouse…. There is only enough cheese for one- /J

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    • I don’t think that is the solution, there could be a good reason that the BFF acts that way

    • This really isn’t a good solution, there could really be a possibility of there being a good reason their BFF acts that way

    • Ummmmm… I don’t think that’s the best way to resolve the problem…

  24. try asking your BFF why she doesn’t like ur crush and try to settle itthen maybe she might like him

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    • First ask your BFFS what would they want otta your crush and try to make it happen?

  25. I have this problem too. PLUS my BFF is shipping me with someone else… I don’t like him! Too quiet. AND DOSEN’T LIKE ART!!! ☹️.

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