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March 19, 2020

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF

Dear Nikki,

I have a hard time liking myself. Sometimes it’s like I don’t have any talents and my friends don’t like me. There’s also this guy I like who lives next door to me and we started hanging out a week ago. What should I do?

Miserable Me

Hi Miserable Me! If we were friends off the web, I’d grab you by the shoulders, shake you a little, and say, “Girlfriend…you’re awesome, so own it!!”

But since we’re virtual buddies, let me just say I get where you’re coming from…but you don’t have to stay there!

It sounds like you’re having a confidence problem. We ALL deal with that every now and then! I felt super insecure when I first got to WCD and SOME PEOPLE started treating me like grimy gum on the bottom of a Jimmy Choo flip flop!

As for feeling bad because you don’t have any talent…maybe you do, but you just don’t know it yet.

Before I got into art, I had NO IDEA I’d be so awesome at it that people would be BEGGING me to do fake tattoos for them.

There’s probably something YOU’RE awesome at too! You just have to try new things and give yourself time to figure it out!

As for your friends, you probably think they don’t like you because YOU’RE not feeling great about yourself.

I remember this one time when I accidentally dropped Chloe’s iPod touch in the sink. (Note to self: brush teeth first and THEN listen to tunes…)

I felt so guilty about it…like I was a HORRIBLE friend! I thought for sure she was totally mad at me, but really I was the one who was mad at myself.

It’s possible it’s the same deal with your friends. Since you feel so insecure, you’re getting paranoid!

I know you mentioned that you’re talking to this guy you like, and that’s awesome! I’m so happy for you!! But I think maybe you should focus on doing stuff to feel better about yourself first.

Try some new hobbies and focus on noticing all the stuff you’re good at. Maybe you’re really good at some subject in school, or you’re an awesome listener, or you make perfect peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. (Hey, it’s an art!!)

Then you’ll like yourself more…AND you’ll feel more confident with your friends…AND you’ll definitely feel more confident around your crush too!

What do you guys think? Do you have any advice for Miserable Me?

Category: Ask Nikki Tags: self-esteemnikki

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Comments

  1. Anonymous says

    April 2, 2020 at 11:02 am

    Just be yourself! Your talent doesn’t have to be like a CCP!

  2. Heart Doctor-FOLLOW YOUR DREAM says

    April 2, 2020 at 11:01 am

    Miserable You! Miserable You! Just enjoy being yourself and don’t act like MacKenzie is around! Just be you! Follow your dreams! Have a good imagination and listen to what your heart is saying!

  3. Dimond Dork says

    April 2, 2020 at 10:00 am

    Same girl

  4. Dorky Fan 101 says

    April 2, 2020 at 8:35 am

    Hi Nikki… My friend seems like she doesn’t like me at all because during lunch break today she left me all by myself!!! I was so sad! Until while we were playing she randomly said we were the bestest of friends?! I don’t know what to do! Is it that I’m just not cool enough, I don’t know! If you have any advice on how you cope with Makenzie pls? BTW if you gave me any advice I’d be like SQEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!! And I’m the biggest fan of DORK Diaries and I’m a dork!

  5. Wow girl says

    April 2, 2020 at 6:47 am

    I am too confident

  6. soso says

    April 2, 2020 at 12:30 am

    Hi Nikki, I hate my life. There is not a girl in my class like Mackenzie But, this boy I like he is dating my BFF, I am happy for her but, it just I like him so much. Look the wrost part is I am this super cofadent girl. I asked him if he liked me and he said NO. What shall I do. HELP ME NIKKI, PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  7. Mackenzie says

    April 1, 2020 at 11:59 pm

    I am very happy (most of the time) but I’m super sad when my friends break up!

  8. Tik tok dork says

    April 1, 2020 at 11:00 pm

    Just be yourself you are awesome and talented you can be a really nice girl but people may not see that but just be queen of dorks

  9. WOLFIE GIRL says

    April 1, 2020 at 6:54 pm

    MiSERABLE ME IT’S fine. Besides look just stay calm and BELIEVE In your self just talk to your FRIENDS I’m pretty sure that you and your friends can work it out ( don’t be depressed there is always a bright side)

    P.S: MISERABLE ME NIKKI is correct

    with lots of love WOLFIE GIRL

  10. Zoey's #1 fan says

    April 1, 2020 at 6:30 pm

    OMG!!!!
    It’s nice to know I’m not the only one. Nikki’s right. But grrl… you need loving on, THAT’S for sure! I had the same problem last year… Except I found a couple of girls who felt the same way! Everyone is insecure sometime in their life!!!! u r not the only one!!! And u r luved!!!!!

  11. Anonymous says

    April 1, 2020 at 4:05 pm

    ok

  12. Dork lover says

    April 1, 2020 at 2:49 pm

    I really feel you girl because I’ve been there a lot of times.

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