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WHY DOES MY BFF GET MORE LIKES ON SOCIAL MEDIA?!?!

Dear Nikki,

I’m a pretty good artist and so is my best friend. But, we both upload our art on social media and she’s more popular than I am. She gets more likes and comments on her art than I do.  I know I should be happy for her, but I just can’t stop from feeling jealous! HELP!

Intense Instagram Envy

Hi Intense Instagram Envy,

Oh boy, I can soooo relate. And I’m sure a lot of my readers can, too. Not everyone shares their art on social media, of course. But everyone shares selfies and other personal posts and then waits for the likes and followers. Or the LACK of likes or followers. It’s totally messed up how terrible it feels when there are no new likes. It doesn’t even mean anyone disliked you or your art! It just means no one happened to hit that heart in the minute since you last checked your notifications! But it still feels like a total punch in the gut! 

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not anti-social media. I think there are some great things about it. The ability to share art is really cool! And I think it’s amazing when people have enough self-love and self-confidence to want to share their art, selfies or whatever on social media.

But when the constant comparison is causing more anxiety than joy, it’s a problem!

You might think that if you were just getting more likes, you’d be happier. But I doubt it. Your BFF with more likes and followers? She probably just feels pressure to have more and more. And she probably compares herself to other creators who have more likes and followers than she does.

If social media is making you feel bad and anxious more than it’s making you feel happy and connected, then something needs to change. I’ve done other posts about how to deal with phone addiction, so here I want to focus on this main point related to social media: 

Try to make your social media posts about what YOU like and what makes YOU feel good, not what you think other people will like.

This applies to art AND selfies, plus anything else you might like to post. Share the piece of art you’re super proud of because YOU love it, not because your BFF posted an awesome watercolor painting and got a bunch of likes so now you’re going to post a watercolor painting too. Instead, post a drawing of your fav Dork Diaries character not to compete with your BFF, but because you love to draw and you worked hard to master it!

And sometimes? Maybe keep some art for yourself and don’t share them. Just to see how it feels!

How do you feel when one of your social media posts gets lots of likes? How about when it doesn’t get many (or any)? Let’s talk social media in the comments! 

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  1. GOD GIRL says

    September 11, 2019 at 6:11 pm

    girl, that doesn’t matter! be u and if no one likes you for u then who cares, they don’t deserve you. if your friend gets more likes that might even mean she is posting bad stuff so just post good, inspiring, helpful and true you stuff and God loves you and thinks you r beautiful and you are! good luck, girl

  2. #puppys says

    September 11, 2019 at 4:43 pm

    At my library they only have 3 dork dairies! I think that’s messed up!

  3. saharah says

    September 11, 2019 at 12:20 pm

    hi nikki! i love your diaries books for kids!

  4. Slytherinandpr0ud says

    September 11, 2019 at 8:16 am

    Dont worry just belive! 😉

  5. I Feel The Same Way says

    September 10, 2019 at 7:40 pm

    You know Intense Instagram Envy, I feel the same way on ticktock. My friends get SOOOOO MANY likes and guess how many I have, you guessed it, NONE! But remember, it doesn’t matter how many likes you get, because your friend probably don’t even know half of the people that liked her!

  6. your real name! says

    September 9, 2019 at 11:48 pm

    I don’t use social media, but I am on this particular art site a lot, and I believe it’s similar enough.
    You need to be discovered to get more likes/hearts/otherwise. If you do have other social media account on different platforms, you can make a description/profile bio something like:
    [The actual profile bio/description]
    [Other social media platform: your username there]

    Or you could promote your social media however you please, but try not to spam promote it.

  7. Relatagirl says

    September 9, 2019 at 9:34 pm

    I can really relate to you.
    Every day, I would post my art online.
    Then my former BFF would post her art online, & she would always get more likes.
    Only because she is a Queen Bee!

  8. nerdy 4 dorks says

    September 9, 2019 at 10:48 am

    listen,I do a bunch of websites and I don’t always get a bunch of likes so I just don’t mind it and keep posting my life. So post about your life and don’t mind others!Be you and have fun!

  9. #thegirl says

    September 9, 2019 at 1:58 am

    exactly!good advice Nikki!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  10. dorkestgirl_9002 says

    September 9, 2019 at 12:03 am

    I’m not allowed to have social media and I’m having a problem with a app I want!(Anyone heard of tiktok before?)
    Well hope this gets uploaded!

  11. Cat says

    September 8, 2019 at 7:02 pm

    Don’t worry just cuz she gets more likes doesn’t mean your art is bad. I bet it’s great! Now go post stuff!

  12. Shyness overload says

    September 8, 2019 at 9:29 am

    Just always remember That you are awesome no matter what, and you aren’t rubbish!!! Maybe people just don’t know about yr art !hang in there

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