January 16, 2020 MY BFF IS OBSESSED WITH GRADES!!! Hey Nikki, Why is my BFF so obsessed about how I do on tests and stuff?! She’s been my good friend since forever, and all of a sudden, she’s obsessed with grades. And not only her grades, but MINE too! It’s like, she has to know what I got on EVERYTHING. I don’t want to share my grades, but she keeps pestering me until I tell her. She has to know what I got on that English test or that math quiz, and it’s so frustrating, I could SCREAM. Do you have any advice for me? Thanks, Grade Grief Hi Grade Grief, That IS frustrating! Your grades are YOUR business and you shouldn’t have to share them with anyone. Sometimes sharing grades might make us feel good, but it usually ends up making us feel bad. Or even worse—envious! ☹ I wonder WHY your friend is so nosy about grades. I can think of a few possibilities: Grades are very important to her (or her parents). If it’s new behavior, it might be because her parents have just started focusing more on grades, or she has started thinking more about doing well in high school and getting into a good college. If she’s suddenly got grades on the brain, it might just be something she wants to share with you. She might think you find it interesting too, or you find it helpful to talk about. . She might be struggling in school. If she is, she might be stressed out about it and trying to find out if she’s the only one. She might be doing really well and feeling proud of herself. In which case she’s kind of showing off or super competitive. This is ANNOYING, but kind of depends on HOW she’s talking about it. She might be acting like an arrogant know-it-all, or she might just be excited that hard work paid off! What’s super frustrating is it sounds like you’re trying not to answer and she’s not picking up on that. Have you told her directly that you don’t want to talk about grades? Sometimes you have to be really clear about these things. You don’t have to give reasons, you can just say it makes you feel uncomfortable and you really wish she wouldn’t ask you about your grades. If she STILL doesn’t listen to you, I say you start just making up nonsense answers. Say you got 120% or a zillion percent or whatever! How do you feel about sharing your grades with friends? How do you react when friends don’t listen to you? Tell us in the comments! Comment GuidelinesI’m happy to post your comments (as soon as I can) as long as you follow these 5 rules: All comments MUST be on topic! NO bullying or mean behavior!NO bad language!NEVER share your personal info, including your age!Make-Up a Silly Name or Post Without a Name (NEVER use your real name!) Leave a Comment Cancel reply Your email address will not be published.Comment Name is Optional (NEVER use your real name!) Email (Optional) Comments 66 Goofy Girl! says: January 17, 2020 at 6:55 pm Hey Grade Grief, I am lucky I do not go through this. Very happy. I do not MIND sharing my grades, but if I am constantly BUGGED, I will just not share them. It is something that CAN make the other person just constantly bug you until you share. You really should just say “I will not tell you if you keep bugging me!” It might help. Here is what I am thinking. Is your friend kind of helpful? Is she really smart? If she is, she might want to help you if you didn’t get a very good score. This is possible. You really should ask her. If this is the case, then you should recommend tutoring to her. Your school might have a tutoring program and she could sign up to be a tutor. This could get her to stop asking what you got. She might be able to help you when you need help with a test or something as well! Your friend also might want to be a teacher and she wants to start helping others with learning stuff. HEH TOTALLY NOT REFERING TO MYSELF! Sorry this was such a long comment. I really wanted to help! Stay you-tiful, Goofy Girl! Reply to this comment 65 Dork4ever says: January 17, 2020 at 5:43 pm Yeah, my friend asks me too. But your grades are your buisness so don’t worry I understand. Reply to this comment 64 Cookkie says: January 17, 2020 at 5:20 pm HI, I do have a friend just like this she wants to know every little bit of my life. She tells me every little bit of her live and she wants me to tell her my live and sometimes she gets on my NREVES.. Reply to this comment 63 i love dork diaries says: January 17, 2020 at 4:58 pm I feel like I’m that type of friend. Reply to this comment 62 deaf girl says: January 17, 2020 at 4:29 pm If my friend did that I would tell them to pls stop doing that because I do not like that and I not tring to be a bad friend but this what life gives u and u must overcome it. Reply to this comment 61 Dorkfan1 says: January 17, 2020 at 4:04 pm Oh yeah I’ve gone through that – always wanting to know what I got on my spelling test – and it’s hard to say no! Reply to this comment 60 ❤️Dork of hearts❤️ says: January 17, 2020 at 4:01 pm ha relatable Reply to this comment 59 Anonymous says: January 17, 2020 at 3:02 pm I have a friend like that but don’t worry they will get bored of bothering you Reply to this comment 58 lulu4 says: January 17, 2020 at 2:04 pm my friend is obsessed with grades too! Reply to this comment 57 Cuteelephant says: January 17, 2020 at 1:20 pm Yeah, my friend used to be like that!! Reply to this comment 56 mj says: January 17, 2020 at 1:17 pm Hey nikki im mj i want to know why my friends act like they are being FAKE Reply to this comment 55 DIEGO says: January 17, 2020 at 1:04 pm HOW DO YOU GET A GIRL TO LIKE YOU??!! Reply to this comment 54 Emily567 says: January 17, 2020 at 12:58 pm let her know that you dont like people looking at your grades!! Reply to this comment 53 Blakie123 says: January 17, 2020 at 12:57 pm Tell her how your feeling about it! Reply to this comment 52 ~lala~ says: January 17, 2020 at 10:52 am I totally agree, its like your friend has turned into someone that nags CONSTANTLY. Just say something to her. But not like “its none of YOUR business”, say it to her calmly like “sorry, i really don’t want anyone to know my grade” if she does it again, then say the exact same thing. P.S: Its worked with my friend so it should with yours. Good Luck!!! Reply to this comment 51 Dorky COOKIE says: January 17, 2020 at 10:11 am I don’t like it when friends don’t listen to me and I usually don’t like sharing grades with my friends either! Reply to this comment « Older Comments Top ▲