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June 9, 2018

HELP! MY FRIEND HAS A CRUSH ON ME!!!

Hey Brandon,

The other day I found out my friend had a crush on me. Since I didn’t really feel the same way about her, I kind of ignored the whole crush thing. Then she asked me out and I thought we were too young to date, so I said no. She cried and called me mean names. She won’t talk to me anymore, but I still want to be her friend. And now the whole school thinks I’m a heartbreaker. Any advice on how to clear things up and get my friend back?

Yet Another Crush Catastrophe

Hey Yet Another Crush Catastrophe,

Oh man, this sounds like a tough situation! For you AND for her! And then to have everyone in school talking about it…

Okay, so I think the first thing to do is think about how she’s feeling right now. I mean, if you’ve ever told someone you like them, you know it takes a LOT of guts. You have to seriously put yourself out there. And I’m sure she thought about how complicated it would be, since you guys are friends and I’m sure she didn’t want to mess up your friendship either. So she must have felt kind of strongly to go ahead and tell you. Because bottling up feelings like that is also really hard!

So, when you admitted that you didn’t feel the same way – and I TOTALLY support your honesty, I’m just asking you to walk in her shoes for a sec – that must have hurt a LOT.  It sounds like she was kind of in denial when you first responded, so she asked you out. And when you turned her down again, that’s when reality sunk in. And it hurt all over again, but even worse, probably. 

So she vented to some friends, and now the whole school knows (or it feels like that, anyway). 

If you haven’t already, I think you should let her know your friendship matters to you, and you’re really sorry if her feelings got hurt. Write her a note if she won’t talk to you. But then I think you need to give her some space.

When you get rejected by a crush, it feels like the end of the world. It really does. And it’s really, really hard. But the truth is, time helps. Hopefully she won’t hold a grudge against you. But if she does, the pain will probably fade with time, she’ll miss being your friend, and you guys will make your way back to the way things used to be (or something similar anyway).  

And things are MOST likely to settle down eventually if you keep your cool right now. Don’t explode at her or tell her she’s being unfair or overdramatic. Just be clear that you’re her friend and you’ll be there when she’s ready and then give her that space I mentioned. 

If you keep a level head and treat her kindly, people will see you’re not a heartbreaker. And they’ll be on to talking about someone else soon anyway. I don’t think you’re that worried about what everyone else thinks, though. I think you’re mostly worried about what your friend thinks and making sure your friendship is okay. Which makes you an awesome friend!

Have you ever had a crush on a friend or had a friend crushing on you? How did you handle that? Did the friendship survive? Tell us in the comments! 

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  1. Kind CCP! says

    June 23, 2018 at 4:38 pm

    Sorry if this is rude but to be honest I think this you should do…You can try to forgive her but explain you only want to be friends! If she says no then your friendship might be over. D: Explain to everyone that you wanted to be just friends with her but she asked you out and you thought you were to young. If they don’t believe you then tell them just ask her. Best of Luck! P.S I had the same prob kinda like this except I was the girl. Trust me this advice works!

  2. Cool says

    June 23, 2018 at 4:19 pm

    I had a crush on TWO guys at once!!!( I think that there was a question about that somewhere on this site.)
    Anyway, those two guys were best friends. They didn’t know that I had a crush on them. And do you want to know something bizarre? Uh… Umm… This is actually quite embarrassing! Well at leased I don’t have to put my real name if any of my friends are reading!!!
    Well, they are the craziest boys in my school!!! Some would say that they are bullies, and others would say that they are nuts. But I say that they are so cute!!!
    So, uh, yeah. That’s my story.
    Hope that you people liked/ enjoyed it!
    Bye!

  3. Scared Run says

    June 23, 2018 at 3:00 pm

    My friend told me he had a huge crush on me. And everyone was telling me including his best friends and I was like ” whAt great best friends” they would just tell me over and over. So finally he told me and I was like ” uh oh” and I ran. I was sooo shocked I didn’t know what to do. So I told my other friends and he just kept staring at me I was like oh god. So I finally went to go tell home I didn’t like him that way and if we could still be friends it took a while but finally he got over it and we are still friends. I was kind of scared when he told me he liked me so I ran like I was running from a monster. If I was running a marathon I would’ve won.

  4. pool party says

    June 23, 2018 at 10:38 am

    Thats soon sad try to get your friend back and maybe evena girl frind

  5. mimi says

    June 23, 2018 at 7:56 am

    just try to be cool or do the things that she hates then you will get her back

  6. CoolDudeUnicorn says

    June 23, 2018 at 6:59 am

    Just ignore her and she’ll get bored of you xxx

  7. bad friend says

    June 23, 2018 at 12:29 am

    i had a friend who liked me but i did not back. then he moved when i told him i did not like him and he strted with a new girl i yelled “you shold take more time off”.

  8. #1fan says

    June 22, 2018 at 8:30 pm

    Just tell her you don’t like it or just tell her to stop it.

  9. #1fan says

    June 22, 2018 at 8:27 pm

    You should tell her the truth!!!

  10. DorkyComputerFreak says

    June 22, 2018 at 5:05 pm

    wow. i did NOT know boys’ romantic lives were like this!!!!!! i thought they had it easy!!! you know, being muscular and hot….but man!!!! this was NOT expected!!!!!! also i have a crush on my friend Henry from my music class i dont attend anymore. we used to play concerts together. good times…… thankfully my mom had his mom’s phone number! so when i had my 10th birthday party before everyone left i got his email so we could text and facetime each other!!!!! and thats how we are now!!! i just went to his birthday party this June. anyways bye now!!

  11. QueenOfDorks says

    June 22, 2018 at 2:51 pm

    Well I think just step up and tell her why u said no

  12. Rosethewolf says

    June 22, 2018 at 2:13 pm

    Hmmmmm… What does she like about you? I’m just asking. Or why does she crush on you? We may never know…
    I really hope your relationship… er… I mean… FRIENDSHIP, doesn’t mess up or anything. She’ll be heartbroken AND you.

  13. Cool-Butdepressed-Weirdo says

    June 22, 2018 at 1:59 pm

    This is my prob. I got rejected and didn’t understand why. I was there for him. And how did he pay back???? Thank you very much!!=( Then I stopped talking to him but didn’t call him mean names. Anyways, I just hope the guy that rejected me is this one, but still, it hurts so much. And if it is the guy, here is what I still have in mind

  14. girlygothgirl says

    June 22, 2018 at 7:26 am

    The same thing happend to me with my best friend who’s a boy. every single day he tells me he’s sad but there’s literally nothing I can do about it bc I really don’t like him in that way

  15. dorkdiarylover#chic says

    June 22, 2018 at 5:01 am

    i don’t know what i would do!!!!

  16. Kitty says

    June 22, 2018 at 12:17 am

    I accepted it and we are still friends.

  17. Diva124 says

    June 21, 2018 at 10:49 pm

    OMG!!! That’s NUTS!!! Yet Another Crush Catastrope i’m rooting for you!!!:):):)

  18. Guitar player 101 says

    June 21, 2018 at 7:11 pm

    Relationships have always been a problem for me and to many of my friends, but it there is one thing I know, you give after a dissapointment, you should give it time to heal!

  19. Bookworm says

    June 21, 2018 at 1:20 pm

    omg this is just like my prob! except a small detail

  20. chill dork says

    June 21, 2018 at 7:05 am

    u should totally give her some space

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