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June 16, 2019

I’M SUCH A FOOL AROUND GIRLS!!!

Hey Dude! 

There’s this girl in my class who’s really pretty and nice. I try to talk to her but whenever I try, I act like a fool! I tried to compliment the way she smelled one time and I said she smelled like toilet bowl cleaner! Yeah, I know, I need SERIOUS HELP! How do I talk to such a beautiful girl?!?!?

Goofy Around Girls

What’s Up Goofy Around Girls,

LOL! Oh man, I feel your pain. But, I’ve also got to laugh for a minute. Toilet bowl cleaner?! 🙂 🙂 🙂

I get it, though. I’ve been there. I mean, not there exactly, but saying really dumb stuff when I’m trying to talk to a girl I like. It seems like some guys are so smooth and know exactly what to say. I’m not one of them. And neither are you, my friend. 🙂

But, you know what? I bet those guys who seem so smooth to us probably go home and replay their conversations with crushes and wish they’d said things differently, better or whatever. And I bet they have moments when they say totally dumb stuff, too. 

Here are my tips on talking to a crush (and I think these work for girls with guy crushes too):

  1. Remember, crushes are people too. When we have a crush, we sometimes put people on pedestals and act like they’re perfection, and if they’re perfection, then obviously they’re going to judge anyone who’s NOT, right? Uh, wrong. First, they’re not perfect. They say and do dumb stuff too. And did you ever think that she might be nervous talking to you as well? It’s highly likely! 
  2. Ask them questions about themselves and whatever they’re into. That way you show interest, and they’ll do most of the talking.
  3. Be authentic. Which is another way of saying be yourself. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. If you’re awkward, try to be funny. She might find it cute and amusing. And you want her to like you for who you are, not some made up, phony dude you can’t keep pretending to be forever.
  4. Remember there’s always tomorrow. I mean, if she obviously shuts you down and clearly wants nothing to do with you, you should absolutely back off and not approach her again. But otherwise? Everyone has off days, and you don’t only get one chance to talk to most people. Maybe next time you’ll be smoother. Maybe not. But you can keep trying. 
  5. Practice! I’m not saying talk to yourself in the mirror or anything. (Although you could…) But maybe spend more time talking to other girls, ones you don’t have crushes on. If you get more comfortable talking to girls in general, it won’t be such a huge leap to talk to a girl you have a big crush on. 

I hope these ideas help. I think I’m going to review them myself the next time I’m starting a conversation with MY crush!

How do you talk to a crush or someone you really like without turning into a puddle of goo? Share your advice in the comments! 

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  1. Reaaaaaaly? says

    June 29, 2019 at 6:32 pm

    you asked him to sign your yearbook?

  2. Not Nikki says

    June 29, 2019 at 6:27 pm

    I have to gain confidence and just SAY SOMETHING.. I mean, anything at all! Even if it’s just a simple H-HI!!

  3. Fun says

    June 29, 2019 at 5:34 pm

    Huh,cool

  4. #Godess of Luv says

    June 29, 2019 at 3:23 pm

    Hola Goofy Around Girls,
    Well first of, I would like to very nicely point out that, you should apologize to your crush ASAP. I’m a girl, and frankly, being told that I smell like, toilet bowl cleaner, I’d think you’re a very rude person. I mean, some girls wouldn’t mind but, usually we’d be offended. Here are some tips for you:
    1) Apologize(Verbally/Written form. NO TEXTS)
    2) Ask the lovely lady to meet you somewhere(Park, Cafe, etc)
    3) Tell her how you feel.
    4) Tell her you understand if she doesn’t feel the same way
    I hope this helps! Just remember, there are plenty fish in the sea! And remember to apologize!
    ~ #Godess of Luv

  5. cute and shy girl says

    June 29, 2019 at 10:47 am

    I asked my crush to sign my yearbook

  6. Waffle Nerd says

    June 28, 2019 at 9:04 pm

    Hey! It’s fine, EVERYBODY gets the nervous jitters…especially when you talk to somebody you like. I’m a girl…and honestly, I don’t think being called toilet-bowl-cleaner is the worst. Just saying!

