February 29, 2020 I’M FEELING LEFT OUT!! Hey Brandon, I need help! Lately I’ve been having a major friend problem! A new kid joined the school, and my BFFs and I thought it would be nice to be her first friends. She did become our friend, but I’m starting to get left out! Yesterday, my BFFs TOTALLY IGNORED ME and went off to play with the new girl without me! What do I do? Frustrating Friendship Frenzy What’s Up Frustrating Friendship Frenzy, Oof, this sounds tough! It was really nice of you and your friends to welcome the new girl. Being new is really hard and I’m sure she was very grateful. But a new person can change the dynamic of a friend group, and it sounds like that might be what’s happening. But it doesn’t mean you’ve lost your friends! It just means you and your friends need to communicate a little more to make sure no one gets left out. Just in case they don’t realize they’re leaving you out, try talking to them about how you’re feeling. Don’t accuse them of doing anything on purpose. Just tell them your feelings were kind of hurt when they went off without you and you really hope everyone can be included. It might be a good idea to spend some time with the new girl, just the two of you. Invite her over to your house on the weekend and hang. Getting to know her and like her as a person will help you feel less like she’s the person taking your friends away, and more like she’s another friend of yours. And another way you can make sure you’re included in the group is to be in charge of things. Suggest activities for everyone to do together. Invite the whole group over to your house. If you’re planning things, you can’t be left out. 😀 You could also use this as an opportunity to make new friends, because you don’t have to do every single thing together with the same group of friends all the time. Instead of feeling sad and all alone, try to expand your friendship group. The more friends you have, the less likely you’ll ever feel left out. Finally, if they’re really your BFFs, they’ll make sure to include you next time. Do you ever feel left out in your friend group? How do you handle it? How do you make other people feel included? Tell us in the comments!
Dorkno.1:) says March 20, 2020 at 4:37 pm Hi i have the same problem my friends get along too well together and always go off without me 🙁 but i don’t think they mean to but its not that nice
Queen of yass says March 20, 2020 at 12:27 pm Quick tip: Never do the same thing back to your friends. It’s not good to take revenge on every little thing. Just make them feel guilty if this keeps happening. Like, go up to them and give them gifts. And don’t be shy! If they leave you out of a game, maybe they’ll be waiting for you to join. Go join them! Cuz, trust me, dawg, they can’t know your feelings if they are not you! And games will be better this way.
U go girl❣️ says March 20, 2020 at 7:02 am We got ur back girl ❣️ I’m sure dat lots of people have felt like you ❣️let me make one thang clear▪️EVERYONE IS HERE FOR YOU .
SelfieChic says March 21, 2020 at 3:13 am Np girl! This has happened to meh lots of times, they even kinda shooded meh away!
Magic_And_Wonder says March 19, 2020 at 9:51 pm That has happened to me too! You will get through it!
#Dorkiedork says March 19, 2020 at 6:48 pm I can relate and I’ll tell you it! So I have a BFF club and we sit together for lunch like ALL THE TIME. Then a girl came named (Name hidden) and my BFF (name hidden) was her buddy. And that new girl wanted to sit with two people part of the club. So she chose (name hidden) and (name hidden.) I was sad along with my other BFF so we sat together. We looked at the table that the new girl and the other BFFs were sitting at and they were laughing and having fun while me and the other bff was left alone sad mumbling about stuff. 🙁 🙂 but we were still BFFs.