April 29, 2017 I CAN’T CONTROL MY TEMPER!! Hey Brandon, I have a BIG problem. I just can’t control my temper! I don’t know why, but I just can’t. My temper is SO bad. Once, I was fighting with my older brother about sitting in the front seat of the car. He won the ‘battle’ and then he pushed me out of the way. I was SO MAD that there was smoke coming out of my ears!! Then I went and shut the door while my brother’s foot was there and I ended up hurting his foot. That incident got me into HUGE trouble! 🙁 Please help me control my temper! Thanks, Trouble With Terrible Temper Tantrums Hey Trouble With Terrible Temper Tantrums, Okay. Well, first of all, I think it’s great that you realize your temper is a problem. And I’m really glad that you’re asking how to control your TEMPER and not your ANGER. Because anger is healthy and normal. It’s okay to get angry, and it’s important to release your anger. The thing is finding a healthy way to handle it that won’t hurt you or anyone else. Here are some things you might want to try the next time you’re so mad that smoke’s coming out of your ears: Slugging a punching bag (or just a pillow or mattress) Screaming into a pillow until you feel better Journaling about what you’re feeling. You can write or draw. My friend Nikki does it all the time! Going for a long run, or doing some other physical activity Practicing breathing exercises It might also help to think about how you respond when you get angry – but do the thinking when you’re calm. Sit down and think about different things that might make you angry, then brainstorm possible responses. There are probably certain things your brother does that get to you. And your parents, teachers, and friends might also have different ways to push your buttons. So, think about those things, and how you might respond, and plan out healthy ways to express your anger. You won’t always be able to remember these plans in the heat of the moment. But, sometimes you will and it’ll help. An easy fix for the heat of the moment is to come up with a simple phrase that reminds you to control your temper. It could be, “I am in control.” Or, “I’ve got this.” Or, “Stay calm.” Practice repeating it when you ARE calm, along with breathing slowly. And then, whenever you feel angry, repeat the phrase inside your head. Take three slow, deep breaths, and then count to ten. So, these are the steps: Repeat your phrase. Take three deep breaths. Count to 10. If the situation is happening in a place where you can easily remove yourself, do it. You might talk to your parents ahead of time, and tell them that you’re working on controlling your temper. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you can ask to be excused and go to your room to get a hold on yourself. Basically, put yourself in time out! Tell your parents that you will come back to discuss the issue when you are more in control. You might even be able to arrange this with teachers, if you are having trouble with your temper in the classroom. If NONE of this helps and you just feel like you can’t get a hold on your temper by yourself, there’s nothing wrong with asking for help. (I mean, you asked me for help, right? 🙂 ) You might need a doctor or counselor to help you with anger management. But, I doubt it! The fact that you know there’s a problem tells me that you’ll be able to handle it. Hey readers, how do you handle anger in the heat of the moment? Does your temper ever get the best of you?
sailorWater says May 17, 2017 at 4:45 pm I’ve got anger issues too, and listening to calm music, without words really helps. It also helps my anxiety. Hope I helped!
sound of music says May 17, 2017 at 3:31 am Just simply remember your favorite things and then you won’t feel so bad!
Princess says May 15, 2017 at 6:43 pm Sometimes when you breath in and out that helps. Or sometimes you can also do your favorite activity to calm you down. Like for example if you like reading then read until you calm down or if you like watching tv then watch tv until you come down.
Dorklover02 says May 15, 2017 at 3:31 pm Omg! I can totally relate to this! This seems to happen everyday with me and my 8 year old little sis cuz I’m 14 (6 years older than her) and we fight a lot and she thinks that she always wins the fight but I try my best to ignore her no matter how hard upset I get. But I know that one day she will ask me to forgive her, and I will.
Your biggest fan says May 15, 2017 at 7:28 am Whenever I’m feeling g mad I just go into my bedroom and calm myself down by listening to music or reding a book
Lisa&Lena #Twins says May 15, 2017 at 1:03 am Well…… I never had a Brother but I had an older Sister named LISA She always bosses me around and I had to do whatever she says!!!!! well the weird thing is we had never fight with each other before We met each other for almost 11 years !!! That is a short and true bio about my life (: THX
Teen Titans Go ! says May 14, 2017 at 3:32 pm Hi Trouble With Temper Tantrums Here Are Some Ideas To Control Your Temper 1. Listen To Your Favorite Music 2. Take Deep Breathes 3. Take A Drink Of Water 4. Journal About Anything 5.Take Part Of Some Physical Activities 6.Count To 10 7. Tell A Adult You Trust They Can Help Sometimes Someone’s Temper Can Get The Best If Them My Best Advice Is To Channel Your Anger By Doing The Things You Love Most And Encourage Others With Anger Issues To Do The Same Good Luck Teen Titans Go Is Out
Princess Candy says May 14, 2017 at 4:12 am Mostly my sister can’t control her temper once she got so mad she slammed the door really hard and screamed until dinner she was so loud
Nerdy Pandacorn says May 13, 2017 at 7:46 pm Been there, done that! Older brothers can be sooooo annoying, right? Well, I’d recommend making a stress ball. You just take a balloon, fill it with flour, tie the top, and you’re done!!
How I control my feelings says May 12, 2017 at 11:43 pm I would hurt my younger siblings but I would never do that.Instead I just breathe,read,and wright in my diary.Also when I get mad I go to my room and cry instead of hurting other people.My mom is a nurse and used to work at a hospital.So I know that crying is better than hurting other people or yourself.Thank You For The Tips Brandon!
dorkdiary fan says May 12, 2017 at 5:12 pm you give good advice brandon!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
12 For Ever!!! says May 11, 2017 at 4:16 pm The boys in my class ALWAYS get on my nerve. When its the last straw (which is most of the time) I put on my “head phones” and act like I’m going to fight them, but I never do. One time one them actually ASKED me if I wanted to fight after school and I told him in a calm voice, “No. I don’t want to hurt you and I don’t want to get in trouble.” Then I just walked away…… P.S.(I’m in 4th grade.)
Heartbroken Dork says May 11, 2017 at 3:41 pm OMG! Thanks SO much for answering to this!! I was hoping that someone would ask something like that, because I have a SUPERhard time with controling my temper too! Thanks Brandon!!