    • Fiery Girl says

      June 29, 2019 at 5:37 pm

      It’s not that bad, she’ll probably forget about the whole ‘toilet bowl cleaner’ incident.

  7. Taylor swift lover says

    June 28, 2019 at 2:16 pm

    insult to girls!!

  8. CrushDrama says

    June 27, 2019 at 3:46 pm

    If u really like her just tell her u like her

  9. By, dork diarie love shipper says

    June 27, 2019 at 1:07 pm

    Are you really in love with Nikki Maxwell? I hope you are! I’ve red all dork diaries and if you know, Nikki has a crush on you! Please please tell me the answer!

  10. music lover! says

    June 26, 2019 at 5:36 pm

    okay that is a big mistake, that is a big insult to us girls but everyone deserves a second chance, right? so just be yourself, if she doesn’t think that is good enough than she’s not the one. I mean, it can be hard but if someone doesn’t like another person they don’t deserve that person. for me a lot of guys like me but you know some aren’t the right one and I sometimes feel bad but sometimes it has to happen but I hope she likes you or at least in the future. good luck!

    • Nikki's future best friend says

      June 28, 2019 at 7:18 pm

      Actually,toilet bowl cleaner smells pretty good to me, HEY DON’T JUDGE ME

  11. BlueBirdie says

    June 26, 2019 at 10:04 am

    Okay, okay…toilet bowl cleaner?! DUUUUDE…tbh, I’m a girl and let me tell you, all we’re asking for is just a sweet, funny, genuine boy, not some “smooth”, over-powering, macho-buff, alpha-ape. Trust me. I know.

  12. Anonymouse says

    June 25, 2019 at 5:48 pm

    Talking to girls is easy if you follow these steps.
    1. Go up to her.
    2. Ask to see her feet.

    • Anonymous says

      June 26, 2019 at 5:30 pm

      that’s weird. i’m a girl and I sertainly wouldn’t want me crush to go and ask to look at my feet so sorry but that’s….no

    • Fiery Girl says

      June 29, 2019 at 5:45 pm

      What the heck?!
      Look at her feet?!
      Just saying, but I wouldn’t want some random dude coming up to me and staring at my feet.

  13. I believe in unicorns says

    June 25, 2019 at 7:14 am

    This is my advice I would just tell my best bud and maybe he has the same so I just hold my breath try to take her out and you’re gonna get used to it and let it go.

  14. Anonymous says

    June 24, 2019 at 10:18 pm

    you act like your self. that’s what girls want your true self.

  15. prince says

    June 24, 2019 at 3:12 pm

    hihi

  16. Girl advice says

    June 24, 2019 at 1:32 pm

    Yikes I’m a girl and that’s a big offense. Next tell her she smells like flowers or that her smile and outfit are nice.Or just give her flowers and chocolates.

  17. unHappy Hen says

    June 24, 2019 at 12:54 pm

    Help! I am a girl who has a crush on a really HOT boy. But, he is really flirty and shows more interest in the bottom of his shoe than me. What can I do?! I am too shy to approach him, but if I don’t make a move, he will be dating another lucky girl. HELP!

    🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁 🙁

    • theOMGstuff says

      June 27, 2019 at 7:27 pm

      brandon is NEVER going to reply.

    • Cupid says

      June 28, 2019 at 7:38 pm

      he’s hot right? lol of course he is! ask him out like ASAP!

    • A dork door mat says

      June 29, 2019 at 1:03 pm

      Try to get out of your comfort zone belive me it is hard to do but that is how i got my crush attention and try to do pep talk everyday

    • Not Nikki says

      June 29, 2019 at 6:24 pm

      Well, I know I’m NOT Nikki.. but I can still help. Try to gain enough confidence to approach him and say something… even just a simple “HI!” Try to get his attention, but look away real fast, then he will probably notice you, and ask you what’s up… TRY IT!! 🙂

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