April 2, 2015 WHEN YOUR FRIEND IS SUPER CLINGY Today’s question comes from Marifer, who writes: My friend, Marlenne, is too clingy and physical. For example, when I’m going to the restroom and she sees me, she comes running up to me, hits me in the arm, and says, “Surprise! It’s me!” She always scares cute boys, too, because she punches them, as well. I like her and everything, but how do I stop her from punching and clinging to me? My Advice: Hi Marifer! I wish I could give you some ice with this advice, because I bet your arm’s pretty sore! It sounds to me like your friend thinks she’s being funny. She might even punch you and cute boys as a nervous reaction. Some people laugh when they’re nervous. Some people bite their nails. Other people act like they’re competing in the Ultimate Fighting Championship. That’s probably why she clings to you, too: she wants to be your good friend, but she’s also a little insecure. I bet she’d get the hint if you told her in a joking way that this bothers you, like, “Woah, there! What did my arm ever do to you? You’re stronger than you look!” That will likely help with the physical stuff, but it may take a little more effort to get her to stop clinging. If she felt more comfortable with your friendship, she’d probably back off a little. So maybe you could say something reassuring to her, like, “I love that we really click! I bet we could switch schools and go weeks without seeing each other and STILL be really good friends!” This will reassure her that you DO like her, and let her know that you’d still like her even if you had a little space. If that doesn’t work, and you find her crouching inside the trash barrel near your locker, waiting to jump out and yell, “SURPRISE!” you might want to start distancing yourself just a little so she gets that she’s kind of smothering you. For example, you could wait a bit to write back when she texts, or say “no” every now and then when she asks to hang out or sit together in lunch. If she STILL doesn’t seem to get it, then you may want to come clean and let her know you value her friendship, but you also value breathing room, and you need some, ASAP! What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Marifer?
TotallyDivi says April 23, 2015 at 6:07 am wait she’s COMPLETELY attached. WELL thats a different story
TotallyDivi says April 23, 2015 at 6:00 am AWWW! i feel sorry for your friend. i know its annoying, but, still
Mikala says April 21, 2015 at 5:31 pm My friend Jasmine can be really kooky and hyper on both sides and when I try to tell her something important she yells everything out loud . But she can be really nice at the same side.
daniela says April 19, 2015 at 12:07 pm hey i have this crush who i think likes me but know i think he likes this other girl.And we have been friends for live forever and we always joke around but i don’t want to ask him how do i know that he likes me?
Bloom the fairy of dragon flame says April 19, 2015 at 11:29 am She’s just being friendly. No problem there.
JessicAmberg says April 18, 2015 at 5:51 pm I think Nikki is totally right! That is really good advice! 🙂
tanya says April 15, 2015 at 3:26 pm yeah come clean and if she gets angry and talks back then she is not the friend you need but of course everyone deserves a second chance so if she says sorry then you should be her fried again
IceQueen says April 14, 2015 at 11:38 am Marifer-I’m feel sorry for you but try to talk to her.Don’t make her feel like its all her fault
IceQueen says April 14, 2015 at 11:37 am @I Live For Jesus-I LIVE FOR JESUS TOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
franny says April 13, 2015 at 7:13 pm I think she’s clingy because she’s worried about losing you as a BFF. And Nikki, you gave realy great advice. :]
HeyItsAKat says April 12, 2015 at 10:44 pm Don’t worry. Maybe you should tell her to give you a little space from time to time.Just be honest with her.Just tell to stop punching you and just pat you.And my friend was like that too. She always was always punching me. I told her I need my space and that I can’t always hang out.Hope this helps. HeyItsAKat (=^.^=)