July 10, 2019 WHEN YOU’RE MAD AT YOUR FRIEND AND SHE WON’T LEAVE YOU ALONE Dear Nikki My friend won’t leave me alone! She was my friend, but now she’s acting super mean. She blurted out my deepest, darkest secret ever. Now I don’t trust her. During the school year, she cuts lunch lines to sit with me and wants to play with me at recess, but she blurts out all my secrets and acts like my mother. I don’t want to be friends with her anymore. Can you please help? Sincerely, Frustrated Former Friend Hi Frustrated Former Friend, I’m not going to sugarcoat it: it sounds like this girl is kind of clueless about what it means to be a good friend. I mean, anyone who’s ever had a friend before knows it’s SO not cool to blab each other’s secrets (unless they only had an imaginary friend…imaginary friends never get mad when you tell their secrets since, well, you have to be real to feel!). I totally get why you feel upset and don’t want to hang around her anymore. And I bet it’s even more annoying that she keeps trying to be your BFF, even though she’s acting more like a MacKenzie than a Chloe or a Zoey. Still, there may be some explanation for why she did what she did. I know, I know, it’s highly unlikely that she received an anonymous letter that reads, “Tell all of your BFF’s secrets, or you’ll never see your family again!” And anything that wasn’t as serious as that might seem like a super lame excuse to share your personal business. But maybe it just slipped out and she feels really bad about it. Or maybe she didn’t realize it was a secret. Or maybe she was actually trying to be a good friend. You mentioned she’s been acting like your mom, so that made me wonder if maybe the secret was something kind of dangerous, and she only told someone else because she was worried about you. I’m not trying to convince you to save her a swing tomorrow at recess. (It’s probably not a good idea, anyway, since trying to save a swing is like calling dibs on the last two pieces of birthday cake…it can REALLY tick people off!) I’m just saying that maybe it’s not as black and white as it seems. If I’m totally off base and you’re just completely over being her friend, then I say be honest with her, but try to be nice when you break it to her. Telling other people’s secrets is TOTALLY wrong, so maybe she could use a lesson in doing things right! You could say something like: “I can’t sit with you anymore because I don’t feel as comfortable around you since you told _________ my secret about ____________. Maybe I’ll get over it, but that could take time, and for now, I just need a little space.” This way, it’s no secret: your friendship is on pause until you feel ready to press play! What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Frustrated Former Friend?
Nikki says August 29, 2019 at 9:44 am Hi I think you can just talk to her and maybe she will understand
CatsMeow says August 29, 2019 at 4:49 am Girls can turn on you at any moment so I know how it feels i hope it gets better soon. 🙂
DorkWriter says August 28, 2019 at 11:44 am Ask her for some space, sit with other friends at lunch, you should forgive her, and ask her not to be bossy. and if this doesn’t help ask if you and your parents can go over to their house and talk to her parents about how she has been treating you. EVEN THOUGH it’s EMBARRASSING you need some help! you said she was acting like your mother, she may be looking out for you, she is your BFF, right? — DorkWriter (Advice giver) comment your problem with a Hey, DorkWriter or Dear, DorkWriter OR if it’s an emergency use OMG, DorkWriter so I know I am suppose to answer it because i don’t want to get into your PERSONAL BIZ if you don’t want me in it. I HELP WITH ALL PROBLEMS
Ashchu FanTomboy says August 28, 2019 at 9:29 am Maybe try to be friends with guys? Guy friendships are less complicated than girl ones.
MemeLover says August 29, 2019 at 12:40 pm YESSS, I have a friend who was a guy, he respects me and tries to help me with drama problems, Now i’m starting to think he likes me. I KINDA like him…. but I dunno, I think it will ruin our friendship…I like how it is but I like him.. help? anyone?
dorkaliciousqueen23 says August 28, 2019 at 8:47 am just try to give each other some space then when you feel you an face her again talk to her. But don’t be mean . GOOD LUCK!
Midnight Rider says August 27, 2019 at 7:03 pm I have some advice for you Dorky Girl just tell your friend why she is acting mean to you and if she doesn’t stop don’t be her friend or tell a teacher that she is being mean to you.
Miss dork diaries 14 says August 27, 2019 at 6:22 pm Nikki’s right. Your friend shouldn’t have told your secret so just tell your friend that you would like some space please. And you can talk to her again whenever you need to. Just take a deep breath. Or you could always tell your parents I am sure they would love to talk to you about it. I hope this helps! Best wishes!
Book lover says August 27, 2019 at 10:50 am Tell her that you can’t trust her and you don’t want to be friends anymore. Always reason why you don’t want to be friends anymore.
SelfieQueen says August 27, 2019 at 9:38 am just stay away from her and when she gets bored of you not being there she will come running back. Thtas what happened to me anyways.
Dorky girl says August 27, 2019 at 7:27 am My Friend never leaves me alone she always talks to me. When she is close to popular girls she acts mean to me!
Midnight Rider says August 27, 2019 at 7:08 pm I have some advice for you Dorky Girl (P.S. don’t want to offend you) if your friend is being mean to you tell her to stop. If she doesn’t stop then don’t be her friend or tell a teacher that she is being mean to you. There is nothing wrong with telling a teacher if you are being picked on remember that.
Nice CCP says August 28, 2019 at 6:33 am I can’t really relate since none of my BFFs are like that but I fell your pain.